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    Joyful Exercise, Something Is Always Better Than Nothing.

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    I have just completed the 6th and final episode of the Timeless You series. Joyful Exercise was the subject this time in the inspirational and informative series presented by Deepak Chopra. While I was familiar with much of the content, once again Chopra surprised me with more. He reminds us that regular exercise has been proven again and again to prevent obesity, heart disease, diabetes and cancer and insists that when you pair strength training with cardiovascular exercise, the results are in a word miraculous. Studies show regular strength training reduces incidence and symptoms of arthritis, diabetes, osteoporosis, obesity, falls and depression. Well, I've been a runner for 32 years and am grateful that I have been healthy enough to do it. But it seems that while running and walking are great, it isn't enough. I now know that I need to add strengthening and stretching to the cardio if I want to continue to live my best life. This will be the hard part for me, adding still more to my already busy life but I'm committed to do my best. I want to be all that I can be. I must say I am sorry to see the series end. I have gathered countless " nuggets" of great information along the way. I feel energized and hopeful and have incorporated much of what I have learned in this series into my on life. I have realized the many benefits of water, mediation, stretching, creativity and attitude. My 60th birthday was an eye opener. It was the first time I looked at "the number" and thought about aging. Deepak has shown me that much of my future is in my own hands. In my actions and in my mind. I am after all what I think I am and yes, I think I am growing YOUNGER by the day. Http://www.finallyfinishing.com

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  1. Hi all --

    A writer from Today.com is looking for grandparents who currently work and provides regular childcare for their grandkids. If anyone is interested in being interviewed, please email me at latoya@grandparents.com.

    Thank you!

  2. Well, now my grandson is 11years old and in middle school. He still loves to read (huge sigh of relief), but he also LOVES and LIVES to play video games. Especially the kinds that require acute motor skills, quick thinking and multi-tasking. Not the sort of things I’m that great at now that I’m 70 years old. But I do try and he is very encouraging.  He squeals with amusement when I get frustrated because my avatar “dies”. He particularly enjoys playing Geometry Dash which made me shudder (thoughts of barely passing math still haunt me) until he explained that it didn’t really involve math skills. No, this game was far more challenging than doing equations. 

    ‘It required navigating thru obstacles and collecting strange things that are valuable and pop up out of nowhere, all while avoiding other strange things that will cause your avatar to “die”. Oh, and I must mention that all this happens at the speed of “wait!  What was that?  Did I need that?  Wait, I’m “dead” again?” 

    This causes Jeffery to drop on the floor in spasms of uncontrollable giggles. I’m left staring at the blank screen. “Try it again, Grammies!”  I told you he was encouraging.  After several attempts with Jeffery coaching me, I still can’t master it. I pass the controls over to him, happy for the break. 

    ‘He’s through the first three levels before I realize he’s been “coaching” me with the wrong information.....deliberately sabotaging my efforts for his own amusement.  Smart cookie!  He realized early on that these games are not my forte. They move way too fast for me....but, I am still an integral part of our “play-time”.  I’m comic relief!  As a grandma, I am happy and honored to serve!

  3. RoseRed135
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    While I was driving my granddolls to school this morning, the topic of Halloween came up. All of a sudden, DGD announced, "This is the last year I'm wearing a Halloween costume. I'm getting too old (she's 10)."

    Ohh... A bitter-sweet moment to see her growing up this way. (Not more of a jolt than when she proclaimed a few months ago, that she didn't want any more dolls. She still plays w/ the ones she has, from time to time, but says she's "outgrowing" them and is "too old" - that expression again! - for any others.) I understand b/c I began to feel the same way around her age (yes, about dolls, too). It was hard for DM to take, as, I suppose, I was growing up "too quickly" for her.YDD is having a hard time w/ DGD's new attitude, also, especially perhaps, b/c she continued to wear Halloween costumes way into adulthood, even when she no longer trick or treated (so did her sister.) But she (YDD) is accepting it, thankfully, in a way that it took DM longer to do.

    In fact, come to think of it, I was thrown a little off base when I saw how my DDs clung to some of the activities I gave up/began to give up at an earlier age (though I, too, accepted that their time table was different than mine).. I guess it can be hard to realize that your kids don't feel the same way about this/that as you (general parent) do/did as a child. Oh hey, I'm even having a little bit of a hard time wrapping my mind around the fact that DGD's timetable is a little more like mine and, in those respects, she's maturing faster than my own girls did.

    Interestingly enough, DGS, 2 years her junior, was upset by it. "Please do it one more year," he entreated after DGD made her announcement. I'm not sure why. Maybe he's loathe to "loose" his T or T partner. Or perhaps he's worried that if she stops after 10, it means he will "have to" do that, too. Maybe it's just too much of a reminder that they're doing that scary thing of growing up and moving onward in life.

    "Growing pains," I guess - for both the children and the adults...



    “I’m gonna make the rest of my life, the best of my life.” Eric Thomas



    Everybody has a WHY?




    I got to spend multiple hours of one-on-one time with my father this weekend. It doesn’t happen very often any more, for a number of reasons, and it’s time that I know I savor.  I like to think he does to.  Many of our hours were spent driving, and having that time to talk about anything and everything was relished. We laughed, teased and reminisced, and we also talked about hopes and dreams, our fears and regrets and what the future was going to look like for us and the generations to follow.


    For those of you who have been reading along on our blog, you know that my father is one of the key inspirations for Grand to GREAT’s mission. He inspires me, his family, our friends and his many acquaintances with his vigor and passion for life at almost 90 years of age.  (As a side note, the purpose of our weekend together was to attend the birthday party for another friend’s 90th birthday, and it was certainly a fantastic reminder of everything that makes the Grand to GREAT lifestyle)


    In our conversations this weekend my Dad asked me many questions about my “new business” and what I was trying to do with it.  He thought I was writing a book (I had started to) and wasn’t sure what I planned on doing now if I wasn’t writing the book (I’m not—well not now anyway). He knew I had talked about five basic ideas but he wanted me to remind him of them and he wanted to check them off, to make sure he agreed with everything I was saying.


    Before we got to the “WHAT” of my business, I told him he probably needed to understand the “WHY” a little better.  And I think that’s important for anyone who like me, is trying to share ideas and content with their audience. And so I shared with him the “WHY” of Grand to GREAT, and now I’m going to share it with you too.


    Did you know On January 1, 2011, the oldest Baby Boomers turned 65?  Every day since  and for the next 19 years, about 10,000 more will cross that threshold DAILY.

    By 2030, when all Baby Boomers will have turned 65, fully 18% of the nation’s population will be at least that age.


    Never in the nation’s history has there been such rapid growth in both the“young old” and the “oldest old”.

    As the US Bureau of the Census points out, “Since the oldest old often have severe chronic health problems which demand special attention, the rapid growth of this population group has many implications for individuals, families and governments.”


    Life expectancies have continued to increase and are dramatically different from the generation ahead of the baby boomers. The average life expectancy for a 65-year-old American is 17.7 years for a male and 20.3 years for a female. That represents three to four more years of life expectancy compared to what the prior generation had at the same age. And if you are now 75, you can expect to live another 11 years if you're a man and another 13 years if you're a woman.¹


    Healthy baby boomers are likely to live even longer. “They could live to be 95 easily,” says George Schofield, a developmental psychologist and author of “After 50 It's Up to Us.” While this longevity bonus will give boomers more time to pursue their passions and leave their mark on the world, it’s also additional years of retirement that need to be financed. “They are going to have to find a way to make their income last a lot longer than the earlier generations did,” Schofield says.²


    The statistics are just that—statistical.  It’s easy to ignore and put off the future.  Many baby boomers are delaying retirement out of necessity and many of the highest educated boomers will continue working through their 60’s.  Due to many economic and social reason, the baby boomers perched on the front stoop of old age, are more downbeat than other age groups about the trajectory of their own lives and about the direction of the nation as a whole.³


    Grand to GREAT’s mission is to help people live their best lives from 55 to 105.  We are here to help shift people’s mindsets and to inspire the growing population of ‘seniors’ to take daily action to live better lives.  If you truly understand that you are in control of the quality of your life, and that your life will likely extend for 20, 30 or even 40 more years—don’t you want to make those years count?


    And so I talked to my Dad about the five daily actions again.  MOVE, LEARN, SHARE, GIVE and LET GO.


    He ticked him off on his hand and said, yep—I do them all.


    I said,  “Yes, Dad”—I know.








    ³ http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2010/12/20/baby-boomers-approach-65-glumly/


  5. Hi all,

    I am wondering about something. My son has a friend -since junior high school - who lives a few seconds from our house. Now, my son lives an hour away from here. They now have two kids ( 2 yrs and 1 month). They visit that family often without stopping by at our house or even asking if it's ok to stop by . on facebook I have seen numerous pictures of our granddaughter, son and DIL all dressed up. When they come to our house no pictures are put on facebook and DIL wears jeans with holes etc. Two weeks ago they visited again the friends house and posted a picture of the mother of the friend with the caption: getting some love from Momma --------. At that GD shower people thought of that women being my GD's grandmother and asked me who I was? Don't get me wrong. from day one I have always offered help on anything. Any comments? I think I am going insane. We have been very supportive and understanding in everything DS and DIL wanted to do and did. We love our grandchildren. DIL parents are praised at all times to high heaven by her on Facebook of course. Even my younger son feels left out. HELP

  6. GrandNonna
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    Greetings Grand Nonna's and Poppa's ,

    I enjoyed the winter months and the white holidays , and their ambiance , but most of all my grandchildren . December brought memorable times with my grandson as I bought him ice skating classes , an old fashioned sled, and his one piece long sleeve snow suit of black and blue. It totally rocked to see him feel warm and roll around on either the ice skate ring and or the snow hill. I can only hope this winter his father did not donate it I will chase him down with my rolling pin if he did . Just kidding. Trying to be optimistic, and make humor of some things , my grandson never finished his skate classes as his father pulled him to take him out on the lake and claim to have trained him himself. Glad I can still take him to the rink soon to see how well he learned .

    My granddaughter is a plump little 2 1/2 yr old who loves to attend family concerts, took her and daughter to rib fest and to a couple of carnivals with music. She loves dancing and does quite well I must admit. The absent grandfather was notified and has may years of family connecting to work out . While he is taking some interest our darling daughter is not. I pray for unity and peace and forgiveness and that God gives him the wisdom to make up for his abandonment .

    As far as the visitation goes I get it for days at a time and then don't for weeks at a time. DD called me today to clue me in on an American Doll doll that came to the resale store she volunteers at and wants me to buy it . With her discount of course... let me dash right on over and purchase it and scat back home and hope you let me be her sitter instead of my grandsons father who enjoys taking my place . No he is not the father of both just the grandson.I no longer acknowledge him per a friends suggestion. So when I arrive to pick the kids up I stay focused on eye contact with only DD , GS, or GD , do not look at him , speak to him , or wave at him. Why ... ok . Well.. GS told me his father has offered him wine. I guess I just am sickened by this loser . Now telling his son he is back to his old job. A photographer. Someday GS will ask his father how to do taxes . Cough cough!

    Meanwhile DD is back on track working , enjoying her job and volunteering , hoping to get a place of her own or ... plan to move back home and help get us into a larger home.Sorry I have not

    been on here much . Been trying to focus and organize my life love and always on the lookout for a house rental . January is the deadline goal. WIsh me luck! And oh! Happy belated independence day , memorial day , fathers and mother day , easter, valentines day , new year and christmas.


  7. Roxie01966
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    I am about to enter a new chapter of my life. Retirement. I've made this decision without any of the angst or discomfort that I thought I would feel. People I know that have retired before me have said that I "will know when it is time". I know without reservation that it is indeed.....TIME. I have held a job not a career in the public school system for over 25 years. It is my turn to move on and move out and make room for the younger generation to take over. It is now my opportunity to slow the pace and as they say and "smell the roses". I am looking forward to enjoying the things that I love but have not had time to do and try my hand at few new prospects too. I've been working nearly 50 years, starting with my first babysitting job at 12 years old; I'm done. I am well aware that I am one of the lucky ones, my husband of 41 years is alive and well and we enjoy spending time together. My 88 year old mother is doing great too but now needs a bit more help these days. She is sweet and kind and funny and it will be a pleasure spending more time with her. Frankly, I can not wait for my new life to begin. My daughter and her family are relocating. They are coming home and I will help her part time with childcare. I am thrilled; finally my three grandchildren will all be nearby. I have a large extended family, many interests and hobbies and a few good friends. How fortunate I am to be retiring on my own terms and not have to terminate due to illness or position cuts. My last day of work was just over a week ago and it has been a whirlwind of events ever since. This has been the long goodbye if I ever saw one. Between the end of the school year activities, tearful congratulations and my retirement party I am definitely "feeling the love"! People keep asking me how I feel and honestly all I can say is "I don't know", I have never felt this way before. I have never, in my adult life at least, known what it is like not to have to go to work. I just can't put a label on how I feel.

    A favorite quotes from Eleanor Roosevelt keeps coming to mind though,

    "Life was meant to be lived, and curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason turn his back on life.


  8. ChameleonJohn's Blog

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    If you are thinking about enjoying winters, you need to know that the right clothes and accessories are required to help you serve the purpose. That is not all. If you are wearing comfortable clothes, you can experience breathtaking landscapes and snow sports.

    So, read on and be sure that you are wearing comfortable clothes that can help you enjoy the winters.

    Block the wind

    Wearing outerwear, you can be sure that you are blocking the wind from affecting you. This helps in keeping you connected to your activity, and you can explore many spots. Wearing the right outerwear, you need to be sure of the quality. There are a number of sellers offering substandard outerwear. Beware! Buy them from reputed sources only. In the online space, Nordstrom is one of the many options available for you. So, have a look at their collection. They are not only offering quality outerwear, but also have a section for items on sale. Apart from it, you can save by checking out exclusive deals and offers available at Nordstrom. TIP: If you are still not at par with the cost, checkout coupon sites where you can get coupons and promo codes for your purchases. Using them, you can get the best bargains on many online stores, including Nordstrom.

    Winter car kit

    Well, most of us have it because we know how important it is. However, some people avoid it because it is rarely used. Don’t do that! Be sure that you have a winter car survival kit in your car. What should be included in this kit? Some warm clothes, extra pair of warm socks, warm blanket, gloves, emergency light, car charger, etc. This kit can potentially bail you out of a difficult situation.

    Protect yourself with accessories

    You know that frostbite is an issue faced by many people during winters, especially while undergoing an activity outdoors. So, get some winter hats, gloves and boots. It will help you be safe during winters. To be frank, you need to protect every part of your body. Winter hats can help you protect your head, while a face mask can be useful in protecting your face against cold and windy conditions. Gloves, of course, they will keep your hands warm and winter boots keep your feet warm.

    If even one of these accessories is missing, you need to buy them at the earliest. If you are making a combined purchase, Nordstrom coupon codes should be helpful.


    Well, it is not the most important thing, but can help you stay warm. However, if you are trekking or engaged in similar activities, keep it tight or don’t wear it. You don’t want that little piece to cause any trouble. So, wear it when the action is halted. It will be helpful.

    On a concluding note, it is important to wear essentials that will give you the strength to continue enjoying your time and, at the same time, will keep you warm.

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    my daughter left the baby's father and now she has to work extra in the evening to make ends meet. she has a full time job and makes good money she just needs to learn how to manage it well.my concern is for my grandson who is only 18 month old he has to adjust living in an apartment and his mom working extra and I am worried that he will be so confused a to were he spends the night.sometimes it's with me sometimes it's with his dad sometimes it's with his dads family.I have talked with my daughter about this and she said that is what she has to do right now and he will get used to it eventually.I am a new grandmother he is my first grandchild and naturally I'm worried.is there somebody in the same situation who can give me advice on how to best handle the whole thing.

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    Hi all,

    I'd like to propose a discussion about whether or not grandparents have explicit legal rights with respect to grandchildren. It seems there is a lot of misinformation or conflicting information out there on the net.

    Here's an example:

    This Grandparents Visitation Rights article asserts that, "Under current Maine law, you may ask a court to give you the right to see your grandchildren. But you must meet several legal tests. This page explains the general rules."

    The article goes on to describe how grandparents must demonstrate at least one of the following:

    · At least one of the child's parents or legal guardians has died; or

    · You have a "sufficient existing relationship" with your grandchild; or

    · You do not have a sufficient existing relationship but you have made a "sufficient effort" to have such a relationship.

    Now, this seems opposite to another grandparents rights article I read, which talks about how the Toxel V. Granville supreme court ruling decided state laws which affected a parent's fundamental right to the "care, custody and control of their children" were unconstitutional. The article said, "According to Toxel V. Granville, 527 U.S. 1069, (1999), no third party may petition for child visitation rights when the parents are fit and object. However, there may be times when the courts order grandparent visitation. This may be granted when the courts deem it within the best interest of the child."

    With this in mind, do you believe grandparents actually have legal rights with respect to grandchildren??

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    Hello, I was wondering, how to react when my 4 year old grandson tells his grandpa he doesn't want to be his buddy anymore. I'm sure some of this is his age and grandpa likes to tease sometimes. Help Thanks Debbi

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    Daughter still living free party lifestyle in Cali 5 years after turning custody over to the Father when got child endangerment felony for selling drugs out of babies stroller with my gs present!later while gs who is now 6 being withheld from school (first grade) & kindergarten too, no immunizations & a frazzled GP on edge of visitation rights because Dad knows I'm finally serious after attempting to have visiting papers served on him!& he of course evaded, so says he says will work with me as doesn't want courts involved!! It's been hard to not report to CPS, but fear of losing all contact too great! God works miracles so in meantime I'm keeping lines of communication open! I have continued visits for 5 years every 2-3 months$$$, at attorneys advice, some days feel like just paying my attorney's mortgage payment with no results!!!

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    I have temporary custody of my granddaughter. Its a long story. How do I help my granddaughter handle only seeing her mom on weekends? She goes to therapy. She was only seeing her at my house. Now that she spends the weekends it seams like its worse for her. She cried so much tonight she gave herself a head ache. Please if anyone has some input help me.

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    I once saw a facebook post and it was of a tombstone with a DOB and DOD titled something like

    "How did you spend your dash"?

    I am curious to find out What memories of yourself are you leaving your family and How?

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    This is a 'good' year for me. I'm just getting a little teary eyed, but it's manageable. Some years I'm upset for days before this anniversary.

    I was in lower Manhattan on that awful day 13 years ago. Some co-workers and I were already in the office, about 6 blocks away from the World Trade Center.

    I remember looking out our 6th floor window to see papers floating all over the place. When there were parades on Broadway, we'd often see the shredded papers floating down our street, but it was too early for a parade, and these were full sheets of paper, like someone had dumped a box of papers out of their windows. I didn't understand what was happening.

    I remember hearing sirens and seeing garbage trucks speeding down the street and couldn't understand why garbage trucks had sirens going.

    Then the calls started coming in. Loved ones calling us to tell us that a small plane had hit one of the towers. While I was on the phone with DH the 2nd plane hit.

    More coworkers started drifting in. These people either came up through the WTC's subways or came over on the ferries from New Jersey. They were covered with dust and walking almost like zombies. People from another of our buildings, much closer started showing up in our office. My Manager was on the ferry and saw people falling from the Tower.

    My company (a major financial firm) had emergency plans in place and implemented them quickly. We were told to (as they say now) shelter in place until we were told differently. Some of us went to the Duane Reade (pharmacy) downstairs and bought bottled water. I was told it was my idea, but I don't remember suggesting it.

    I think I remember hearing the 1st building collapse. A few minutes later a horrible dark "cloud" came rolling down water street. If you've ever seen the movie "Dante's Peak", think about the scene where they are driving as quickly as they can away from the volcanic cloud and you'lll have a good idea of what the cloud I was looking at was like. After the 2nd building went down, the cloud was white.

    We stayed in place until those clouds rolled past. Then we were told to leave. There were 4 of us that stayed together as we walked. We had our water. We took only what we needed and couldn't 'afford' to leave behind. We walked up to and across the Brooklyn Bridge. It's hard to describe what it was like approaching the bridge. No cars. Essentially t he only noise were the people walking. There was very little talking. Turning to look at where the towers had once stood to see only column of black smoke was heart rending.

    One scary part was when we got about 1/2 way across the bridge we saw a plane. THERE WEREN"T SUPPOSED TO BE ANY PLANES FLYING. Until one of the people in my group saw that it was a US military plane (if I'm remembering correctly) I was terrified. What if it was going to attack? I knew that I'd be okay if I landed in the water.. .and the bridge didn't collapse on me... but what about the coworker who was handicapped? What would happen to her?

    We finally made it across to Brooklyn. National Guard had already been mobilized and were out there helping those who needed it and directing the rest of us to places we could get water and first aid.

    My company was wonderful. They opened their location closest to the bridge to those of us coming out of Manhattan. They provided food and shelter to those of us who had no way of getting home since the subways and LIRR weren't running. Finally transportation started up again and our little band of 4 continued our journey. We dropped to of our party and the subway and the other person and I continued on to the railroad. Because of the crowds, people were lined up outside of the station, single file. There was silence on the line. There was no panicked pushing or shoving. We all waited our turn to get on any train that was heading east. I was very lucky in so many ways that day, including the fact that the train I got on was for my line!

    When I got home all I did was sit in my room. I couldn't watch the news coverage. I couldn't eat (first time EVER I lost my appetite instead of turning to food for comfort!). DD got home and gave me a huge hug. DS got home and wondered why I was so upset since I was "on the other side of Manhattan".

    My company gave us a week off with pay and then allowed us to work from home for another week. After that they provided alternate office space for another week. The stench in the subways lasted for months. Knowing what we were smelling made those commutes horrendous. Slowly but surely things began to feel normal again. It was good to be with my coworkers again. It was good to know that no one in my company was lost that horrible day. Sadly, people I knew did lose loved ones.

    Today is a day to remember the tragedy. It's a day to remember those we have lost. It is also a day to remember our loved ones who are still with us, by the grace of G-d or the Universe or whatever higher power you believe in (if you do).

  17. Yes, we made our first trip with granddaughter to the zoo; not sure what/how mom had been preparing her but all the way down (it's in the next city over - couple hour trip away) she kept talking about what she wanted to see

    But...first, we - well, most of us - glad the snake house was shut down - but then we first went to the bird area - uh, not interested, except a little in the house where you can actually feed them and they'll come sit on your shoulder but she still wasn't too interested

    Then the primate house - did I say monkeys? - but she not too interested in those either

    And I was actually getting a little concerned we - the adults - were going to get too hot and tired by then and want to leave before she even got to see what she really wanted - maybe that's a thought for grandparents taking grandchildren, maybe depending on age - she's 3, will be 4 in October - do you really have to see everything?

    But we stopped at the safari café - the outdoor eating place - well, it's under shelter, but no A/C but then it wouldn't be a zoo, would it? and got drinks - remember we're down south - they ran out of sweet tea! oh no so I went back and stood in line to no response until I finally called for a mgr. and got someone to refill it - ok, now we good to go again - oh did have a little incident but we trucked on - and was so worth it all - when - oh wait, we did see the hippo, no good either - but!

    when we finally got to the elephants! then she lit up - was indeed so worth it - she loved it -

    had thought she'd like the camels and they were even offering rides although we didn't pay the extra for that - maybe because she didn't seem interested -

    and then the giraffes - oh yes, sorry, think that's what she'd said she wanted to see -

    no, not too interested in the lions either -

    tigers not too bad - didn't know they loved water - but...

    the zebras...! she wanted to bring one home with her but she was okay with letting it stay there - but she was so fascinated by that striped creature!

    we were afraid that we would have taken so long that that's what she would remember but at least she got to see the good stuff last so - no - she kept saying she had so much fun! it was such a good - beautiful day!

    and, oh, just to kinda go along with some things that are mentioned in the forums different places - this is how that went down - she posted on FB (dil - and yes, we're FB friends, for now - it comes and goes and I rarely mention; often don't even notice if I've gotten busy with other things both there and in rl but things are better now, as in she's feeling better, not that our relationship necessarily changes but can somewhat go up and down depending on how she's feeling and I've somewhat learned, from her, to just roll with it and not really have any expectations, just take what I get and appreciate it - was it here talk about "mismatched expectations" - anyway - she posted about special deal days there and them wanting to go - and then also did mention it on the phone or in person when we talked and somewhere in all this I think I did mention was it something that, since she was mentioning it, did she want or at least not mind us going as well or was this something for just them to do, which would have been fine or even actually last weekend hub had something he'd actually gotten obligated for and with having just found out about it at that point he was not going to cancel, especially because other arrangements to take his place would have had to have been made and he wasn't going to put them in that position for something he'd just found out about, that they hadn't already made plans earlier about but....don't remember why but they ended up not going anyway so when it began to come up again for yesterday, at least it was something he already knew about and didn't have any obligations for, so even though didn't actually ask him until the night before, somewhat because after he'd spent the past 2 nights involved in the same thing - one is a monthly, one is a weekly that he doesn't do every week, not sure why he did that night - guess he felt time to include in family something, especially if it was involving that little granddaughter, especially her first trip to the zoo! also another factor that might have played a part (might?) in our going was son's having vehicle issues that really didn't need to make the trip in it; however, he could probably have taken ours (enmeshment? anyway); he has before for things but he doesn't really like to ask for something like that, especially, so not sure if felt obligated for us to go if they were going to take her but certainly hub by that point wanted to but they didn't have to let us or have to go but it didn't really feel totally like that when we went; we all seemed to enjoy being together and not even just being with granddaughter because, to address another issue that's often brought up - I at least do enjoy being with son as well and I'd like to think hub does as well, though not quite the way I would like but that's another issue and could be another one of those "expectation" things but all in all I think we all felt like we had a very "beautiful" day!

  18. Women Sexual Health and Menopause

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    blog-0723441001407499924.jpgIf you have diabetes and are approaching menopause, then there is some information that will be helpful in helping you manage both of these conditions more effectively. Each condition can bring about it's own unique set of challenges and the combination of the two at once can present additional problems to manage. By knowing what to expect and how you can lessen the risk of complications, going through menopause with diabetes can become highly manageable. If you do not have diabetes but are at a moderate to high risk for developing the condition, there are things that you can do to help prevent it from happening. It is inaction that often leads to dire consequences.

    Symptoms of Diabetes in Menopause

    For women who have no previous diagnosis of diabetes, symptoms that could indicate its onset may be similar to those experienced with menopause. Hot flashes, mood swings and fluctuations in blood sugar levels are common with both conditions. The only way to know which is to blame for certain is to seek medical attention for testing and diagnosis.

    Causes of Diabetes in Menopause

    Genetics play a role in the development of diabetes but this is not the only contributing factor. Although it is still unclear how diabetes comes into play exactly, certain risk factors arise as obvious culprits. Poor nutritional habits, obesity, lack of proper exercise and certain blood sugar conditions can be precursors for diabetes.

    The hormonal changes that occur naturally during menopause can bring on a wide range of symptoms. This is due to a lack of estrogen as the ovaries stop production and fat cells produce it in smaller quantities. The rising and falling of this hormone can wreak havoc on the endocrine system and send the delicate balance of the body's chemistry into a tailspin. This includes hormones affecting your blood sugar levels. You may experience unusual ups and downs in this area that require medical intervention such as more frequent testing and adjustments in any medications that are currently taken.

    Risk Factors for Diabetes during Menopause

    • Weight gain, fluctuating hormone levels and the impacts that menopause can have upon the endocrine system are risk factors associated with the development of diabetes during menopause. For those who go into menopause with a diagnosis of diabetes, there is an increasing risk for further health complications.
    • Diabetes and menopause combine to increase the risks of developing cardiovascular disease. Overproduction of HDL cholesterol may decrease while LDL levels may increase. This is the opposite of what needs to happen to maintain a heart healthy balance. HDL is the good type of cholesterol and LDL is the culprit for heart disease.
    • Fluctuating hormones can create ups and downs in blood sugar readings that make it necessary to adjust the dosages of insulin. Additional testing may be required and medical intervention to determine the proper dosage of medications to control diabetes.

    Medical Diagnosis of Diabetes

    Your physician can run the tests that will measure your blood sugar levels at set intervals. This is the method that is used to determine if you are prediabetic, or have diabetes type 1 or type 2.

    Treatments for Diabetes

    • Treatments depend upon the type of diabetes that you are diagnosed with. For type 1, insulin is taken by injection or pump because the body can no longer produce it. Diet and exercise are also important components in the management of this condition.
    • Type 2 diabetes treatments usually include medication that is used to lower and manage blood sugar levels in combination with exercise and diet plans.
    • Hormone replacement therapy is not recommended as a preventative treatment for diabetes, but it has been found to be helpful in lessening the risk of diabetes in women who have not yet developed this condition. When HRT is used to treat the symptoms of menopause, diabetes prevention is an added bonus.


    Women who have diabetes when entering menopause are better prepared to manage both conditions when they understand the physical changes that are going to take place, and how the two conditions may interact. By maintaining a healthy lifestyle and seeking medical advice as appropriate, diabetes may be successfully navigated through menopause. Women who have not yet developed diabetes, but are at a moderate risk can reduce their risk factors by maintaining a healthy weight, eating a balanced diet, and controlling the symptoms of menopause, if needed through hormone replacement therapy which also lowers the risk of diabetes.

  19. This is the final post of The Making of a "Popsidoodle." As the weeks have gone by since its inception I have found myself increasingly drawn to writing an all poetry blog, and my interest moving toward a canvas wider than "Popsidoodle" afforded me. I thank those who have visited this blog and I invite you to find my work now at my new site: www.ferencepoems.wordpress.com. I end here with a story I believe captures something of the spirit of The Making of a "Popsidoodle."

    Elizabeth and I were kicking back in her room and riding the drafts of imagination wherever they took us. As this particular story unfolded, we were sitting next to her small desk and cutting up downy feathers from a craft variety pack of goodies. I, regrettably, was big-time antsy, a sciatic nerve challenging me to find a comfortable position on one of her child-sized, wooden chairs. Nonetheless, I was enjoying the easy banter and the sudden twists and turns that often come when Elizabeth has taken the lead. We were cutting the feathers up into small bits, as I recall, to create a soft article of clothing for an imaginary store that we were stocking.

    Well, the bag of feathers was a fairly large one and after a while I thought that maybe we had enough cut feathers for the purpose at hand, but she informed me that wasn't the case and so we continued to cut. A little later I again raised that same possibility, and that maybe her room was getting a little bit messy, with fluffy down, by then, flying everywhere. I further threw in the consideration that her parents might be displeased if we cut up all the feathers. Elizabeth didn't even look up at me but continued to cut. Finally, as we just about reached the bottom of the bag and I had thrown out my last obsessive gambit, the philosopher in Elizabeth announced with a thoughtful expression, "You know, life is more important than feathers."

    I'm not sure what Elizabeth had in mind when she uttered those words, but they have stuck in my mind and say much to me about the art and spirituality of grandparenting. Her brief statement points to the value of presence, given and received; of honor and respect, freely shared between generations; of appreciation for the here and now, simple and ordinary; of surrender to the Love calling to us in each, non-repeatable moment. Grandparenting is awesome. May all grandparents reading this find it to be so.

  20. geninusur7@yahoo.com's Blog

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    In some cases, the big, bold design decisions can be correct. It works for accent pieces that you want to draw attention to—like mounted deer heads, pieces of artwork, or even the front door. Loud, bright colors that crowd each other too much, however, make home design feel chaotic and confused. The eye doesn’t have somewhere to rest, and instead jumps from image to image. It’s much better to have a single focal piece per room.

    But there’s more to design than having a single, stand-out accessory and a few coordinating pieces that match. Melissa Rayworth, a writer for Great Falls Tribune, said, “Creating a noteworthy room with subtle, understated elegance is . . . complicated.”

    The balancing act

    If you don’t have enough color in a room, it feels sparse and cold. Designer Brian Patrick Flynn said, “A lack of objects makes a room feel unfinished, and a lack of color can also read of lifeless.” Too much color and you feel overwhelmed and blinded. Bold colors also tend to go out of fashion within a year or two.

    Subtlety in color, focusing on neutrals with a few highlights, can be worth the extra effort it might take to find a good balance, said Flynn. “Every once in a while, it’s nice to have a space that’s just simple and clean,” he said.

    Soften surfaces

    One way to soften a room that feels sparse or cold is by adding warm textures to it. Designer Betsy Burnham of Burnham Design in L.A. said, “Think of a camel cashmere sweater. It’s the simplest thing in the world.” Other fabrics like silk and linen are also soft and breathable, which is exactly what you need when you’re looking to bring a sense of comfort to your home.

    Flynn also suggested having smooth stone surfaces and “broadloom carpet that adds texture and softness underfoot.” Ambient lighting that can be adjusted with a dimmer also helps to soften and warm a room.

    Adding intricacy

    Using shapes to add visual interest is also a good idea, as long as you don’t let them dominate the room. Avoid busy patterns, instead looking for shapes with intricate designs that illustrate creativity and fine craftsmanship. For instance, Flynn said he looks for furniture with “interesting detail, such as fretwork or inlaid paneling.” And Burnham said she “recently designed a bedroom with a large bed that featured beautiful wood carving, bringing some excitement to an otherwise subtle room.” Rugs or tapestries with intricate yet understated patterns also bring shapes into an otherwise monochromatic room.

    To decide which shapes to use, look at what is already present in your room, and add whatever is missing. Consider shapes that are less common, like cylindrical pillows, prism chandeliers, or triangular pendant lighting. “Keep adding [shapes] until they fit together like a puzzle,” Flynn suggested. “The key to a well-balanced room is a mix of natural materials.”

    Source: greatfallstribune.com/story/life/2014/07/12/find-beauty-subtle-home-designs/12552047/

    Note: This blog entry has been edited in accordance with GP.com guidelines.

  21. Thoughts of A Young Granny

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    Hello all! I am still coming to terms with becoming a grandmother this fall. I will only be 39 when it happens, and my husband (DD's stepfather) will only be 30 (turning 31 end of 2014). My daughter's birth father will be 41, but even he is taken aback by this. My daughter will barely be 21 when her son is born.

    I guess I wouldn't have such an issue with age, except that my DD has mental issues that are quite concerning and her age compounds that fact. She was living with me for a bit, but recently decided she wants to be an adult, which I would love to happen as well, but again, her mental state causes her behave irrationally and make bad choices. There is a long story to it all, but I'm just trying to express the jist of it. Where we live, there's no mental health help while pregnant, unless severe emergency. What we've thought were emergencies were deemed not so. Guardianship is difficult to get, abd I don't want to push her away more. I know my husband and i will end up carrying for our grandson and that's fine, because we fear she will have one of her fits anyway, and something bad might happen. But again, it seems we get no help until something bad actually does happen, and we want to avoid that.

    Other than that, I'm a little excited so far. Been crocheting a lot. :)

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    My daughter whom was not in her right frame of mind, gave up my granddaughter for adoption. My granddaughter has been gone now going on 2 years. I really miss and love her. I have been trying to get her back. The lawyers for the couple who has my granddaughter seem to be very mean and hateful. I told them about my dauther’s condition and what she has been through, but they could care less. Me and my family do Not have a lot of money. Every attorney I contact will not take the case. I have send emails to the family that has my granddaughter stating that she has family and friends whom loves her very much and we would love to have her back in our lives. But, they decided to put their attorneys on me to stop emailing them. Even if I couldn’t get her back, I would at the least like to have some type of visitation. The family and lawyers seem to be powerful people with plenty of money. They know she has family and friends that loves her, but again they could care less. We have decided to get the media involved in this now to show that we are not giving up on my granddaughter. Does anyone have any advice?

  23. Gramma1105's Blog

    On May 19th, a what the doctor called a "text book embryo" was transferred to my daughter. On May 30th, she will go for a blood test to check for HGC levels. I remember last year when she was going for this, I just knew in my heart, it would be positive and of course it was. This time, I am not feeling confident for some reason. Maybe because she says that she does not feel the same this time. I told her all pregnancies are different and just wait to see what the test results show. I want her to be pregnant more than anything in this world, but at the same time, I don't want her suffer another loss. I do not dare share my worries with her and that is more or less the reason I decided to try this blog thing. I just wanted a way to let myself express my feelings without hurting anyone. I am going to try and take it one day at a time and keep praying that God will take care of this too.

  24. Brooks neenee's Blog

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    I have two gr granddaughters and the youngest is 3 and a half, the oldest is 5. The three and a half. Still is not potty trained, she wines and cries when she is here every time she doesn't get her Own way. She won't play she just sits. If her aunt is here she cries so her aunt will pick her up. If she is here with her big sister she follows her around and has to have and do everything she has. I enjoy the oldest one, she is bubbly and so full of life. I am afraid if I say the youngest can't come then the oldest won't be able to come either. Maybe I just needed to vent.

  25. My spouse and I have a son who has a mentall illness. He has a child who is a special needs child due to many heart defects.The mother of the child also has mentall ilness'.The mother has been hospitalized 2 times in the last 12 months and many times before. The hospitalizations have been because of her threats of hurting herself and insistance on taking her child away from his family and medical support when she has has these episodes. Both parents have done extremely well in adapting to a child who has special needs. They receive daily support by organizations as well as our family.

    We as grandparents believe that with all the support they receive they have been able to do a wonderfull job getting the child to where he is today. BUT when an episode happens everything is thrown in disarray and the concern for the babys welfare becomes a major concern. Being that this can happen at any time there is always a concern that the mother or the father may do something that will put the baby in harms way.

    In early February the Mother, who the child lives with, informed 3 parties that life was getting to difficult and that the OLD @#$%(name) was coming back and she wanted to take her baby away. She also stated that she was going to hurt herself. As any straight thinking person could see,when these 2 comments are stated together in the same conversation, it clearly states that the child is at risk. Thankfully one of the individualls who she contacted showed true concern and informed the daycare program of these comments, which is where the baby was at the time, as well as the authorities so they could stop her from removing the child from the daycare. The mother was then MHA(mental health arrested) and the child was released to the father.

    As stated earlier he also has a mental illnesss. He receives assistance from family everytime he has the baby in his care.So while the mother was in the hospital the father and child were with us,the grandparents.I must state that the mother was in foster care for many years and that her family is not very inolved with her or in assisting with the needs of the child. The mother was released after a short stay in the hospital but the father,who has the same rights as the mother, denied the mother from bringing the baby to her home because of his concerns of her mental state.Of course we the grandparents talke this out with him as well as others who are close to the situation. This was explained to the mother as honestly,openly and gently as possible.This was also done with a family member of hers present,at my request so there wasnt any confusion on our families concerns. They are not involved but I believed that being that she doesnt trust any1(major part of her illness) maybe a blood relative would allow for a more balanced conversation on the concerns for the child. She stated at that time that she was working on her issues but the father wants to be reassured. One day after the latest incident does not constitute "HELP", at least in the judgement of the father and definately not us.She was always welcome to visit the child during the meantime, which she did many times during the week he was at our home. We also encouraged dialogue on her situation and the child's careplan.

    In the meantime the mother filed for full custody. Us,the grandparents filed a temporary emergencey joint custody against the parents on the grounds of the incident explained above as well as their mentall illness' history. The court ordered (4 days later) that the child could not leave our county but that was it. Which left the opening for the mother to remove the child from the father when the opportunitiy arisen.

    We,the GParents, had planned a vacation for many years which was to happen just 1 week after the incident with the mother. After much consideration we decided to go on our vacation. Prior to leaving we set up support persons(15 people) for our son to utilize if needed while we were gone. The mother was also to be a support person for the father to utilize.This is not about the either parent being a bad parent,they are not, but mentall illness' affect people and sometimes people need help,which she generally refuses. Tje father is compliant with his careplan.

    About 5 hours after we left to our vacation destignation we get a phone call that the child was removed from our house. The father had told the mother he was going to be away for a couple hours and the baby would be with 2 of the childs grandparents and an uncle. She seized on the fact that they could not legally refuse her from removing the child. This is where we the gradparents legally as well as geographically had no way we could help our son and grandson.

    Now we are in the courts and are seeking Joint legal custody from both parents. There was a CPS investigation at the date of the incident but the investigation results were not present at the initial hearing because the court has to ORDER them. With that being said becaue she is considered the Primary Caregiver the judge allowed for the child to remaine in her custody. Doesnt that seem backwards? As stated earlier, both parents get alot of support and do a fine job with that support and we are not wanting the child to live with us.We believe that the child is fine living with his mother and that the father keep the current arrangement. She is able to functionally care for him on a day to day basis. The father,our son, cannot. He requires more support. But together they make it work,until the next episode.

    All we want from the courts is to make sure that the mother is getting the help she needs to combat her mentall illness.And when this happens again,because it will, that there is some sort of way the father and family can be sure that she is healthy enough to continue being the primary caregiver.If she is not healthy then the option is there for the father along with the family to not allow her to continue the as primary caregiver untill such a time. So she cant just remove the child as if nothing is wrong with her. This goes for the father as well which is why we,the grandparent, have files the petiotion against both parents. We understand that there may come a point that we may have to go for full custody and we also understand that that is very difficult. We will do whats right in our hearts. If any one out there has any ideas on how to move forward legally please chime in ,thanks.