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      What to do if you get a "Wrong Password" message   01/21/16

      You must reset your password (even if you know it's the right one) before you can sign into the community. Thanks to the upgrade, there's an issue with passwords and signing in. The good news is that you can click here: http://community.grandparents.com/index.php?/lostpassword/ to change your password (it'll let you reuse your old one). If you can't reach the email address connected to your account then please contact the admin at latoya@grandparents.com and I'll help you sort it out. 
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      Anonymous posting is back   01/21/16

      We've removed the extra step that required you to go to the full-page editor to access the anonymous post option. Now, you can reply to a post and toggle the button to post anonymous (see photo below).    Read more on anonymous posting here:    In short, the mods can see who posts as anonymous, we moderate anonymous posts the same as revealed posts, you can reply anonymously to your own topic, you may report anonymous posts.


  1. Administration

    1. Welcome to the Grandparents.com Community!

      The FAQ & some ground rules so everyone can have a fun, safe, and productive experience.

  2. Family Matters

    1. Empty Nest No Longer

      With the stressed economy, and for other reasons too, many parents are finding that their adult children are needing to come back to the elders' homes. Others are dealing with custody issues of grandchildren and children divorcing and needing help. If this is something you're experiencing, come share and give and get support from other in the same boat.

    2. Grandparents Unplugged

      This is a place for grandparents to ask questions or make statements and receive answers and replies from a variety of people. Posters on this board are other grandparents, daughters-in-law, mothers-in-law and those who want to gain a greater understanding of how the 'other folks' feel. You can share what's on your mind, but understand that it's not just grandparents in the room most of the time. I hope that ALL can share their thoughts, feelings, questions and answers without rancor or hatefulness.
      LEAD MODERATORS: Mame925

    3. Grandparents without Grandchildren

      This group is created for grandparents living without their grandchildren. Maybe you have been denied visitation, or maybe you are ill and your child wants to keep your grandchildren away from that reality. Whatever the reason, you suffer great loss and this group is intended for you to share with others in similar situations your pain, insights and frustrations. It's a place to get emotional or informational support or give it to others.

    4. Mothers-in-Law Anonymous

      Dish, vent or ask for advice about the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship.
      LEAD MODERATORS: RoseRed135, SueSTx, Lilypond, PhalenMum

  3. Food

    1. Grandma's Pantry

      Share your favorite recipes and food ideas, and invite others to join in the discussion. Let's get cooking!

  4. Grandparenting

    1. Grandparenting From Afar

      They say distance makes the heart grow fonder...This group is for grandparents whose grandchildren live far away. Join us to discuss everything grandparenting and topics specific to staying in touch from afar.

    2. Grandparents Caring for Grandkids

      Are you a grandparent (or other relative) caregiver? A parent who relies on family daycare? Whether you're raising your grand(relative)kids, helping to raise them or watching them while the parents go to work or school - or a parent dealing with one of these situations - please come in and share your needs and concerns with us. And if you're anyone else who has ideas and opinions on this topic, please come and join us, as well. Together, let's explore the (often unique) ups and downs, ins and outs, joys and challenges of the GP/relative caregiving situation!
      LEAD MODERATORS: rosered135

    3. New Grandparents

      This group is for new grandparents to share and learn from each about the new experience of grandparenting. Experienced grandparents feel free to join and offer your comments. What are you enjoying the most? What are your concerns? How do you give advice without it being taken the wrong way? How do you feel about babysitting? We can't wait to see your comments.

  5. Health & Wellness

    1. 50 Shades of Blue

      This group is for anyone who is now, or has ever, struggled with depression or any other mental health or illness problem, even if it's just a bad case of the blues. It's a safe place to seek or offer support.

    2. Getting Healthy

      Ask questions and share your health experiences with other members. What works for you when it comes to wellness?

  6. Hobbies

    1. Hobby Corner

      Have a passion project? Whether you're crafting, knitting or making soap and candles, this is the place to talk about it! Share your stories, photos and more with fellow hobbyists.

  7. Just For Fun

    1. General Gabbery

      It's not complicated. This Group is a place to sit and have a cup of coffee and shoot the breeze. Let's solve world problemsgrumble with the grouch we live with, tell jokes and stories, post pictures and brag on our kids and grandkids. Got something on your mind? Post it we'll talk about it.

    2. Club Newcomer

      This is a place for newcomers to introduce themselves and learn more about the various features of the site, especially the different Groups available. It's also a place for current members to come in and help welcome the new ones and help them find their niche(s) among the forums.
      LEAD MODERATORS: rosered135

    3. The Great Debate

      Whether it's formula feeding vs. breast feeding, daycare vs. nanny, or spanking vs. time out, everyone has their opinion. This board is where you can state your piece on hot topics.


    4. Book Club

      Share what you're currently reading and what's on your book shelf with other grandparents.

    5. News & Issues

      Current news and events -- talk about them here.

  8. Love & Relationships

    1. All SINGLE golden girls & guys wanted

      Single grandparenting: WHAT A CHALLENGE and WHAT FUN! We are here for each other.
      LEAD MODERATOR: homeygfunk

  • Are you a grandparent?   520 votes

    1. 1. Are you a grandparent?

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      • Neither -- just here to browse

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    • RoseRed135
      Anticipating boundaries vs assertiveness
      These are excellent ideas, IMO. Granted, the "public place" suggestion has come up on these boards before, but not "dilution," that I recall - I think they both can prevent a lot of problems. No doubt, some parents/PILs/GPs would gripe, after a while that they "never get to be alone" w/ their AC's family or "only see them in public places"/"never get invited to their home" (we've seen this one many times here). But that doesn't mean that AC and CIL would "have to" change anything. So, IMO, these ideas are workable. However, since PIC's ILs have CO her and the kids indefinitely, I don't see how this could happen. If they ever want to resume a relationship w/ her and the GC - and if PIC is interested, too - then, IMO, dilution and meeting in public places would be great options.
    • 1004
      Anticipating boundaries vs assertiveness
      Parents in charge, you could start organising once a month gatherings and look wider than family members for your dilution?  For example, inviting them to school events where there are other kids. Gatherings with your neighbours where there are other families and kids.   Failing that, dinners out are good. Public place, time limited. Not an appropriate forum for emotional outbursts and it's difficult to get traction on manipulation tactics.  I think you need to specifically ask your mother in law to stop asking your DS about sleepovers etc, and make sure your DH hears it/sees it. 
    • GrandmaMisti
      Non-Appreciation for Hand Made Gifts
      <hugs> I hear you, Mdgrandma. I think most crafters have had that experience.  I know I did.

      I am a paper crafter and I spent a fortune on making scrapbooks for my first grandchildren.  I bought very beautiful materials that I would have considered too expensive for any other purpose. It was a huge challenge because my children were not terribly interested in photography and I got very few photos - and mostly grainy, out of focus phone photos at that. But I spent hours learning to edit photos to turn what I did get into something special.

      A few years ago I learned that the books "had been lost". I suspect, since there had been no house move, that they became too big and bulky to store. I decided that I was done making books for those children...and honestly, haven't made a single page for grandchildren in the years since.  Instead I turned my attention to cards and pages for my own enjoyment and hand made stationery for my penpals.

      Was I hurt when I found out? Sure I was.  But I also knew that once a gift is given, it belongs to the person it was made for and is no longer any of my concern. It was a hard thing to swallow, but I am much happier doing what pleases me. Unlike needlework, paper crafting is inherently fragile and inherently not useful, so perhaps it was inevitable that I would be making very expensive garbage. So be it I do it for me.  
    • BClark
      What do/did you like - love (?) - about the difficult family member/IL in your life?
      Even though  I complained alot about my MIL. on here . . .i have to say she was a wonderful seamstress  -  we still have her sewing machine and all her many many different colors of spools  of thread and all the items (  some,,, i have no idea what they are . . ha)   that real seamstresses use to make clothes .  We have this large thread container, i guess you'd call it  with handles you can tote around . . with at least 10 slide out trays , all neatly filled with her spools .  Blues in blue tray,  shades of green in the green tray, etc/ etc//all color coded ,   it really is amazing  to me .   She was very fussy with her sewing things .  She made alot of pretty clothes for herself, and made some  clothes for our kids when they were very little . a 3 piece suit for our son that was adorable, and he wore for a few yrs ... pj's for our daughter .. so she was truly a grandmother who loved to sew for  all her grandchildren. 
    • Parentsincharge
      What do/did you like - love (?) - about the difficult family member/IL in your life?
      BSW, This makes perfect sense, and I agree, an important distinction. MIL's over the top niceness has always secretly disgusted me, and I felt badly, but I think in some way I knew it was an act. And thanks for the reading recommendation, I'll check it out. 
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