Posted 29 April 2012 - 03:37 PM
Since when is doing something for your children _selfish_? I'm assuming DIL doesn't play with these toys. Her children do. Its pretty selfish of you to decide what DD should do in her own house. Selfish in terms of you seem to think _her_ house is your house. Or atleast your DD's house. DIL doesn't get to set the standard for her you. You and DD should set that standard in DIL's home. Besides, since your DD is such a good mother, of course she brings plenty of toys, books, and activities to keep her children busy when they go places. DD is a thoughtful and organized mom, so there's no need for other people to provide toys for DD's children to play with. DD has that covbered. DD is so giving and generous, that DD brings toys for DIL's children to play with whenever she visits them. Right? It would be _selfish_ of DD not to think of DIL's children by bringing toys when DIL is nice enough to have DD and her children over. When your guests come over your house, including your grandchildren, you also line up all your best jewelry for the children to play with. Since everyone, including children, loves sparkly things. You clean and put out all your best chains, necklaces, bracelets and shiny rings for the kids to play dress up with. It would be selfish of you if you didn't offer your diamond earrings for your guests to wear when they came to your house.