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    • LatoyaADMIN

      What to do if you get a "Wrong Password" message   01/21/16

      You must reset your password (even if you know it's the right one) before you can sign into the community. Thanks to the upgrade, there's an issue with passwords and signing in. The good news is that you can click here: http://community.grandparents.com/index.php?/lostpassword/ to change your password (it'll let you reuse your old one). If you can't reach the email address connected to your account then please contact the admin at latoya@grandparents.com and I'll help you sort it out. 
    • LatoyaADMIN

      Anonymous posting is back   01/21/16

      We've removed the extra step that required you to go to the full-page editor to access the anonymous post option. Now, you can reply to a post and toggle the button to post anonymous (see photo below).    Read more on anonymous posting here:    In short, the mods can see who posts as anonymous, we moderate anonymous posts the same as revealed posts, you can reply anonymously to your own topic, you may report anonymous posts.


  1. Administration

    1. Welcome to the Grandparents.com Community!

      The FAQ & some ground rules so everyone can have a fun, safe, and productive experience.

  2. Family Matters

    1. Empty Nest No Longer

      With the stressed economy, and for other reasons too, many parents are finding that their adult children are needing to come back to the elders' homes. Others are dealing with custody issues of grandchildren and children divorcing and needing help. If this is something you're experiencing, come share and give and get support from other in the same boat.

    2. Grandparents Unplugged

      This is a place for grandparents to ask questions or make statements and receive answers and replies from a variety of people. Posters on this board are other grandparents, daughters-in-law, mothers-in-law and those who want to gain a greater understanding of how the 'other folks' feel. You can share what's on your mind, but understand that it's not just grandparents in the room most of the time. I hope that ALL can share their thoughts, feelings, questions and answers without rancor or hatefulness.
      LEAD MODERATORS: Mame925

    3. Grandparents without Grandchildren

      This group is created for grandparents living without their grandchildren. Maybe you have been denied visitation, or maybe you are ill and your child wants to keep your grandchildren away from that reality. Whatever the reason, you suffer great loss and this group is intended for you to share with others in similar situations your pain, insights and frustrations. It's a place to get emotional or informational support or give it to others.

    4. Mothers-in-Law Anonymous

      Dish, vent or ask for advice about the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship.
      LEAD MODERATORS: RoseRed135, SueSTx, Lilypond, PhalenMum

  3. Food

    1. Grandma's Pantry

      Share your favorite recipes and food ideas, and invite others to join in the discussion. Let's get cooking!

  4. Grandparenting

    1. Grandparenting From Afar

      They say distance makes the heart grow fonder...This group is for grandparents whose grandchildren live far away. Join us to discuss everything grandparenting and topics specific to staying in touch from afar.
      LEAD MODERATOR: Critter21

    2. Grandparents Caring for Grandkids

      Are you a grandparent (or other relative) caregiver? A parent who relies on family daycare? Whether you're raising your grand(relative)kids, helping to raise them or watching them while the parents go to work or school - or a parent dealing with one of these situations - please come in and share your needs and concerns with us. And if you're anyone else who has ideas and opinions on this topic, please come and join us, as well. Together, let's explore the (often unique) ups and downs, ins and outs, joys and challenges of the GP/relative caregiving situation!
      LEAD MODERATORS: rosered135

    3. New Grandparents

      This group is for new grandparents to share and learn from each about the new experience of grandparenting. Experienced grandparents feel free to join and offer your comments. What are you enjoying the most? What are your concerns? How do you give advice without it being taken the wrong way? How do you feel about babysitting? We can't wait to see your comments.

  5. Health & Wellness

    1. 50 Shades of Blue

      This group is for anyone who is now, or has ever, struggled with depression or any other mental health or illness problem, even if it's just a bad case of the blues. It's a safe place to seek or offer support.

    2. Getting Healthy

      Ask questions and share your health experiences with other members. What works for you when it comes to wellness?

  6. Hobbies

    1. Hobby Corner

      Have a passion project? Whether you're crafting, knitting or making soap and candles, this is the place to talk about it! Share your stories, photos and more with fellow hobbyists.

  7. Just For Fun

    1. General Gabbery

      It's not complicated. This Group is a place to sit and have a cup of coffee and shoot the breeze. Let's solve world problems, tell jokes and stories, post pictures and brag on our kids and grandkids. Got something on your mind? Post it we'll talk about it.

    2. Club Newcomer

      This is a place for newcomers to introduce themselves and learn more about the various features of the site, especially the different Groups available. It's also a place for current members to come in and help welcome the new ones and help them find their niche(s) among the forums.
      LEAD MODERATORS: rosered135

    3. The Great Debate

      Whether it's formula feeding vs. breast feeding, daycare vs. nanny, or spanking vs. time out, everyone has their opinion. This board is where you can state your piece on hot topics.


    4. Book Club

      Share what you're currently reading and what's on your book shelf with other grandparents.

    5. News & Issues

      Current news and events -- talk about them here.

  8. Love & Relationships

    1. All SINGLE golden girls & guys wanted

      Single grandparenting: WHAT A CHALLENGE and WHAT FUN! We are here for each other.
      LEAD MODERATOR: homeygfunk

  • Are you a grandparent?   216 votes

    1. 1. Are you a grandparent?

      • I'm a grandparent
      • I'm not a grandparent, but I am a parent (SIL/DIL)
      • Neither -- just here to browse

    Please sign in or register to vote in this poll. View topic
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    • Cupcake55
      What Should DIL Do?
      LOL...at least she spoke to you, oh, I guess it was different telling of your plans to marry vs, telling her of your marriage. When DH and I got married we eloped (got tired of the whole thing becoming more of a circus, than something it should have been), I figured to tick everyone off instead of having it held over my head my/our whole marriage that MY family was there and IL's weren't and so it could never be said that "at least HER parents were invited" so we didn't tell my folks or DH's folks. We just went and got married. When DH called his folks to tell them, MIL absolutely refused to speak to him. I guess, that should have been my FIRST clue... She has never asked us about it and probably has assumed all these years MY folks were there so the start of her anger toward me not knowing anything but still holding it over my/our heads. We've been married 25 years...more than half our lives. But looking back over the years, hindsight is always 20/20, I see incidents like this she has been harboring, not having a clue what the truth is but not willing to ask either. I guess it's easier to just hold a grudge for some folks.
    • ImpishMom
      MIL's multiple requests with 1-1 time with grandkids
      Which, to someone as inappropriate as your MIL, would be percieved as a hoop. She took gifts from a toddler, at freaking Christmas. Seriously, I'm just boggled by that one. Please tell me she's not welcome Christmas morning anymore...
    • goyapink
      MIL's multiple requests with 1-1 time with grandkids
      I meant that I don't have hoops or something that she has to jump through. That she has to build that relationship with the kids and DH and I can be in the room.
    • ImpishMom
      Life's not fair?
      I hear stories like that, and I always want to suggest someone get a spray bottle, or water gun, and squirt the heck out of someone acting like a rabid grabbypants when it comes to babies/children.  Or a can with pebbles. Or air horn. Or firehose. Whatever.
    • britomart
      MIL's multiple requests with 1-1 time with grandkids
      No one is owed alone time with your kids and I certainly wouldn't allow alone time with someone like your MIL who is such a nut that she takes toys away from a toddler so the toddler will pay attention to her.  Geez what a freakjob!  Why would you allow alone time with her?  So she can take more toys away from your kids so they can stroke her ego?  No.  Just no.  You kids' job is not to make your MIL feel like Grandma of the Year.   First, I would discuss this with DH and talk to him about how disturbing it is that she takes things away from the kids so they can stroke her ego.  That's bizarre and messed up.  A person who does that is not an appropriate caregiver.  I'd have to have a serious sit-down with DH to discuss how it would be inappropriate to let his mother have alone time with the kids from here on out.  And then I would discuss with him whether you (as a couple) just prefer to keep telling her "no" when she asks or to point blank tell her that you don't trust her as a caregiver due to her need to have the kids stroke her ego.  
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