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    • LatoyaADMIN

      What to do if you get a "Wrong Password" message   01/21/16

      You must reset your password (even if you know it's the right one) before you can sign into the community. Thanks to the upgrade, there's an issue with passwords and signing in. The good news is that you can click here: http://community.grandparents.com/index.php?/lostpassword/ to change your password (it'll let you reuse your old one). If you can't reach the email address connected to your account then please contact the admin at latoya@grandparents.com and I'll help you sort it out. 
    • LatoyaADMIN

      Anonymous posting is back   01/21/16

      We've removed the extra step that required you to go to the full-page editor to access the anonymous post option. Now, you can reply to a post and toggle the button to post anonymous (see photo below).    Read more on anonymous posting here:    In short, the mods can see who posts as anonymous, we moderate anonymous posts the same as revealed posts, you can reply anonymously to your own topic, you may report anonymous posts.


  1. Administration

    1. Welcome to the Grandparents.com Community!

      The FAQ & some ground rules so everyone can have a fun, safe, and productive experience.

  2. Family Matters

    1. Empty Nest No Longer

      With the stressed economy, and for other reasons too, many parents are finding that their adult children are needing to come back to the elders' homes. Others are dealing with custody issues of grandchildren and children divorcing and needing help. If this is something you're experiencing, come share and give and get support from other in the same boat.

    2. Grandparents Unplugged

      This is a place for grandparents to ask questions or make statements and receive answers and replies from a variety of people. Posters on this board are other grandparents, daughters-in-law, mothers-in-law and those who want to gain a greater understanding of how the 'other folks' feel. You can share what's on your mind, but understand that it's not just grandparents in the room most of the time. I hope that ALL can share their thoughts, feelings, questions and answers without rancor or hatefulness.
      LEAD MODERATORS: Mame925

    3. Grandparents without Grandchildren

      This group is created for grandparents living without their grandchildren. Maybe you have been denied visitation, or maybe you are ill and your child wants to keep your grandchildren away from that reality. Whatever the reason, you suffer great loss and this group is intended for you to share with others in similar situations your pain, insights and frustrations. It's a place to get emotional or informational support or give it to others.

    4. Mothers-in-Law Anonymous

      Dish, vent or ask for advice about the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship.
      LEAD MODERATORS: RoseRed135, SueSTx, Lilypond, PhalenMum

  3. Food

    1. Grandma's Pantry

      Share your favorite recipes and food ideas, and invite others to join in the discussion. Let's get cooking!

  4. Grandparenting

    1. Grandparenting From Afar

      They say distance makes the heart grow fonder...This group is for grandparents whose grandchildren live far away. Join us to discuss everything grandparenting and topics specific to staying in touch from afar.

    2. Grandparents Caring for Grandkids

      Are you a grandparent (or other relative) caregiver? A parent who relies on family daycare? Whether you're raising your grand(relative)kids, helping to raise them or watching them while the parents go to work or school - or a parent dealing with one of these situations - please come in and share your needs and concerns with us. And if you're anyone else who has ideas and opinions on this topic, please come and join us, as well. Together, let's explore the (often unique) ups and downs, ins and outs, joys and challenges of the GP/relative caregiving situation!
      LEAD MODERATORS: rosered135

    3. New Grandparents

      This group is for new grandparents to share and learn from each about the new experience of grandparenting. Experienced grandparents feel free to join and offer your comments. What are you enjoying the most? What are your concerns? How do you give advice without it being taken the wrong way? How do you feel about babysitting? We can't wait to see your comments.

  5. Health & Wellness

    1. 50 Shades of Blue

      This group is for anyone who is now, or has ever, struggled with depression or any other mental health or illness problem, even if it's just a bad case of the blues. It's a safe place to seek or offer support.

    2. Getting Healthy

      Ask questions and share your health experiences with other members. What works for you when it comes to wellness?

  6. Hobbies

    1. Hobby Corner

      Have a passion project? Whether you're crafting, knitting or making soap and candles, this is the place to talk about it! Share your stories, photos and more with fellow hobbyists.

  7. Just For Fun

    1. General Gabbery

      It's not complicated. This Group is a place to sit and have a cup of coffee and shoot the breeze. Let's solve world problemsgrumble with the grouch we live with, tell jokes and stories, post pictures and brag on our kids and grandkids. Got something on your mind? Post it we'll talk about it.

    2. Club Newcomer

      This is a place for newcomers to introduce themselves and learn more about the various features of the site, especially the different Groups available. It's also a place for current members to come in and help welcome the new ones and help them find their niche(s) among the forums.
      LEAD MODERATORS: rosered135

    3. The Great Debate

      Whether it's formula feeding vs. breast feeding, daycare vs. nanny, or spanking vs. time out, everyone has their opinion. This board is where you can state your piece on hot topics.


    4. Book Club

      Share what you're currently reading and what's on your book shelf with other grandparents.

    5. News & Issues

      Current news and events -- talk about them here.

  8. Love & Relationships

    1. All SINGLE golden girls & guys wanted

      Single grandparenting: WHAT A CHALLENGE and WHAT FUN! We are here for each other.
      LEAD MODERATOR: homeygfunk

  • Are you a grandparent?   771 votes

    1. 1. Are you a grandparent?

      • I'm a grandparent
      • I'm not a grandparent, but I am a parent (SIL/DIL)
      • Neither -- just here to browse

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    • AlfieG
      If you've been cut off by your adult son or daughter and family... possible triggers...
      no doubt a therapist would help but I cannot afford it That is why I am here to be able to let off steam, explain without being judged, and just somewhere where people understand what I am feeling
    • Mame925
      What is the "best" help a GP can give
      Congrats on the pending arrival!  I'd make my first step an open discussion with your AC/CIL about what they'd like to see happen. In my case I haven't been "expected" to pay for anything other than the gifts I give...I do have some bonds/CDs set aside to help with college "incidentals", but since I have 9 GK, paying tuition is not feasible. My mom contributed to a spring break trip for DD to Spain one year, surprised me silly! Her gift was appreciated, however.  In my situation I've started the learning to cook curve, my gifts are geared toward interests (#2GG, age 5, is a budding fashion designer...as part of her next bday gift I have her favorite sketch to copy into an actual garment for her to wear).  Ask them what kind of participation they'd prefer...just get the discussion rolling, keep it open as best you can most of all, be flexible!
    • pearlj
      What is the "best" help a GP can give
      We asked our son and dil how we could help and I was asked to come when the baby was 3 months old and stay a month.  We plan on moving closer soon and we have asked how we can help and talked about expectations .  I have my own expectations that I have struggled with because my dil and I are from different cultures and she is hard to read sometimes but I'm trying to go with the flow .
    • skipped
      What is the "best" help a GP can give
      It looks like I might be a GM.  My YS and DIL are trying to adopt.   The process is coming along.  It's slow.  But coming. Planning ahead.  I'd say our relationship is OK. now.  DIL is moody (son too but not as bad).  I've just learned to accept it and not take it personal.  They live long distance and I'm not sure how much babysitting I could do even if they wanted it. I didn't have a PGM.  I had a MGM and my sister and I  were the only GC.  In addition to BD and Xmas gifts  my MGM bought our clothes and paid for things like piano lessons.  My mom was a SAH mom so no babysitting except on occasion.  She also helped with some of my college expenses.  My mother pretty much just bought a BD and Christmas gift. A bond wih each for college.  She babysat full time for my sister.  I lived too far awayfor that,  but my husbands mother helped out w Babysitting and did all the stuff my MGM did for me- clothes and college.  She really showered them with attention.  Unfortunately she died when the youngest was in 2nd grade. What "help" would you have wanted from your ILs if you had a decent but not great relationship with them?  Should I offer anything or just wait to see how it goes.  Adoption expenses are astronomical, day care is ridiculous.   But on the other hand they are talking private schools, I have no firm opinion, but really do feel that it isn't the best use of money.  Having gone through the decision myself and opting for PS, I think they are "good enough" and not something I personally would want to "donate" to.  I guess I have a few "strings:.  My GM would TAKE us shopping.  I really don't want to hand over cash.  I'd like to enjoy the experience of taking any GC shopping and out to lunch.
    • appleton
      Update on marriage
      Thanks for all the input. I got a referral from his physician for counseling. This last week my son hit a child 2x for "no apparent reason", and I had to talk to the assistant principal about it. this is not normal behavior for him. Yes, he is affected. It was weird because he didn't seem bothered by the situation until a few months ago. but I guess he picks up on more now that he is older.
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