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    Joyful Exercise, Something Is Always Better Than Nothing.

    By Roxie01966

    I have just completed the 6th and final episode of the Timeless You series. Joyful Exercise was the subject this time in the inspirational and informative series presented by Deepak Chopra. While I was familiar with much of the content, once again Chopra surprised me with more. He reminds us that regular exercise has been proven again and again to prevent obesity, heart disease, diabetes and cancer and insists that when you pair strength training with cardiovascular exercise, the results are in a word miraculous. Studies show regular strength training reduces incidence and symptoms of arthritis, diabetes, osteoporosis, obesity, falls and depression. Well, I've been a runner for 32 years and am grateful that I have been healthy enough to do it. But it seems that while running and walking are great, it isn't enough. I now know that I need to add strengthening and stretching to the cardio if I want to continue to live my best life. This will be the hard part for me, adding still more to my already busy life but I'm committed to do my best. I want to be all that I can be. I must say I am sorry to see the series end. I have gathered countless " nuggets" of great information along the way. I feel energized and hopeful and have incorporated much of what I have learned in this series into my on life. I have realized the many benefits of water, mediation, stretching, creativity and attitude. My 60th birthday was an eye opener. It was the first time I looked at "the number" and thought about aging. Deepak has shown me that much of my future is in my own hands. In my actions and in my mind. I am after all what I think I am and yes, I think I am growing YOUNGER by the day. Http://www.finallyfinishing.com
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  1. Thoughts of A Young Granny

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    Hello all! I am still coming to terms with becoming a grandmother this fall. I will only be 39 when it happens, and my husband (DD's stepfather) will only be 30 (turning 31 end of 2014). My daughter's birth father will be 41, but even he is taken aback by this. My daughter will barely be 21 when her son is born.

    I guess I wouldn't have such an issue with age, except that my DD has mental issues that are quite concerning and her age compounds that fact. She was living with me for a bit, but recently decided she wants to be an adult, which I would love to happen as well, but again, her mental state causes her behave irrationally and make bad choices. There is a long story to it all, but I'm just trying to express the jist of it. Where we live, there's no mental health help while pregnant, unless severe emergency. What we've thought were emergencies were deemed not so. Guardianship is difficult to get, abd I don't want to push her away more. I know my husband and i will end up carrying for our grandson and that's fine, because we fear she will have one of her fits anyway, and something bad might happen. But again, it seems we get no help until something bad actually does happen, and we want to avoid that.

    Other than that, I'm a little excited so far. Been crocheting a lot. :)

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    blog-0858755001405620157.pngHello,

    My daughter whom was not in her right frame of mind, gave up my granddaughter for adoption. My granddaughter has been gone now going on 2 years. I really miss and love her. I have been trying to get her back. The lawyers for the couple who has my granddaughter seem to be very mean and hateful. I told them about my dauther’s condition and what she has been through, but they could care less. Me and my family do Not have a lot of money. Every attorney I contact will not take the case. I have send emails to the family that has my granddaughter stating that she has family and friends whom loves her very much and we would love to have her back in our lives. But, they decided to put their attorneys on me to stop emailing them. Even if I couldn’t get her back, I would at the least like to have some type of visitation. The family and lawyers seem to be powerful people with plenty of money. They know she has family and friends that loves her, but again they could care less. We have decided to get the media involved in this now to show that we are not giving up on my granddaughter. Does anyone have any advice?

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    On May 19th, a what the doctor called a "text book embryo" was transferred to my daughter. On May 30th, she will go for a blood test to check for HGC levels. I remember last year when she was going for this, I just knew in my heart, it would be positive and of course it was. This time, I am not feeling confident for some reason. Maybe because she says that she does not feel the same this time. I told her all pregnancies are different and just wait to see what the test results show. I want her to be pregnant more than anything in this world, but at the same time, I don't want her suffer another loss. I do not dare share my worries with her and that is more or less the reason I decided to try this blog thing. I just wanted a way to let myself express my feelings without hurting anyone. I am going to try and take it one day at a time and keep praying that God will take care of this too.

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  6. Brooks neenee's Blog

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    I have two gr granddaughters and the youngest is 3 and a half, the oldest is 5. The three and a half. Still is not potty trained, she wines and cries when she is here every time she doesn't get her Own way. She won't play she just sits. If her aunt is here she cries so her aunt will pick her up. If she is here with her big sister she follows her around and has to have and do everything she has. I enjoy the oldest one, she is bubbly and so full of life. I am afraid if I say the youngest can't come then the oldest won't be able to come either. Maybe I just needed to vent.

  7. My spouse and I have a son who has a mentall illness. He has a child who is a special needs child due to many heart defects.The mother of the child also has mentall ilness'.The mother has been hospitalized 2 times in the last 12 months and many times before. The hospitalizations have been because of her threats of hurting herself and insistance on taking her child away from his family and medical support when she has has these episodes. Both parents have done extremely well in adapting to a child who has special needs. They receive daily support by organizations as well as our family.

    We as grandparents believe that with all the support they receive they have been able to do a wonderfull job getting the child to where he is today. BUT when an episode happens everything is thrown in disarray and the concern for the babys welfare becomes a major concern. Being that this can happen at any time there is always a concern that the mother or the father may do something that will put the baby in harms way.

    In early February the Mother, who the child lives with, informed 3 parties that life was getting to difficult and that the OLD @#$%(name) was coming back and she wanted to take her baby away. She also stated that she was going to hurt herself. As any straight thinking person could see,when these 2 comments are stated together in the same conversation, it clearly states that the child is at risk. Thankfully one of the individualls who she contacted showed true concern and informed the daycare program of these comments, which is where the baby was at the time, as well as the authorities so they could stop her from removing the child from the daycare. The mother was then MHA(mental health arrested) and the child was released to the father.

    As stated earlier he also has a mental illnesss. He receives assistance from family everytime he has the baby in his care.So while the mother was in the hospital the father and child were with us,the grandparents.I must state that the mother was in foster care for many years and that her family is not very inolved with her or in assisting with the needs of the child. The mother was released after a short stay in the hospital but the father,who has the same rights as the mother, denied the mother from bringing the baby to her home because of his concerns of her mental state.Of course we the grandparents talke this out with him as well as others who are close to the situation. This was explained to the mother as honestly,openly and gently as possible.This was also done with a family member of hers present,at my request so there wasnt any confusion on our families concerns. They are not involved but I believed that being that she doesnt trust any1(major part of her illness) maybe a blood relative would allow for a more balanced conversation on the concerns for the child. She stated at that time that she was working on her issues but the father wants to be reassured. One day after the latest incident does not constitute "HELP", at least in the judgement of the father and definately not us.She was always welcome to visit the child during the meantime, which she did many times during the week he was at our home. We also encouraged dialogue on her situation and the child's careplan.

    In the meantime the mother filed for full custody. Us,the grandparents filed a temporary emergencey joint custody against the parents on the grounds of the incident explained above as well as their mentall illness' history. The court ordered (4 days later) that the child could not leave our county but that was it. Which left the opening for the mother to remove the child from the father when the opportunitiy arisen.

    We,the GParents, had planned a vacation for many years which was to happen just 1 week after the incident with the mother. After much consideration we decided to go on our vacation. Prior to leaving we set up support persons(15 people) for our son to utilize if needed while we were gone. The mother was also to be a support person for the father to utilize.This is not about the either parent being a bad parent,they are not, but mentall illness' affect people and sometimes people need help,which she generally refuses. Tje father is compliant with his careplan.

    About 5 hours after we left to our vacation destignation we get a phone call that the child was removed from our house. The father had told the mother he was going to be away for a couple hours and the baby would be with 2 of the childs grandparents and an uncle. She seized on the fact that they could not legally refuse her from removing the child. This is where we the gradparents legally as well as geographically had no way we could help our son and grandson.

    Now we are in the courts and are seeking Joint legal custody from both parents. There was a CPS investigation at the date of the incident but the investigation results were not present at the initial hearing because the court has to ORDER them. With that being said becaue she is considered the Primary Caregiver the judge allowed for the child to remaine in her custody. Doesnt that seem backwards? As stated earlier, both parents get alot of support and do a fine job with that support and we are not wanting the child to live with us.We believe that the child is fine living with his mother and that the father keep the current arrangement. She is able to functionally care for him on a day to day basis. The father,our son, cannot. He requires more support. But together they make it work,until the next episode.

    All we want from the courts is to make sure that the mother is getting the help she needs to combat her mentall illness.And when this happens again,because it will, that there is some sort of way the father and family can be sure that she is healthy enough to continue being the primary caregiver.If she is not healthy then the option is there for the father along with the family to not allow her to continue the as primary caregiver untill such a time. So she cant just remove the child as if nothing is wrong with her. This goes for the father as well which is why we,the grandparent, have files the petiotion against both parents. We understand that there may come a point that we may have to go for full custody and we also understand that that is very difficult. We will do whats right in our hearts. If any one out there has any ideas on how to move forward legally please chime in ,thanks.

  8. lewilynpunz's Blog

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    According to a recent study, the average American is nearly 30,000 in debt excluding mortgage debt. If you look around you, it's easy to see why. We live in a world where we are very pressured to buy, whether we can afford to or not. Unfortunately there is no shortage of lenders willing to front us the money to buy things we can't afford.

    If you're like most Americans you haven't yet paid off everything you've purchased. If credit card debt and other debts are weighing on you, here are five tips for becoming debt free:

    1. Excessive debt is essentially caused by one thing: spending more than you earn. Most people would be surprised at how much more they spend than they make. That's why finance experts recommend that people track what they're actually spending money on. Take a look at your spending habits to determine what you're really spending your money on. If you know you're spending too much on entertainment or eating out, then you know where to make changes to get your spending under control.

    2. Unfortunately, closing your eyes and wishing your debt would just go away doesn't work. To overcome your debts you need to confront them first. Make a list of all of the debts you owe so that you know what you are up against. You need to know your starting point before you can start eliminating your debt.

    3. Sometimes just the thought of getting out of debt is overwhelming. It may seem impossible. But you've got to start somewhere. The debt snowball method makes the task manageable. You choose one of your debts to be your first priority and you dedicate as much of your income as you can afford to paying off that debt. For the rest of your debts you make the minimum monthly payment. When your priority debt is paid off, you turn your attention to the next one.

    4. As you see your debts diminishing, you may be tempted to start spending a little more again. But that means you're digging the proverbial pit deeper for yourself and creating more trouble for yourself in the long run.

    5. This is more of a preventative measure that won't be feasibly until after you're out of debt. But finance experts agree that one of the best ways to avoid debt is to have an emergency fund. Each month put aside as much as you can reasonably afford into that fund. If any kind of financial crisis such as job loss or medical emergency should arise, you'll be prepared to handle it without going into debt.

    A final word

    Sometimes debt problems are made worse by other circumstances outside your control such as medical emergencies or sudden job loss. If you have excessive debt and your current income is insufficient to pay it off, bankruptcy may be a viable option that will allow you to get out of debt and start fresh.

    Source: foxbusiness.com/personal-finance/2014/02/24/5-essential-steps-to-escaping-your-debt/

  9. Julie982's Blog

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    I would just like to know your views on young children wearing second hand shoes. My DIL is collecting second hand clothing which I do not have a problem with, but now it has extended to second hand shoes/sneakers. I do have a problem with the shoes as I was always told never to wear second hand shoes as shoes support the entire body and no child's foot is exactly the same and permanent impressions in used shoes can actually hurt a child's foot. So how do you feel about this?

  10. Grammy Wonders

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    Grandmothers are amazing and I am in the process of writing a book about grandmothers If you are a grandmother, OWN a business and would like FREE advertising, please contact me. I look forward to hearing from you!

  11. Laynah Rogers' Blog

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    blog-0224008001396556256.jpgMy four grandchildren have unique personalities and activity interests. Malorie designs and trades bracelets with her school friends, Elyse reads books and sketches pictures, Ryan plays games, and Sydney creates play dough items to dry and loves to dress-up. Their interests change often, and I love when they visit. "What are we going to do today, Granna," they ask. We swing open Granna's Magic Closet door and the adventures continue.

    According to Grandparents.com, "there are 70 million grandparents in the nation with 1.7 million new ones added each year." Other grandparent facts are love being a grandparent, younger than ever before, active, intellectually curious, wired, still in workforce, becoming more modern, have money, generous with money and time, want to have fun, like to spend time with grandkids. During a period of five years, our family grew with four new grandchildren. I was delighted and overwhelmed with new babies every year. Happily, the children live within five miles, so we saw them frequently. To provide fun visits, I reorganized a space--Granna's Magic Closet--to keep little people busy. I constantly was in sync to change out items to grow with their gender and developmental cycles. To increase quality time with grandchildren and provide many warm memories, this is a fun project any grandparent can do. In just three easy steps, you can reorganize a space and fill it with cost effective items withich will entertain the grandchildren for hours.

    Step 1--Choose a location to reorganize: closet, under bed storage containers, basement.

    Step 2-Determine age related activities: daycare, preschool, elementary, middle-plus

    Step 3--Shop and purchase items in select categories:

    • Basic drawing tools: Crayons, markers, glitter markers, paints and brushes, construction paper, drawing paper, glue, scissors, pencils, stamps with ink pads, stickers, coloring books, books, puzzles, play dough
    • Dress-up clothes: fairy wings, wigs, shoes, costumes, swords, magic wands
    • Card and board games: Uno, Skipbo, Old Main, Blokus, Candy Land, pick-up sticks
    • Activities: Wonder Looms, bubbles, yard for tying, string
    • Sewing: doll clothes patterns, baby blankets, other fabrics, tents
    • Baking recipes in kid sized bake ware and sprinkles: cookins in tiny muffin pans
    • Outdoor items: kites, wagons, sleds, treasure maps/hiking trail, bug catcher, butterfly nets, lightening bug jars, sandbox, scooters

    With the new space organized, add a catchy name and watch the eyes light up when the grandchildren need something fun to do. Keep a tote handy to fill with activities to take along if called to their houses for the visit.

  12. jrkeane02@gmail.com's Blog

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    We watch our three grandchildren and we abide by all their rules (5 years now), but when we ask my DIL to bring her girls when my son is in town (2 to 2 1/2 hours away), she always has an excuse to see her family who all live with 15 minutes of her. They see their dad and step-mom every weekend(they share watching the girls with Us) , they lived with us rent-free for 5 months,we lent them money to buy this house and they and their family have even used our beach house rent free. I cook meals for them to make it easier since they both work. We just bought a car to accomodate all three girls in carseats. My husband is the one who helps fix things at their house and I sew, quilt and make many items for their new house.

    We only ask maybe four times a year if she can come over with the girls (who love their nephews). She tells us she does not like us telling her how to run her schedule. I even offered to go and pick the girls up (45 minutes away) so the cousins could visit--oh, I cherish my time with the girls. Our son works many weekends but she even if he has off she tells us they want to spend together as a family. She is a germaphobic , and won't let the girls go to birthday parties, socialize with many kids. The oldest went to preschool. She just got furious with us because our son and his family ended up coming up early on Friday when we happened to be watching the girls. The cousins had a BLAST! My husband and I are planning to have a meeting with my son and his wife to discuss this and the fact they plan on sending two girls 45 minutes away which means we will have to drive there and pick them up at two different times. We love watching them but this is getting out of hand!

  13. 1sttimegrandparents' Blog

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    We have a trip planned to visit / meet our 1st grandchild in about 2 months (they live overseas). He will be nearly 4 months old at that time. Today I got an email with the "rules & boundaries" we will be required to follow while there. Yes, I know it's their child, and they have the right to make whatever rules they choose. But, we're being told there will be no kissing or touching his face, no hugging, no holding for periods of time, we will not be allowed to give him a bottle, bathe or dress him. I guess admire from afar? Also in the email was that they have NEVER kissed their son on his face (cheek), touched his face other than during his bath, or hugged him more than cuddling to soothe him. They will do all the feedings so they can better "bond" with him. Am I wrong to think that kissing, touching, hugging IS bonding? I agree that you should not allow strangers to touch your child, especially babies, but not parents / grandparents? The email indicated "germs" - didn't know they were such germ-o-fobs! We are not sickly people, and would never intentionally expose him (or his parents for that matter) to any known germ. The thought of going all the way there (not to mention the major expense), and not being able to kiss & hug our grandchild, makes us wonder if it's worth it. Of course I don't mean smother him, and be over-bearing, but grandparent-bonding time - at the most we'll only see them once a year (if that often). Don't you think so little contact will make him, well, distant from people when he grows up? We're torn as to how to handle this, and would appreciate some input.

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    My son and DIL had our first Grandson in Nov, 2013. Actually on our daughters 23 birthday.

    He is almost four months old. We may see him maybe once a week. Her Grandparents that raised her get to see him almost daily. For sure text or talk on the phone all the time.

    I am just wondering if this is normal. All of us live 10 minutes apart. I would understand if we lived farther apart not seeing them. We don't stop by their place. Don't want to intrude. We would love to go there, but she says the space is over crowded with baby things etc. So, they go to others. They keep busy with her family and then friends. So, they like to be out and about.

    When they do come by for dinner that we invite them over for. I feel more like a acquaintance. I am so out of the loop. He is changing all the time. I have to be caught up. I thought they would do good with the cell phone but that hasn't happened unless I text first.

    I was just wondering, do I let them decide when they come around. Or do I keep trying?? I feel if I don't try they would think we don't want to be involved and we really do.

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    #3 Timeless You-

    Healthy Relationships - Deepak Chopra

    In this session Deepak Chopra discusses how to help your relationships with others. His sessions helped me see how relationship with others affects our body, mind and our age. The positive and negative emotions that we have with people that are involved in our lives makes a big difference in our biological well-being. The positive helps us to feel alive with a lot of energy and feel young. The negative makes us feel so

    depleted and become aged. We can actually decrease our age of our biology by emotional disturbances in our lives. There have been many

    studies that have been proven that anxiety, anger and depression causes our blood to constrict because of the stress in our bodies.

    This in turn causes heart diseases. He said that it is harmful for people to hold grudges, have resentment and regrets. If people

    continue to harbor these feelings then they will start biologically aging faster.

    “When you are involved in healthy relationships characterized by love, joy, and empathy, your body responds by releasing a flood of feel-good chemicals that can preserve and improve your immune system. But when you're feeling negative emotions like anger and resentment, you introduce toxicity into your body, priming you for eventual health problems.” So healthy relationships can really make a big difference in our physical body. When we love others it will change our body's biology. Good

    relationships causes us to have more energy. All of us have been involved in toxic people. We have friends that may wear us out with their needs, family members who cause us to worry, and ones that we work with that want all the attention and all the praise for work that may or may not be his accomplishments. These people cause us to

    feel drained by their actions. What we have to do to change this relationship is for us to change how we see the other person. Mr. Chopra said that we should try to understand how we view the other person that we have conflict with. He said to make a list of the personality traits of the person that irriates us. Then look at those traits and see if those are the ones that we try to deny in ourselves. If we just admit that we have these traits then we will be less likely to judge someone else's traits. Don't think of yourself as the injured party of the bad relationship but realize that we all have negative characteristics that help us us deal with our problems. This will help us stop being critical of others. We

    need to see the positive traits of others. After trying to reach an understanding of the negative relationship it is good to try to learn how to work with the problem in a postive way. If all the people in the negative situation feel that their feelings and needs are being met then the relationship can be restored. When they are not then there are a lot of hurtful feelings involved like guilt, anger and fear. Expressing how we feel and accepting the emotions can help people to heal physically and spiritually. When we realize and deal with our toxic relationships we can improve our health. It is an emotional challenge wheh we face people that are hard to deal with. We have these type people in our lives and it can be very stressful. Mr. Chopra has some techniques below to help us with this problem. Mr. Chopra gave a questionare for those wanting to mend their relationship to fill out. These are the questions:

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    • Mr. Chopra said that facing difficult relationships can improve your health. As you have to deal with problems in your daily life there is a strategy you can use to help with these situations. Use the STOP formula. This will help us shift from an being automatically stressed to a calmness and compassion. This formula is composed of four actions:
    • Stop.
    • Take three deep breaths.
    • Observe your body.
    • Proceed with kindness and compassion.”

    If we will practice this many times we will lower our anxiety and stress levels. This STOP formula will help us with our negative feelings when we encounter stressful events. We also want to be able to get rid of the emotional issues that we have and so we can feel younger. We know that having healthy choices like avoiding smoking and drinking

    alcohol, eating healthy foods and exercising causes us to have long Letting these go is the best way to have a longer life. This means you have to let go of the psycological problems with the relationships. Freeing yourself of this will keep you from paralyzing your body, having an emotional decay and aging. Forgive others and you will start to grow younger. We need to forgive others for ourselves. Forgiving others frees the bondage we have within us. Forgiveness makes our heart feel so much better. Our hearts will

    then release all the negativity that we have within. Then it changes how we look at our relationships. I am sure that you know that our relationship with others makes a big

    difference in how we feel physically. Love isn't just in our minds and feelings. ” Love transforms biology.It has been shown in the science field with research that observing

    people being compassionate causes people's immunity to be improved. There has been a study in the University of Iowa where there is a correlation between those with ovarion cancer and having a close emotional connection with others. In this study of 168 women it was found that 13% who had a “strong support” system were not as

    likely to die from cancer after their surgery. There has been a lot of research over the first 25 years that has proven that it is important to have loving relationships. So having good relationships helps people's vitality of life.

    “To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it.”

    Confucious

    “When things do not go the way you think they should, you could indulge in self-pity. You could lament about what you are not getting, and make yourself and everyone around you miserable. Or, you could see the situation as another opportunity for personal growth. Left untended, grievances fester and accelerate aging. Forgive and move on, and you will reverse the aging process. Toxic emotions will always arise, but as you learn to cope with them, they will weigh on you less and less. As you release toxic emotions, see if you can find the gifts hidden within. For example, if you felt pain as a result of someone's behavior, the gift may be that you learned more self-reliance or compassion for others. Look for the gift that every life experience offers, even painful ones. Try to express your gratitude for the experience.”

    Forgiveness is not an occasional act, but a constant attitude. Martin Luther King, Jr.

    “Expressing love causes a relationships to develop and our health is improved. We need to practice expressing love to important people in our lives.The four most important qualities you can express to someone are:

    • Attention:
      Listen attentively to what someone is saying. Turn off your
      electronic devices, stop thinking about what you have to say or do,
      and really listen and acknowledge people. It makes them feel
      valued.​
    • Appreciation:
      Notice someone's good qualities and strengths. Express in words or
      actions how you feel. Everyone wants to feel appreciated.
    • Affection:
      Let people know you have their backs. A hug, a squeeze of a hand, or
      just your presence all convey that you care.
    • Acceptance:
      Don't try to change another person to be who you want them to be.
      Instead, accept everyone for who they are, without judgment.

    Love is spirit in motion. Love that moves from one heart to another generates the biology that reverses aging. Love has to be expressed in order for it to serve you and those you love.”​ So we need to help our bodies physically and emotionally by stopping the toxic emotions of guilt and anger and focus on developing loving

    relationships in our lives. When we do this we will look and feel younger. When we get rid of the emotional toxins and be involved in loving relationships we “will detoxify our mind, body and spirit, experience love, and reverse all biomarkers of aging.”

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  16. aidensgrandparents' Blog

    I am re-posting this as the original post did not go thru correctly, Thank You

    My wife and I live in Florida along with my daughter (47) and, until he got married, my son (49). in 2005-6 my son met a women from New York on the internet and after a long distance relationship she gave up her job and moved south to FL. They went out for awhile, moved in together and then in 2007 she gave birth to our wonderful Grandson Aiden in April 2007. In 2008 she felt that she needed to be closer to her parents and with our blessing they moved back to NY. My son worked in construction and got a job there and did well for about a year until the bad economy resulted in the loss of his job and finding a new one was very hard. After being out of work for almost a year and with their consent, I sent him to a trade school for an occupation that paid very well but required a large amount of travel across the country and time away from home. In 2010 they got married. Over the last 5 years we have tried to support our daughter-in-law as best we can, talked to her and our grandson at least 3 times a week and traveled to NY 2 or 3 times a year to visit and spend time with their family. In addition my wife has flown up there to support her when she asked.

    Within the last 3 years my daughter-in-law broke off relations with her family (Mom, Dad, Brother and 3 Sisters) over an issue involving abuse and has not allowed them any access to our grandson. 3 years ago my daughter-in-law got mad at my wife over the fact that she had sent her a card and when she addressed it she forgot to hyphenate the last name to include her maiden name and also because she continued to refer to her as Aidens "Mom" rather than "Momma". Rather than call and address this she went on a Facebook rant, calling out my wife, my daughter and myself in a very derogatory manner to which both my daughter and I responded. This led to a breakdown in relations and her not letting us to talk to our Grandson. She told her husband that it was all our fault and that we would have to apologize before she would let us talk to or see him again. I told our son that I did not feel that we had done anything intentionally wrong and should not be the one to apologize. However, after a period of 4 or 5 weeks I saw that things were not going to get any better and so, in order to regain contact with my Grandson, I relented and relucently emailed her an apology. At this point things got back to "normal" and we were talking and visiting again.

    Last October I was trying to set up a one week "Family Trip" to Disney World to celebrate our 50th Wedding Anniversary and I was going to pay to fly them down from NY, rent a house and get tickets for the "entire family" to the amusement parks. I called my son and daughter-in-law about this and explained it was to be a "family" trip and that I was going to rent a 4 bedroom house so that we could all have private bedrooms. She thought it was a great idea and I started making reservations. I found a house and sent her the web site for her to see and after a bit she called and asked my wife why we would be getting a 4 bedroom house. My wife told her that it was so that we all would have our own bedrooms, my wife and I, her and my son, our grandson and my daughter. When she heard that my daughter was going to be there, she still holds bad feelings for my daughter, she told my wife she had to go and hung up. Shortly after she posted another Facebook rant saying that I had deceived her about my daughter and than continued to once again insult my wife, my daughter and myself. I replied in a very reserved manner and explained that I had told her that the trip was for the entire "Family" and that I had thought she would understand that included my daughter. Her reply was that I had deceived her and that no one in our family was allowed to talk to our grandson again.

    Since that time we have only talked to our son, who has been on the road, and he does not know what to do. She has told him that she will not let us see our grand son, that he is not allowed to send us any pictures of our grandson or tell us anything about him. My wife has continued to send our grandson greeting cards for Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas and these have been marked "Return to Sender" and sent back. I have told my son that I did nothing wrong and was not trying to hide anything, that I felt that his wife had deeply insulted his mother, his sister and I for a second time and that I felt that she in deed needed to apologize to us.

    Two weeks ago our grandson, a new Cub Scout, won his first Pine Wood Derby and his mother sent his dad some pictures. My son, being the proud dad, posted these on Facebook and when we saw them we commented how proud we were of him also. My daughter-in-law saw this and messaged my son that he would not be getting any more pictures and that in addition Aiden had just received a Valentines card from us and that she had thrown it in the trash and considered it as harassment.

    There are other factors that enter into this problem some of which are:

    My son is gone for 2 -3 months at a time and when he gets home it is only for 1 - 2 weeks before he has to go to another job site. His job pays very well and he does not believe he would be able to replace the income with a construction job at home. This prevents him from being able to continually monitor what is happening at home and he gets his information only on the phone from his wife.

    My daughter-in-law has a medical condition, resulting from the birth, that has kept her from working full time.

    My son has told us and we have seen ourselves that our daughter-in-law has a drinking problem that while not severe does sometimes affect her actions.

    Our daughter-in-law has not been able to maintain friendships in their home town, she starts a relationship with other women or old friends and then within 4 - 6 months they breakdown and it is always because of some perceived action that the other person has taken against her.

    My wife and I and our son feel that there is a need for our daughter-in-law to get some serious counseling to help her overcome her problems and we are willing to support het in any way that we can. However, we know that she will not talk to us about it and she refuses to listen to her husband.

    I do not know where to go from here and look forward to any advice I can get.

    Thank You

  17. It's Grand To Be A Grandparent

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    The bottom line on why we love grand-parenting is not just because it's an opportunity to do a better job than we did with our children or because we enjoy having them along while we travel and on our summer vacations or because we have mastered the art of playing video games with them . . . and they still beat us! It's becasue we love them . . . it's a heart thing from the moment we lay our eyes on them. It's love at first sight it's that plain and simply. Isn't it!

    More than half of us live close to our grandchildren. . . and the other fifty percent wish they could live closer. The good new is that becasue of technology like Skype and face-time it doesn't matter how far away we live from them we can visit with them as much as we want. I had been waiting for "Grandmahood" for a long time and I was soooo excited when it happened.

    My philosophy on grandmahood was to have fun, to experience wonder, to be silly, to not "parent". I figured I had already parented two times . . . now I just wanted the "fun" part, and I thought that was my place as Grandma until I had some experience under my belt as a grandmother and I realized that there were going to be times when I would have to say "no" to those little darlings and how important it was to respect the rules that their parents implemented. . . it took a few hit and misses but I finally figured out how to balance having fun with my grandchildren and grandparenting not parenting them as needed.

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    Well since our visits were approved by court commissioner on September 5th we had still no contact. Social services said not at this time. I said what about the order they said it was the discretion of the department. Why did they agree in the first place? We did everything they wanted with going to classes that cost 600.00 for trauma, neglect, and therapeutic relations. Then we put in for a motion again denied by a different court commissioner. There is no way this is good for the children to think we all abandoned them. Thought it was all about the children? I think it's all about the foster homes and the money. Well my oldest granddaughter was moved to another foster home February 4th we were on Skype every Wednesday she said when am I going to see you? Guess they don't care about her feeling. Haven't heard from her since, and I been calling social services no ones calling me. Sad so sad

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    #2-TIMELESS YOU

    A Youthful You

    Today I want to share with you more interesting and encouraging ways to become youthful no matter your present age from the author and speaker Deepak Chopra. The three hallmarks of a youthful mind is flexibility, curiosity, and creativity. We must have an active mind for our mind to be youthful. Mental flexibility is one of the key elements in developing a youthful mind. Flexibility is one of the most significant characteristic to improve your brain function. We need to be willing to let go of specific situations, circumstances and outcomes to have mental flexibility. Those who will allow the alternate experiences in their lives will live longer. We all have trials in our lives. Yet, if we hang on to the disappointments in our lives, in our hearts and mind then we allow stress inside of us. This doesn't mean that we have to give up on our dreams but to allow alternate outcomes. When you let things go, there may be other positive possibilities in the future. Life is always changing. “ Letting go releases stress, calms the mind, and reverses the aging process.” We all have situations in our lives that have a desired outcome but sometimes this doesn't happen. This causes disappointments in our life.. When you detach from a particular outcome, you open yourself up to possibility and to the universe. Flexibility

    is in the mind, in the body, and in the attitude. “If things don't go my way, I let go of my idea of how they should be, trusting that I don't know the big picture in which everything is moving in the way it should. So trust the deepest part of your creative mind which is the innocent mind which is play, wonder, joy and creativity.” “You are focused on the process instead of the outcome, and are living in the present moment. This is important because when you live in the present moment, your body slows down from the hectic pace of daily life, and as a benefit, the aging process slows along with it.”

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    In Roxie's blog on Deepak Chopra on Grandparent.com blog she explained about the Bio Stat. Please read her blog. She did a great job explaining it so I will not repeat the explanation in my blog. ( I didn't mention this in my last blog because I was going to give it further thought.) Deepak believes that we can change ourselves by our perceptions. So as we detach from our outcomes we also can change our perceptions in life. ”Living in the present moment is an excellent way to reinforce your

    Bio stat, or the age you want to be that is within 15 years of your current age.”

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    Since my last blog I needed to spend more time with my mind dwelling on the Bio Stat concept since this was beyond my thought process. Since that blog I have put the following phrase below in four places in my house to read at least five times a day. Mr. Chopra said to read it before you rise up in the morning and before you go to bed and other times in the day. So I have started this mental process. I fill in the blank of how old I want to be biologically.. I have picked a number of my age that can be 15 years younger than my chronological age. You may copy this and print it or write it down on cards:

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    I am now resetting my Biological age. I am learning new concepts from Mr. Chopra and becoming younger than my Chronological age. I am increasing my physical and mental capacity. This is a revolutionary concept for me. I feel I have been enlightened. I hope you will also be enlightened and become younger also.

    Curiosity is another key element in having a younger mind. When we let go of the negative and become flexible with the present we become more alive within ourselves. This also helps us become more creative and curious.A youthful mind is dynamic, vibrant, and curious.” When we are around children we see how curious and interested they are in everything around them. As children get older they push back the curiosity. We need to notice the little things all around us in life and use our curiosity as a way to help us find true happiness. When we are curious we see life in a different light. When we see the beauty in life, we become more interested in life. This causes us to have more energy and feel alive within our bodies and mind. Then we reverse our aging process. We have a choice in life to change our perspectives. We can be flexible and see things as an opportunity instead of a trial in life. We can choose to view the obstacle as a way to grow in our spirit and mind. When we choose this, we change our future. So as we let ourselves be ready for the new experiences in life then we are available for happiness. We are not limited in life to the outcomes that we experience. Finding happiness is realizing what is excellent in ourselves and letting this shine in us. Find people that you enjoy being with. In whatever you do, make sure

    that you will make a difference in this world. Have a good time in whatever you do in life. Finding joy in making a difference in life by your choices, causes you happiness. Being creative is the third element for keep our mind young. When we find the creativity in ourselves, we improve our mind and biological age. We unleash our stress and anxiety. This also helps our body with our immune systems. As we improve our immune system we have more energy. As we improve our mind and our biological age we change our Set Point. The Set Point

    is very important to learn about. Our set point is how we feel and react. Our set point is the foundation for us to be happy. This set point can be “influenced and changed”. You can find ways to enjoy life. Remembering positive experiences in your childhood, doing a fun activity, finding pleasure in life helps set your Set Point. Joy in life is not dependent on circumstances and extra things in life like expensive cars, finely dressed clothes or elaborate spending and etc.…... Joy helps our aging process by being involved in activities that we treasure in our hearts and mind. Doing these type of activities help us to have a healthier body like a normal blood pressure and a healthy heart. It is also great to change our routines in our lives and finding joy in the process. This will boost our brain activity causing us to have an active mind as we get older. So having fun has proven to be valuable to our minds. It has been found through research that “Alzheimer's disease is triggered by a combination of factors including genetics, lifestyle and environment. As for protecting yourself, studies have shown that eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly, and stimulating your mind are crucial. A youthful mind is a growing mind. It is dedicated to continual expansion and learning. A youthful mind

    thrives on new experiences and new knowledge—even playing games can help. Recent research has found a direct link between brain games and a lowered risk of Alzheimer's.” There has been research that recommends people to keep a youthful mind by constantly learning new things. Below are some activities that were suggested in Mr. Chopra's article:

    Take a class at a local college or trade school. Pick something you've always wanted to learn, like art history or furniture making. Learn a language. The latest research shows that being bilingual—even if you start learning the language later in life—provides one of the biggest brain boosts, delaying the onset of Alzheimer's.

    Take dance lessons or art class. Choose a style that speaks to you, whether it's tango or pottery.

    Write a short story. Sit down at the computer and start typing.

    Travel. Nothing is more enriching than seeing new places—even destinations that are within driving distance from home. By trying different activities, you stimulate your brain. You also get rid of rigid ideas about who you are, and challenge yourself with fresh experiences and perspectives.”

    Make it a goal to learn something new every day—even if it is something small. It is suggested to decide on a new activity to enrich your brain.

    After you decide on your new activity, tell a friend about it and this will help you do what you have in mind to do.

    By trusting your deepest instincts and practicing mental flexibility, you:

    • learn there are many different, but equally fulfilling outcomes to situations
    • open yourself to possibility, beauty, and abundance
    • embrace new experiences”

    I am so excited about all the techniques that Mr. Chopra talked about. I know that we all can reverse our aging process with doing what is good for our body. We now know that reversing our biological age has to do with our mind. I challenge you and myself for our mind to be in optimal health.

    ** All quotations are from Deepak Chopra.

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    Hi everyone

    My son is getting married in November and we are of course going to pay for a portion of the wedding. They have told me I am not able to invite any friends to the wedding which I fully understand. Her parents are able to invite their friends. I asked if I could invite two friends to their engagement party and I was told No even though they have known my son since he was born. The party is at my D-I laws parents home and the parents are inviting their friends. My D-I law is having a girls only night at her parents with her mother and her friends and she has told me Im not invited, which hurt.

    My d-i-Law and I have been very close and I have been very supportive of her and my son during some very trying times when her parents have not. We never argue and I love her to bits. I acknowledge this day is for them but I am hurt there are rules for us and different rules for her parents. I have approached my son about how I feel and he is very angry with me.

    I would not have any issues with not being able to invite any friends if the same rules applied to the other set of parents. Is this unreasonable? I'm feeling terribly disrespected and sad they don't understand how this has made me feel.

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    Timeless You Seminar

    Course 1: Changing Our Perceptions

    I have been involved in an interesting, educational seminar entitled Timeless You. This seminar is

    helping me to learn how to alter my biological age. The speaker in this seminar is Deepak Chopra.

    Everyone has their own biological age and chronological age. Do you know the difference between the two?

    Our chronological age is the number of years that we have lived on this earth. While living on

    this earth we cannot change our chronological age.

    Our biological age is dependent on our health. Biological age is based on our blood pressure, body

    fat, bone density, and cholesterol levels. So the good news is this: As as we take care of ourselves we can alter our biological age. Believe this or not, people can change their biological age. We can become younger in our biological age. There are people that can be fifteen years younger than their chronological age. Biological age is more important to our age than chronological age because this helps us in how we think and feel. You can see this in different people. Some people are more vibrant than others at the same age. Then some people can be older in their biological age than their chronological age. That means their body is older than their actual age in years. It all depends on the body's health.

    Listen to this news: People can increase their vitality and they can have it more than they had in the past. They can restore themsleves physically and emotionally. Their mental health can improve. Even seniors in their stage of life can change. People have to change the way they think about their body. The speaker said: “ Your body is not a noun. It is not a thing. It is a verb, an activity. When you treat your body as an activity, you can influence it with your daily habits—what you eat, exercise, and how you use your brain.” “ In fact, every year, more than 98 percent of all the atoms in your body are exchanged through eating, breathing, and other activities. Right now, you would be

    hard-pressed to find an atom in your body that was there three years ago. Consider that fact when you think about your body aging. You are constantly changing and renewing yourself.” “And the more you are able to replace life-damaging choices with life-affirming ones, the more profound the benefits you will experience physically, emotionally, and spiritually.”

    According to this seminar “what we expect in life can determine our outcomes”. Our expectations will

    make a difference in our lives. Our expectations change how we look at things and what action we take to change the way we do things. It can change our physical health by changing the way we eat and take

    care of our bodies and our social relationships with others. Things can change for the better if we change our expectations about ourselves. It can make a big difference in our mental and physical capacity. We can choose to change our perceptions and make a difference in our lives. We can do it now. It isn't too late for

    those who can think differently about their body and aging. When you do, you can change your perceptions then you will experience vitality in many areas of your life. Would you like to change physically,

    emotionally and spiritually?

    I will be blogging more about this subject in the weeks to come, so stay tuned in.

    Cobaltblue

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    Help, I am in Indiana, let me try and sum everything up easy. My Grandson has lived with me for over 4 years now, the reason was mother (my Daughter) couldn't handle nor did she have means to provide for him. She was living with her mother at the time she also has another child my granddaughter who has lived with my ex the whole time, ( mother lives with them now but has moved out a time or two druing the last 5 years) . we will call grandson D, though out the 4 years he has lived with me she has only lived with me for about 2 weeks, total. and that's been well over 3 1/2 years ago.. she has been on and off drugs the whole time, all she cares about is having a boyfriend and running around. about a year or so from the time he moved in with us she got prego again. at that time she decided she was going to give the baby up at that time I sat her down and told her if she was for sure 100% going ot give up the baby then I would take the baby and raise it as my own. her words was ( I don't want another child I cant take care of another child I dont care where it goes. I want nothing to do with it. she had an abortion right before this child she was getting ready to give up, the only reason she didn't with my 3 grand child was she didn't have the money and it was to late she was to far along. so she agreeded I would take the baby we went to court and did all the right paper work to get me full Gardianship of the child prior to birth, with the plan to adopt after the baby has lived with me a few years,. well that all went great court awarded me the babys dad signed off without any problems at all. now back to my problem.

    Daughter we will call ( L ) is now prego again has been on and off drugs again the whole time she was/is prego. to the point at 7 mo's she was in rehab at a local Hospital. the baby has found to have a mass on its stomach. that's all another long worried problem. the problem here is for the last few mo's when she picks up D she has been telling him that once she has the baby he will move back with her and take care of the new baby while mommy works. mind you he is only 6, I have found out that every time he is there she always hells and curses at him. and with the drug problem there is no way she can say she hasn't been under the influence of the drugs, she is always mean to him. she didnt have a bed for him nor a bed room. every time he comes home he tells me Mommy and ganma are fighting (yelling ect) or Mommy and S was

    Once when he was there he and his 5 year old sister was sitting talking and K had said something about the baby I have here which is now 3 1/2 we will call her KL. his mother told him to shut the hell up and never f___ing talk about her again. and her name was never f ing to be said in her house again as well.

    well as you know that upset him he has lived with KL since she was born, which is by blood his true sister.

    though out the last almost 5 years mother has not taking him every other weekend as planned some thing would come up and she would cancel or she would say she didn't have the gas to come get him for a long time I would give her money when she got there but it got to the point she would use that for a reason a lot and then I found out about the drug thing and knew where the money was really going. well this year she decided on Dec 23rd that she would call me and tell me she would be here to pick him up for Christmas and he will wake up at her house. since he was born he had ALWAYS woke up at my home. and that's what I had planned again this year since that's the way it was and she hadn't said anything. well long story that's what happen she picked him up and he didn't get home until 10am Christmas morning. which threw everything off here. with KL him and Christmas morning. when she brought him home I guess sometime right before they got here she told him that the next time she picks him up he will come live with her and he would never see PawPaw again.

    now mind you this was Christmas morning she decided to tell him something like that.

    well he came in I could tell something wasn't right but he did get a little excited to see all the stuff santa left for him. after he opened them is when I found him just sitting there looking t his toys and watching KL play with a sad look on his face I asked him what was wrong and that's when he told me what mom had said he was very upset.

    well with everything that had happen a couple days later she texted me to tell me she would be at my house the next day around 3 to pick him up for the weekend, I advised her he was sick with a fever and didn't feel good. well as you can think she went off made some treats ect it got bad. but she let him stay and didn't pick him up. after he felt better and I decided I needed to do something to protect him so

    I filed for Emergency Temporary Guardianship of him, reason was emotional abuse, neglect, her drug use, and the treat it would cause him harm if she removed him or if he went to visit with her, the judge gave me that Temporary until the court date March 28th I did all the court stuff myself the filing of the correct papers ect, I am just worried if she hires a lawyer he will eat me alive since I don't know the laws like he may,

    now mind you he has been with me now almost 5 years of his 6 and the time before that I would have to say he was still with me for about 30% of that time as well if not more.

    when she (mom) talks about him going home her reason has always been, he is my son and should live with me and he has a bond with his sister and they should be together, what she is also forgetting is he has a sister KL here that he has lived with all her life, and to break up that bond would be bad for him and her not to leave out the bond he has with me,

    I guess what I am asking is has anyone been where I am ? and if so how did it turn out,

    and am I doing the right thing to protect him,

    she is real close to getting in trouble from the food stamp division here because she has claimed him his whole life he has lived with me

    the IRS will be coming down on her as well because again she has claimed him or she had let her mother claim him and this last year she had let her BF the new babys dad claim him, again reminder he was with me the whole time

    so things are going to be bad for her real soon, and then once this new baby is born if they test the baby and they find drugs in the baby I am sure she will have that coming after her also

    I am just really worried about this court things, since I filed the papers in court she has now got a bunk bed put it is a room that she plans to let K and my other Granddaughter sleep in at her house, her mother put her bed in the living room to make room for them to use the other room for my daughter K's MOM) its all after the fact tho before that he didn't have anywhere to sleep and would always sleep with his sister and Ganma, that info was in my first paperwork with the court, for gounds is the only reason she is doing anything about it, but I know she had rented the bunkbed from rent a center, and they will pick it up before long for non payment as they have done many times in the past,

    is there something I should be thinking about doing or filing that I haven't yet or any help would be nice

    if I left anything out you may need to know email me or something

  23. I hate to admit that I don't know much about his basketball highlights. I really don't. But it always seems that I hear a great

    quote, or search on a topic and find a quote by Coach Wooden.

    That's how I found this quote. On one of my wild Google chases looking for a quote to support some thoughts that are heavy on my heart. You see, making a living and making a life has been on my mind a lot lately. I found myself recently reverting to some old habits of becoming too focused on work. I was putting some of my core values to the side. My creativity time had dwindled to nothing. I wasn't spending much time outside enjoying nature.

    Here were two core values that I had promised myself two years ago that I would not neglect, and here I was putting them on the side burner because I was "too tired" at the end of the day.

    Do you find yourself not doing things you absolutely love because you let other things get in the way? I can only encourage you

    (and fingers are pointing back at myself) to make a plan and not let that happen. Don't live in regrets.

    You see, I've been praying for a dear woman I work with that was taken to the hospital with chest pains. As my mom said, her priorities just changed. My mom can speak with authority in that subject. Her stroke in September 2012 gave her that right. When you are faced with staring life in the face you have a wake up call. That's what my mom said last year. That's also what my dad said when he had his heart attack.

    Why does it take the catastrophic life event to knock us to our senses? My prayer is that I can be a wise person filled with the knowledge of what others are going through and have gone through and take positive actions in my own life. Living Life According to Your Core Values

    Life is not about making a living.

    Life is not about the bank balance.

    Life is not about the social status.

    Life is not about the tangible items that can so easily be destroyed or taken away.

    Life is about Living

    What are doing to "Live Your Life"?

    Do you know your inner most core values and have them clearly defined?

    Are you living your life according to those values?

    "Don't let making a living prevent you from making a life"~~ Coach Wooden

    Hugs and feathers from the nest!

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