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      What to do if you get a "Wrong Password" message   01/21/16

      You must reset your password (even if you know it's the right one) before you can sign into the community. Thanks to the upgrade, there's an issue with passwords and signing in. The good news is that you can click here: http://community.grandparents.com/index.php?/lostpassword/ to change your password (it'll let you reuse your old one). If you can't reach the email address connected to your account then please contact the admin at latoya@grandparents.com and I'll help you sort it out. 
    • LatoyaADMIN

      Anonymous posting is back   01/21/16

      We've removed the extra step that required you to go to the full-page editor to access the anonymous post option. Now, you can reply to a post and toggle the button to post anonymous (see photo below).    Read more on anonymous posting here:    In short, the mods can see who posts as anonymous, we moderate anonymous posts the same as revealed posts, you can reply anonymously to your own topic, you may report anonymous posts.

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  1. Administration

    1. Welcome to the Grandparents.com Community!

      The FAQ & some ground rules so everyone can have a fun, safe, and productive experience.

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  2. Family Matters

    1. Empty Nest No Longer

      With the stressed economy, and for other reasons too, many parents are finding that their adult children are needing to come back to the elders' homes. Others are dealing with custody issues of grandchildren and children divorcing and needing help. If this is something you're experiencing, come share and give and get support from other in the same boat.
      LEAD MODERATORS: ADMIN

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    2. Grandparents Unplugged

      This is a place for grandparents to ask questions or make statements and receive answers and replies from a variety of people. Posters on this board are other grandparents, daughters-in-law, mothers-in-law and those who want to gain a greater understanding of how the 'other folks' feel. You can share what's on your mind, but understand that it's not just grandparents in the room most of the time. I hope that ALL can share their thoughts, feelings, questions and answers without rancor or hatefulness.
      LEAD MODERATORS: Mame925

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    3. Grandparents without Grandchildren

      This group is created for grandparents living without their grandchildren. Maybe you have been denied visitation, or maybe you are ill and your child wants to keep your grandchildren away from that reality. Whatever the reason, you suffer great loss and this group is intended for you to share with others in similar situations your pain, insights and frustrations. It's a place to get emotional or informational support or give it to others.
      LEAD MODERATORS: ADMIN

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    4. Mothers-in-Law Anonymous

      Dish, vent or ask for advice about the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship.
      LEAD MODERATORS: RoseRed135, SueSTx, Lilypond, PhalenMum

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  3. Food

    1. Grandma's Pantry

      Share your favorite recipes and food ideas, and invite others to join in the discussion. Let's get cooking!
      LEAD MODERATORS: SueSTx

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  4. Grandparenting

    1. Grandparenting From Afar

      They say distance makes the heart grow fonder...This group is for grandparents whose grandchildren live far away. Join us to discuss everything grandparenting and topics specific to staying in touch from afar.
       

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    2. Grandparents Caring for Grandkids

      Are you a grandparent (or other relative) caregiver? A parent who relies on family daycare? Whether you're raising your grand(relative)kids, helping to raise them or watching them while the parents go to work or school - or a parent dealing with one of these situations - please come in and share your needs and concerns with us. And if you're anyone else who has ideas and opinions on this topic, please come and join us, as well. Together, let's explore the (often unique) ups and downs, ins and outs, joys and challenges of the GP/relative caregiving situation!
      LEAD MODERATORS: rosered135

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    3. New Grandparents

      This group is for new grandparents to share and learn from each about the new experience of grandparenting. Experienced grandparents feel free to join and offer your comments. What are you enjoying the most? What are your concerns? How do you give advice without it being taken the wrong way? How do you feel about babysitting? We can't wait to see your comments.
      LEAD MODERATORS: ADMIN

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  5. Health & Wellness

    1. 50 Shades of Blue

      This group is for anyone who is now, or has ever, struggled with depression or any other mental health or illness problem, even if it's just a bad case of the blues. It's a safe place to seek or offer support.
      LEAD MODERATORS: ADMIN

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    2. Getting Healthy

      Ask questions and share your health experiences with other members. What works for you when it comes to wellness?

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  6. Hobbies

    1. Hobby Corner

      Have a passion project? Whether you're crafting, knitting or making soap and candles, this is the place to talk about it! Share your stories, photos and more with fellow hobbyists.

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  7. Just For Fun

    1. General Gabbery

      It's not complicated. This Group is a place to sit and have a cup of coffee and shoot the breeze. Let's solve world problems, tell jokes and stories, post pictures and brag on our kids and grandkids. Got something on your mind? Post it we'll talk about it.
      LEAD MODERATORS: SueSTx

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    2. Club Newcomer

      This is a place for newcomers to introduce themselves and learn more about the various features of the site, especially the different Groups available. It's also a place for current members to come in and help welcome the new ones and help them find their niche(s) among the forums.
      LEAD MODERATORS: rosered135

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    3. The Great Debate

      Whether it's formula feeding vs. breast feeding, daycare vs. nanny, or spanking vs. time out, everyone has their opinion. This board is where you can state your piece on hot topics.

      PLEASE READ THE WELCOME MESSAGE BEFORE YOU POST HERE

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    4. Book Club

      Share what you're currently reading and what's on your book shelf with other grandparents.

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    5. News & Issues

      Current news and events -- talk about them here.

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  8. Love & Relationships

    1. All SINGLE golden girls & guys wanted

      Single grandparenting: WHAT A CHALLENGE and WHAT FUN! We are here for each other.
      LEAD MODERATOR: homeygfunk

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  • Are you a grandparent?   356 votes

    1. 1. Are you a grandparent?


      • I'm a grandparent
      • I'm not a grandparent, but I am a parent (SIL/DIL)
      • Neither -- just here to browse

    Please sign in or register to vote in this poll. View topic
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    • Mame925
      I've dropped the rope and now complications
      I don't know if you are guilty of a faux pas or just combining everything into one trip....you need to pick up the fridge, they want to do dinner....you are taking on the heavier load in this by going to their home to get the fridge. You aren't asking them to entertain you in their home....y'all are still going OUT for dinner. If they say "no" to the fridge pick up, then so be it....just do dinner 1/2 way and ask when its convenient to pick up the fridge. These "vague" (controllers, lol) are just waiting for you to ask permission to do their bidding....seriously. And its really easy to get sucked in. DH's mom was a very difficult personality. She didn't especially like me, but when I brought this up to DH he said "well, she doesn't especially like me either"....but he was old school...only son (happens to oldest sons also) takes care of his mother....I'd have never moved her in with us (same for my mother), but helped him make sure she was well cared for. I supervised her medical care without her knowing, got her better Medicare plan that saved her hundreds of $$$, and only once had to butt in on her care. She was diabetic and decided she had an ingrown toenail....was trying to get someone to clip it for her....I did set up an appointment with the podiatrist so she didn't make a mess and get an infection in her foot. I just told her "they make people who do that, I'll set it up". I did suggest he invite her to dinner, he suggested it from time to time as well. She did like my cooking. Its easy for any of us to suggest the big CO....but this is my DH's mother...and as long as she wasn't seriously toxic (think IMP's situation) it can be fairly easy to maintain a LC relationship. He put up with mine the same way. VLC with mine was the way to go.
    • shoppingninja
      Is this behaviour common in new parents nowadays?
      "better to ask for forgiveness than permission" Well, as long as one knows that when they're asking, there's more than one possible answer.  If you ask for permission, you may get a no.  Same if you ask for forgiveness (with the unspoken reconciliation attached to said forgiveness).  My own MIL is in time out for an indefinite amount of time (3 years and counting) because she deliberately went against our boundaries, knew she was doing so when it happened.  
    • SueSTx
      I've dropped the rope and now complications
      I think sometimes being the parent of adults is harder than it needs to be.  We often are told to treat them like a peer, but are we treated like peers also? Sometimes it is just easier not to communicate at all instead of worrying about whether or not we might commit a foopah.
    • skipped
      I've dropped the rope and now complications
      I totally agree with this.  But it sounds like a ****** if you do and ****** if you don't when you are a MIL.  In another thread someone just posted-  It does hurt to ask.  And I think that is true too.  I'm starting to think maybe I'm guilty of a foopah.  Just yesterday, son called with a plan to get together and I suggested an alternative to his plan. Son asked us to dinner mid Oct wanted to meet at a restaurant half way.  They just replaced their functional refrigerator for a nicer one and I asked if I could buy it from them for our camp.  It is sitting at their house waiting for me to pick it up as we have the only vehicle large enough to do that.  So I suggested instead of meeting half way we go to their house and go out to dinner and pick up the refrigerator.
    • oscarsmaman
      Is this behaviour common in new parents nowadays?
      Ooo, ooo! I'm late to the party, but I'm guilty of the "better to ask for forgiveness than permission" -- sometimes! Used sparingly, it can be the wise way to go. Trash blown over in the neighbor's yard? I'll go get it. Co-worker who constantly acts like a 7-11 manager on a power trip, preventing progress from being made? I'll work around it. Neighbor's skinny tree branch brushing our heads as we mow the lawn? I don't normally do it, but that sucker's getting broken off. But the annoying phrase my ILs (and sometimes DH) often live by.... "Go ahead! It doesn't hurt to ask!" Oh, it so does hurt to ask. Permit me this imaginary vent at my ILs: Stop asking for more, for better, for longer and for more intense. Stop hustling people for better seats, extra nacho chips to take home, further discounts on discounted fares. Stop asking hosts to waylay their plans for your plans, as you highjack the get-together for your own selfish purposes. Stop asking my DH why I never call you, never want to go to lunch with you, why we don't have you down.
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