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    Joyful Exercise, Something Is Always Better Than Nothing.

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    I have just completed the 6th and final episode of the Timeless You series. Joyful Exercise was the subject this time in the inspirational and informative series presented by Deepak Chopra. While I was familiar with much of the content, once again Chopra surprised me with more. He reminds us that regular exercise has been proven again and again to prevent obesity, heart disease, diabetes and cancer and insists that when you pair strength training with cardiovascular exercise, the results are in a word miraculous. Studies show regular strength training reduces incidence and symptoms of arthritis, diabetes, osteoporosis, obesity, falls and depression. Well, I've been a runner for 32 years and am grateful that I have been healthy enough to do it. But it seems that while running and walking are great, it isn't enough. I now know that I need to add strengthening and stretching to the cardio if I want to continue to live my best life. This will be the hard part for me, adding still more to my already busy life but I'm committed to do my best. I want to be all that I can be. I must say I am sorry to see the series end. I have gathered countless " nuggets" of great information along the way. I feel energized and hopeful and have incorporated much of what I have learned in this series into my on life. I have realized the many benefits of water, mediation, stretching, creativity and attitude. My 60th birthday was an eye opener. It was the first time I looked at "the number" and thought about aging. Deepak has shown me that much of my future is in my own hands. In my actions and in my mind. I am after all what I think I am and yes, I think I am growing YOUNGER by the day. Http://www.finallyfinishing.com
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  1. Emergency: Today my daughter has an appointment to abort my next grandchild. Her significant other is not telling her not to do so, actually encouraging her!

    She already has one child, only living with her in the summer. This is mostly because the father tried to cut off contact. My daughter took him to court. He had to let her have the boy part of each year.

    She has three disabilities and is on disability income. She works part time, 3 days per week. She has low energy, worried about body changes with the pregnancy. Some of her reasons seem selfish to me, such as breast changes, stretch marks. I have tried to ease her mind regarding these things, stating that I am not unhappy just because I have stretch marks!

    I loved being a mother but can understand her position. The disabilities will affect her mothering and already have. By the time my grandson goes back to the father she is wrung out and so am I!

    I would not have asked for more grandchildren, have three others already. I have room in my heart for yet one more, but am job hunting, have a significant other and many other life duties. That's okay. What is one more?

    Fact is, by the time you all read this, it will be too late to advise me how to stop her. I have already given her links to read about the effects of abortion. It does affect the person with panic attacks adversely, etc. This list of side effects goes on and on.

    Does anyone have any advice for me in how to approach her with comfort and help after the abortion?

    I am angry about the significant other. They have a relative who would have adopted the child, probably. My daughter will not go through with the pregnancy and adopt out to anyone!

    I am angry, but trying not to judge her.

    Thanks for reading and God bless your families!

    Kathy :cray:

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    My granddaughter is 8 months old and living with her mother. I babysit 3 days a week while mom works. Mom has a history of drug and alcohol use and is beginning to use alcohol again in excess. My fear is that the baby is being neglected when she's with her mom but I have no strong basis for this except an overall lack of concern for the baby. For example, last week she came over with a severe diaper rash and mom didn't think it was a big deal and wasn't treating it. She forgets the baby's medical appointments and only follows through after I remind her.

    Mom wants to begin working full time to make more money. I am on the verge of telling the mom (she's actually my niece, but I had custody when she was an infant) that I am willing to take the baby 5 days a week, including overnight, just so I know the baby is being well taken care of. I'm also the one who is doing all of the transportation, i.e. picking up baby and mom, taking mom to work, taking baby to my house and watching her all day then the reverse at night. I don't want to do this 5 days a week, so I'm thinking about suggesting that mom find her own way to work, and I'll take the baby for the week.

    I'm interested in people's opinions. Do you think I would be helping or hurting the baby and her relationship with the baby? Do you think I should back off and let the situation evolve, for better or worse (I'm quite certain that my niece will crash and burn)?

    Thanks for your comments.

  3. ChAriLu3
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    I always tell my friends that life is a process, not an event. Sure, the process may be made up of events, but ultimately it's the road we travel that gets us to our destination. Where would we be without those "events"?

    For 2 1/2 years now I have been more than just a babysitter to my three grandchildren and they have been more than just my charges. The youngest one, a little boy, came into my care at 8 weeks. First it was about 40 hours a week, then about 20, and more recently 40 again. He is as close to me as if he were mine. Closer in some ways. And I love him unconditionally. And his mom has lost her job and while she is out of work she won't need me to watch him. And if things turn out the way that she hopes she will be working for herself nights and weekends and her hubby will be around to take care of "my" little guy. I have so defined myself by this role of caregiver that letting go will be very difficult for me.

    Of course there's more - it's me, there's always more. For the same 2 1/2 years I have been watching my two granddaughters. When we began they were 1 and 4. Now at 4 and 6 they, too, have changed immensely. While I don't ever see myself being as close to them as I am to my grandson (because of some things that happened with my daughter) they, too, define who I am. And the 20 or so hours I spend with them in a week had changed me from who I was to who I am now. But their dad was in a terrible car accident and is just now recovering and beginning to drive. He isn't working and for the first time ever is taking some responsibility for his girls. And his means days without the girls, days with early pick ups, days with only one child.

    As I move forward I wonder who the "new" me will be. What will I do with my time? How far away from my amazing little grandchildren will I be (emotional distance)? What comes next.

    And with my house still on the market I wonder where, physically, I will be living.

    Change.... Necessary I guess but a struggle for me.

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    blog-0001183001381069956.jpghi everyone, this is the first time for me to blog so please bear with me. My daughter has me caring for my grandson for a various reasons. It started about 5 years ago with she was stopped with him in the car and she had drugs. the CPS here in Missouri told her to send him to me till she got straightened out and did what they requested. She managed to talk the CPS out of almost every condition they gave her. Since then I have had him , to start with few days a week, to Sunday thru Friday, until May 2012 , since then I have had him every day. She swears she lives here but she spends about 2 days a month here. She pays no rent or anything here, She has been living with a boyfriend and only contributes about $120.00 in food stamps to his care if I catch her when she gets them. My husband and I pay for all his housing, clothing, school items including his extra money for his lunches and field trips. All the child support she gets is not used on him. Recently I found out she tested positive for meth and marjuania. After speaking with her, she admitted that she smokes marjaunia daily but swears the other was put in her drink by a friend and she knew nothing about it.

    Every time I say something about anything that displeases her she says she will just come get her son. So now I am stuck at what to do, do I continue just caring for him or risk losing him in court but trying to get custody. Sorry this is so long but I really need some help and advice.

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    To My Beautiful Granddaughter – Mackenzie on her Birthday:

    September 2000 was one of the happiest days in my life. Your Auntie Mel Mel and I were in the delivery room with your mom and dad when you took your first breath. As I held you moments after you were born, I knew you were destined to be a very special person. You have never disappointed us!

    The last time we were able to see you was January 2012, on your Uncle Cliffy’s birthday. The only present he wanted was to see you. That’s how extraordinary you are. We all miss you so much.

    We are hoping that someday you may see this letter and know how sad we are that we have been separated because of decisions your mom and dad have made. You and Bella are always welcome to call or come and see us. I am positively sure that when you get a little older we will be hearing from you. God will dance on that day - just as He did on the day you were born.

    Captain Ed and I have moved to a much bigger house since you’ve been gone but we still live close to Auntie Mel Mel and Uncle Cliffy. We kept the same phone numbers and our web pages are open so you will be able to find us. The bins that you and I packed with your things are in a closet just waiting for you to return. It will be fun to go through them with you someday. Kenzie, there isn’t a day that goes by that we don’t think about you and all the things we used to do together. Harmony asks about you all the time.

    We all want you to know that we are here for you, not just on your birthday, but always. We always have been. We hope you are growing up as the happy, creative, free spirit that we know you are inside.

    Happy Birthday, Kenzie.

    We will love you always,

    Grammy, Captain Ed, Uncle Cliffy & Auntie Mel Mel

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    I've been with my grandson everyday for the past 6 years , my daughter passed away before he was 3 years olds she had leukemia and I helped to raise my grandson with my son inlaw , I took him to preschool everyday , to all his doctor appointments ,and now he is getting married and she no longer wants us around . I'm not to call and ask for my grandson , no more vacations with him, Im only aloud to see him or talk to him when she says its ok and thats not very often what can I do I miss him

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    I'm at the point of recognizing that Dani, whom I've raised for almost 19 years, is pretty much grown up. This may sound like a 'duh' conclusion, but when you have been the Nana, mother, father, sister, aunt, friend, advocate and ally, the realization can hit hard. On every front, I've seen Dani suffer mightily through grief and loss, while succeeding beyond anyone's expectations. Now that she's juggling work and fun for the summer, I need to make the most of our passing encounters. My roles have diminished to only three - Nana, friend and ally. We are once again establishing boundaries, creating an adult relationship between us. What a relief to see the finish line in sight. Until only two years ago I wondered if this moment would ever happen. Finally, it's here. She is a beautiful and talented young woman. I am a wise and grateful Nana. This miracle didn't happen overnight or without tremendous pain and hard work. Would I change a minute? Absolutely not. We are proof that the single-minded devotion of a Nana, whose heart beats in tandem with her grandchild, can win despite the obstacles. Love Conquers All.

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    WELL HI THERE. I KNOW THAT THIS WILL BE INFORMAL AND TABOO TO SOME BUT I DON'T INTEND TO DUCK MY TAIL AND HIDE. I AM A SINGLE PARENT OF FOUR CHILDREN AGES 14, 13, 12 AND 9. TWO WEEKS AGO I FOUND OUT THAT MY 14 YR OLD DAUGHTER WAS 10 WEEKS PREGNANT AND SCARED TO DEATH. TYPICALLY I CRIED :cray: , HELD HER AND BEGAN TALKING ABOUT HER OPTIONS. I HAD TO BE STRONGER THAN I WAS THE DAY THAT I GAVE BIRTH TO MY 1ST BORN, HER. I LOVE :wub: NO LESS BECAUSE MISTAKES HAPPEN.

    WE GO INTO THE NEAREST TEEN CLINIC AND SIGN IN TO HAVE THIS CONFIRMED. HOPING THERE WAS AN ERROR IN THE TEST, MAYBE THE SIGN THAT I SAW I BLEW WAY OUT OF THE WATER :unknw: . THEY CALLED HER NAME MY HEART POUNDED IN MY EARS. I HEARD NOTHING. I JUST SAW THE DOOR CLOSE BEHIND HER. SHE CHOSE TO GO TO THE BACK ALONE SO I WAITED LIKE A NERVOUS :shok: TEEN IN THE LOBBY. TWENTY MINUTES PASSED AND SHE WALKS OUT AND SAYS "MAMA COME TO THE BACK" I REPLY "SO? WAS IT POSITIVE? AND SHE SAYS YES. ALL I COULD THINK THEN WAS "LORD HELP :help: US. IT IS NOT EASY PROVIDING FOR THEM. WHAT WILL I DO WITH THIS BABY? I SAID ABORTION IMMEDIATELY AND SHE SAID OKAY. I THOUGHT I FELT SOME RELIEF.

    THE NEXT DAY OR SO WE ACCUMULATE THE MONEY, LOCATE A CENTER FOR SITUATIONS LIKE THIS AND MAKE TAKE THE NEXT SLOT OPEN (1 PM THE NEXT DAY). THE REST THAT DAY WAS SO PEACEFUL. WE HAVE NEVER GOTTEN ALONG SO WELL. ONE HOUR BEFORE THE APPT. WE WERE TALKING AND SHE SAYS "MAMA I DON'T THINK I WANT AN ABORTION" :fool: OK WAIT SURELY I DIDN'T HEAR WHAT I THOUGHT I HEARD. :cray: I COULD ONLY SAY THINK ABOUT IT SOME MORE. WE ARRIVE TO THE CENTER. SHE GOES BACK AFTER ABOUT 30 MINS OF SITTING. THEY REQUESTED THAT SHE COMES FIRST WITHOUT ME AND THEN THEY WOULD CALL ME IN. I FELL :lazy: ASLEEP IT TOOK SO LONG.

    I FINALLY :nea: HEAR MY NAME AND I RUN BACK. LONG STORY SHORT SHE DECLINED SERVICES SO NOW I'M AN UNEXPECTED EXPECTING NUNU (GRANDMA). I HEARD THAT LITTLE HEARTBEAT AND I FELT LIKE I DID THE FIRST TIME I HEARD HERS. WHAT'S NEXT? :wacko:

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    I am a grandmother for the first time, he's a gorgeous baby boy, 9 months old now. My problem is in my state (KY) im being told more times that i care to count that what i say and think doesnt matter. CPS here, because of my grandsons other grandparents made my daughter and their son leave their house (positive drug test) and the worker at the insistance of the other grandparents made my daughter leave her child there. They then had her (worker) implement a no contact order and my daughter hasnt seen or held her baby since Jan. (Sorry long story) any way we all (grandparents) were made to take a drug test as well, the other grandparents have tested positive and ours was negative and the baby is still in that environment. Their reason for wanting to keep the baby there with them is out of pure spite and for the resources they get from the state. My reason for wanting to have him is to have him in a safe loving environment and eventaully reunite my daughter with her child. not their reason... alot more to tell but it drags out. my question is does anyone know who i can reach out to in my area that can help me continue this to get my grandson out of there??? No one seems to want to talk with me in the system and lawyers will for a minute then tell me if I pay them an ungodly amount of money they can do it. I dont have those sorts of funds just laying around. I have never felt so helpless in my entire life.. I'm hoping someone can direct me or tell who i can talk with to help with this situation.

    grandma in ky

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    Hi all. I found this web site on Google search, and so glad I did, I like to

    help ppl, and with 8 kids, 14 Grands and 5 Great grands. As it says on my

    profile, I have lots of experience. With kids 4 mine, 4 his. I don't believe in

    calling them steps. That is degrading. DH's kids love me because they know I

    will good up against their Father, or my own kids to protect them. The stories I could tell.

    His X even accepted me because she heard from the kids how I stood up for the

    kids rights against their father. Will post good and bad stories couple times a day and

    would love to read your stories.

  13. I challenge you to defy my claim!

    Believe it or not, I am the Queen of Change.

    In our marriage of 40 years, we have moved 20 plus times. I have

    lived in four different countries and have had over twenty different

    jobs.

    While these may not be impressive statistics, especially to a

    military person, for a girl who started out in a small rural town, these

    may seem like a great deal of changes.

    You may think I got relieved from some jobs (fired), but actually I

    only got fired once! Mainly, the changes in occupation were necessary

    because of relocation.

    One of the things that has changed ginormously during those years is

    technology. In high school I excelled in shorthand. Now almost obsolete,

    it was the most progressive and competitive job ability to have at the

    time. I was awarded a certificate for achieving 120 words per minute

    taking Gregg shorthand. I used this skill as executive secretary in

    three different jobs, and can still take shorthand (albeit much slower)

    today.

    I also was adept at typing on a manual typewriter speeding at times

    up to 100 words per minute. I eventually graduated to a selectric

    electric typewriter passing up many job applicants on the timed writing

    tests. Just as a side note: I feel that I have digressed somewhat as I

    try to text on the tiny keypad of a smart phone. I watch in admiration

    as the younger generation deftly maneuver their fingers over miniscule

    keyboards on their touch screens.

    This typing skill has been used in most of the jobs I have had, even the current one as a freelance writer.

    One of the earliest jobs I had was taking medical dictation. In the

    laboratory of a hospital, I used a dictaphone which had a large plastic

    belt (3.5 inches) loaded onto a cylinder. They called it a “quantum leap

    forward” in technology for dictation. A pedal on the floor would speed

    up, stop, rewind or fast forward the ribbon as needed. I typed medical

    jargon pathologists dictated onto the recording belts and got quite good

    at it. Being a medical secretary was one of my favorite occupations.

    My first experience with computers was as a keypunch operator. Say,

    what? Yes, I took a course to learn to punch holes in cards, which were

    then loaded onto a data processing center (early computer) half the size

    of a room, which told it what to do. Need I say, we have come a long

    way baby?

    Thankfully, we now have personal computers and do not have to hire keypunch operators to tell our computer what to do.

    Another of my favorite jobs over the years was wiring integrated

    circuits. I got this job right out of high school working for Signetics,

    the first electronics manufacturer. Similar to Intel, we made

    microprocessors, but we did it all by hand with gold wire, whilst

    looking through a microscope. Once the skill was refined and became

    automatic, we had some great times keeping up with the latest gossip. I

    remember getting $2.85 per hour for wiring chips and thought I was big

    stuff!

    (Maybe that is what sparked my newest hobby making wire-wrapped jewelry).

    One of my numerous jobs was shelfing books in a library. I learned the

    Dewey Decimal System (alphanumeric code), and enjoyed the challenge of

    getting the books in the proper section, and in the right order. Later

    while working in a university, I became aware of the ISBN system

    (International Standard Book Number) used for ordering textbooks. Now,

    when I want a book, I just download it onto my Kindle, which can hold a

    plethora of information. Amazing and convenient!

    Long before Viagra erupted, I worked in a Urology clinic. It was one of

    my more interesting vocations. I assisted a physician in catheterizing

    men and women. I was also trained to take x-rays of women’s bladders. I

    was trained to take urologic x-rays. I inserted a catheter through their

    urethra, filled their bladder with dye-tinted fluid, took an x-ray, and

    then had them void before taking another x-ray. The purpose of this was

    to see if their ureters were blocked by kidney stones or a constriction

    and other such problems. I know catheters have improved dramatically

    since then and that you can even urinate through your belly button as an

    alternative way to be relieved (through a stoma).

    Lest you think I'm lying....

    Other occupations I have had (besides those talked about above):

    • Executive Secretary at Bonham Corporation.
    • Data Entry for Continuing Education at a university in Hawaii
    • Avon Lady (twice)
    • Saleswoman at a department store in American Samoa
    • Substitute teacher in high school in Tonga
    • Payroll clerk in Tonga
    • Saleslady for Melaleuca
    • Marketing for Fine Arts Department at a university in Hawaii
    • Graphic artist making brochures for various companies.
    • Worked for an optician setting up appointments, ordering glasses and measuring pupillary distance.
    • Worked at Teta Tours (General Sales Agent for Hawaiian Airlines) in Tonga
    • Freelance writer (currently) at beachcomberpete.com
    • Freelance artist elayne.imagekind.com

    My favorite occupation of all was that of being a mother. My

    four children taught me infinately more than I learned at all of my

    other jobs. Although the pay was not so great, the rewards have

    certainly been the best.

    Now that I am approaching retirement, I reflect on the great experiences I have had on and off the job.

    Each profession has infinitely increased my understanding and expertise.

    As a senior, I find that technology changes so fast, it can be very

    hard to keep up. However, I might be considered a progressive since I am

    on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Pinterest, and other social network

    sites, much to the chagrin of my children. However, I have an undeniable

    curiosity and hope to be able to follow the latest trends in technology

    to keep my mind sharp.

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    I have a 7 year old grandson, who has spent a significant amount of time with me since he was born. I have been battling for custody for two years. The custody trial is coming up in July.

    I just found out that my DIL had a heroin habit for a cpl of years but states she is clean and has been for 2 years. My son is also a drug abuser and in jail.

    I have been the only stable person in his life thus far. I don't do drugs or drink. I don't have a record. I haven't even dated in the last 7 years because I don't want my grandson getting attached as he does so easily and be disappointed. My whole life over the last few years has been to care for him.

    The court appointed evaluater threw me under the bus big time. She stated things like " i'm unfit because I try to buy my grandson's love because he had nicer clothes and more games at my home"

    She states that even though my DIL shows signs of anxiety and stress with 4 young children, and that her kids ( my grandson included) play in a cat urine filled room and 36 pages more. That custody should go to her.

    Now I drive a 6-8 hour round trip on Fridays to pick him up and another 6-8 hour trip to return him on Sundays every other weekend. The evaluator states that my visits should be cut because his mom can't control him after he's with me. I keep him engaged every minute he is here. We visit friends, and ride bikes, and play games, and do chores, and read. We color and dance and are very active for the entire weekend.

    While I'm happy my DIL is clean and sober, I feel scared that I'm going to lose my grandson. Selfishly I don't think I should since I'm the only stable person he has ever known.

    I feel broken and defeated, hoping to hear from you with inspirational stories.

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    blog-0026370001368120262.jpgWelcome to the first installment of Granny Writes!

    I'm a novelist, writing Paranormal Romance. I've always been a writer but I only decided to publish my stories a couple of years ago. Currently, I'm working Book 3 of my Archangels Creed series (written with Azure Boone), scheduled for release the first week of June.

    Hubby and I have been married 27 years, and are incredibly happy together. We have one adult daughter and she has blessed us with three amazing little grandsons. She is bipolar and refuses medication and not long ago we found out she's also an addict (more on both of those issues in a future post).

    After a series of relatively minor events that raised red flags, a major event took place and I caught her in a situation where the children were being dangerously neglected. Rather than argue, I just took the children to my house. That was a year and a half ago an she's never even asked to have them back. We're preparing to seek legal custody since it doesn't appear she'll ever make an effort to get to a position where she could care for them again. Who knows how long it will take us to undo some of the damage she inflicted on them.

    Now that I have this blog, I'll use it to record our progress. I have another blog at http://kenradaniels.com/blog, which is mostly about my books.

    Thanks for taking the time to read!

    Kenra

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    Our great grandaughter has been asked to visit her paternal grandparents in another state. They are willing to pay for her ticket to and from their state. The problem is she is only 6 yrs old and would be on the plane by herself with an airline person accompanying her. Her parents don't seem to have a problem..but the maternal grandparents frown on this mode of traveling for a young child as do I. It seems you hear about children getting left behind or put on the wrong plane frequently and this raises safety concerns..our grandchildren are our precious possessions and we don't want any type of harm coming to them..Are we being overly cautious regarding this arrangement?

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    What's better than Grandmas? GREAT-Grandmas!

    If we are lucky enough, we will have the privilege of achieving this status some day!

    All five of my grandchildren have known their great-grandmothers. I recently posted about losing my mom Donna, and shared photos of my grandkids sitting with her. The twins were almost 3 when she died, so they have recollections of that lady's lap they sat upon. The older kids remember visits to her house, talking with her on the phone and the money tucked in a card on holidays.

    Sadly, my son-in-law recently lost his grandmother; the Littles’ other great-grandma. Francis also lived out of state, but kept a

    presence in their lives with Christmas and Birthdays cards, phone calls and visits when they came to town. She was such an elegant lady. I always admired her straight and proud posture.

    The older girls are lucky........they still have their great-grandma whom they call Nanny! She lives cross country from them, but they

    keep in touch by phone and email and have visited her several times. Louise (yes, they all have 'real' names as the kiddos say) recently added a new title....great-great-grandmother! Can you imagine??? She is able to hold the child of her eldest grandson! Fannnnnntabulous!

    Once upon a time, these women were young moms. Eventually, they became grandmas to some very special men and women.....who, as time and fate would have it....helped to grow and enrich MY family! This is the miracle of growing along! These are the threads that create ancestral trees and family stories. Knowing their great-grandparents is a child's first link to history and the cycle of life.

    These women had careers, skills and talents. Donna was a big city girl, working in clothing and home good stores for years and eventually becoming a department manager. My kids love to recall how she'd teach them and their cousins to play cards when they stayed over! Francis and Louise were raised in the country, and helped oversee farm communities after marriage.

    Francis was a homemaker, acquiring self-sustaining skills long before sustainability became the in word! Her two grandsons remember how she loved to play and fish with them, and never missed their baseball and basketball games! Louise helped with harvesting and

    feeding the farm hands.....and guess what? She also found time to become a nurse! My daughter-in-law had the best

    of times running around and playing in the mud on the farm and listening to Nanny's funny stories.

    All three not only shared a love of reading.....but managed to pass it down through every generation! I see it on display every day as each of my grandkids devour book after book as soon as the magic combination of letters + sounds = words kicks in! Long

    before the days of journaling and book clubs, these great-grandmas encouraged their grandchildren to write about what they read. And as those kids grew older, they’d discuss the classics with grandma!

    Donna and Francis lived for 88 years! What a wonderful life they had; what wonderful treasures of the heart they left for their children

    and grandchildren. Louise is 85 and still going strong. She loves card games and parties; and recently moved to another house to be closer to that new great–great-grandbaby.

    I always say I'm a good grandma because I learned from my grandmothers.....and my two great-grandmas as well! They both passed away by the time I was ten, but I remember my grandmas telling me stories about them and having their pictures in frames on the China cabinet. This is my job now, mine and my two co-grandmas. We need to keep these rich legacies alive and fresh

    and important to our beautiful grandsons and granddaughters; and some day, God willing, we too will become great-grandmothers!

    I know my fab five will do the same for me! I hope they'll recall how I enjoy growing each day as I learn from them; how, instead of

    growing old, I say I'm just growing along!

    Let this be a Mother'sDay tribute of sorts…. because "so much of who we are is based on where we come from." Let's remember and honor great-grandmothers and great-great-grandmothers everywhere!

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    I have just lately joined Grandparents.com.

    My name is Denyse Graham, I am 84 years young and my 9 great grandchildren call me GG.

    I have many hobbies but my favourite is writing. I have been published twice and now I have a 'Love Story' on e-book.

    I love painting, music, knitting. I play Bridge and Bid Euchre once a week at a Community centre.

    I have enjoyed reading different blogs on Grandparents.com and glad for any of their advice.

    Looking forward to hearing from you!

    p.s. I have a big blog here http://mynameisdenyse.tumblr.com/ to learn a bit more about me, my family, and my just published novel!

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    Hello all, I am new to Grandparents.com and wanted say how much I have enjoyed reading through this site today. I am a 45 year old (recently) retired police officer (22 yrs experience). I am married to a wonderful woman (Jaci) and have 4 boys, ages 8 (Cameron), 14 (Chandler), 15 (Joey), 17 (Auston). My family is everything to me. Back in November while working my "beat", I was forced to take the life of a mentally ill man. I took this really hard and subsequently, decided to leave the force. I was in a really bad place and depressed. But let me digress, I lost both sets of my grandparents in the late 80's and early 90's and have also lost my mother to cancer in 2005 and then my father to a heart attack in 2008. I miss all of them, dearly. Needless to say, they were all very important in my life. I have old photos of them in my house, and on occasion I tell my sons some of the many stories I remember about my grandparents. It makes me sad that none of my children were able to meet them and it makes me even sadder to think that they do not have "their own" grandparents any longer. I oftentimes wonder if they will remember them, as they were so young when my parents passed away. Getting back to my story about my (former) job... Mentally, I was in a really bad place after "the incident". One night I suddenly awoke for no apparent reason, and remembered a dream that I saw my mother standing at the foot of my bed. I do not recall her saying anything, but when I awoke, I immediately nudged my wife and said, "Remind me in the morning that I have something to tell you." Startled, she demanded that I tell her that instance. I explained to her that I didn't want her to think that I was going crazy, but told her that I thought I saw my mother in my dream and somehow, an amazing idea came to me. I then asked her, "How would you feel about hearing from your grandpa again?" It should be noted that he is no longer with us, either. She looked at me like I was weird, and said "He is dead!, I can't!" Then I asked her again, and added, "What if it was possible, how would you feel about hearing from your grandpa, after he passed away? What if you heard from him on Christmas day (because Christmas was right around the corner at this time), how would you feel?" She said, "It would be awesome, what's your point?" I then told her my idea. What if people created personal voice messages for their loved ones and I saved them until after they passed away. What if they picked which date and to whom their messages would go to and I would deliver it to them on that specific date, directly to their telephone? Think about how amazing it would be to hear from a deceased loved one, months or years after they were gone. Looking at old photos is fine, but wouldn't it be better to hear their voice again? Think about it, do you even remember what they sounded like? How amazing would that be??? What a terrific gift that would be! I have since began a new venture in my life and I call it "Message from Heaven". I have created a business that is affordable to everyone and sheds a positive light on all involved. I did not write this blog in an effort to promote my business, rather, to share my experiences and express my excitement for my newfound quest! If you are at all interested, I invite you to visit my website, www.themessagefromheaven.com, so if you look for it as .net and don't find it, please try the .com version. This is the first blog that I have ever written and plan on adding this post to my site! Thanks and I would love to hear any feed back.

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    I am a grandmother in need of some input into my status as one who has spent more time with a grandchild than the parents, due to their working. I have cared for this grandchild for six years. She was a preemie, born approx. 4 months early, weighing less than 2 pounds. Thusly, she had to have extremely delicate care for quite some time. I am in the situation where, I feel as though I have no input in her life. I am sorely resented, even though my caring for her was a neccessity. I can understand the resentment to a degree, but the acting upon the resentment, is baffling to me.

    If any grandparent who reads this, and somewhat can understand, please , please, I desparately need some imput. Thank you,

    Leah

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    OK, so this may very well be my pet peeve, but I have to know why..... Here goes: I work in the food/customer service industry and sometimes I work an event dealing with money.What I would like to know is why do some customers hand you their money or payment but others set it on the counter. Like today, my register is lower and it is very hard to stretch over and reach the money off the counter. I personally find it rude, am I wrong? The thing is, every customer that puts the money on the counter for payment opens their hand up to receive the change in their hand. Now naturally my thought is to set it on the counter, (what's good for the goose is good for the gander) but out of courtesy and the right thing to do I set it in their hand. Of course today a couple of times I just stood there and repeated the total like I did not see the money so that they would hand it to me. It worked, they begrudgingly handed it to me.

    So, please tell me grandparents if you set the money on the counter instead of the cashier or bartenders hand, why? What is the reason behind this, please I would really like to know.

    If you are a cashier,bartender or other worker that receives money, tickets, etc. does it bother you that the customer does not put the payment in your hand but expects you to put the change in theirs?

    I'm going to be honest not many things bother me, but this does. I am right there my hand is out and the customer still sets it on the counter, but then when I go to give them change, wallah! their hand is there waiting for it, why?

    Just a friendly I need to know is all. Appreciate any feedback on this, thanks.