Posted 31 August 2010 - 10:29 AM
My sons are now 30 and 31 years old, both new Daddys. The girls they married are two very different people, and yet we all get along pretty well. I joined this group because of its name: Mothers-In-Law Anonymous. I am a MIL, so wanted to hear how other MILs deal with situations as they come up. I mostly read the posts, rarely post myself, because I, thankfully, don't have the horror stories that most people on here have. We get along with both our DILs parents...to the point that we have been on a number of vacations with them on our own...without all the kids. We've also been on vacations with everyone, including all the kids...both sides, both sons, DILs, and their parents all at once. We're waiting now until our new granddaughters are old enough to make a trip so we can plan our next 'family vacation'. I did not teach my sons how to do their own laundry when they were children...until they really needed to know, when they went away to college. However, they both clean their homes now and cook and do the dishes, and do the laundry...equally with their wives. They both see their homes as 'their' homes...not the wife does this, the husband does this. My hubby and I have always taught them this...hubby does some chores I don't like to do, I do some he doesn't like to do, but we pitch in and do it all together. I can see where you would be worried that your sons may grow up to be one of those who is talked about here on the board, but if you do your part to bring your sons up as well as you can, they'll have a better chance of being a good husband, a good father, and you'll all get along. I'll admit it's hard when you have boys and then a girl is brought into the picture. He isn't your little boy any more...he belongs to someone else, and your relationship with him will change. He still will always be my son. The girl was not brought up anything like your son, however, she becomes a part of your family now, and everyone needs to go through adjustments to make it all work.