Posted 12 April 2010 - 01:40 PM
Food for thought - you don't say how old the baby is - they could have used up 100% of their sick/vacation/PTO time when the baby was born and simply cannot take time off to visit you while you are here. If she is staying home and your DS is working, he could have very easily done this. She might not feel comfortable enough with you to entertain or host you all day without her DH as a buffer. Also, if the baby is young, she is exhausted and will want to nap when baby naps, or catch up on chores. You say your visit has been planned for 2 months - did you check with them before planning it to make sure it was an okay time and that they would be able to see you during the visit? If the baby is only 2 months old (just hazarding a guess since you planned your visit 2 months ago), they just now are going back to work, and are still trying to settle into a routine. As far as e-mails and phone calls - now you know that isn't how she chooses to communicate. Sounds like she isn't into e-mails, phone calls, or text messages and prefers in-person discussions. You will need to adjust your expectations of her to match what she is willing to give. Curious, though, does your DS call his MIL, talk to her, respond to her e-mails? If the answer is no, why do you expect your DIL to do this? As far as the baby shower invite goes, yes, I think she should have invited you. It sounds like you live out of town? Maybe she just assumed you weren't coming, so why do the (polite) thing and issue an invitation, "knowing" the outcome of the invite already?