In a recent entry, I talked about how hard it can be, as nanny granny, to keep the line between my DD and me in sight when I'm so much a part of her and my DGC's lives. I've also spoken before about changes in my caregiving role. But here, I want to talk about another change - one that's very natural, I think, but that doesn't make it any easier to see where the boundaries are, either - shifting relationships with the DGC! Until the last year or so, DGD was very attached to me, so much so that I worried that it might hurt DD's feelings though she (DD) seemed to brush it off. DGS, on the other hand, was way more into "Mommy" than "Grammy," and, in fact, perhaps that's what made it easier for DD to accept DGD's attachment to me.
So you'd think we had it all figured out for, at least, the next several years. Though they loved us both, of course, and I've never thought of myself as the "2nd mom" or anything like that, DGS was, more or less, "Mommy's boy" while DGD was "Grammy's girl," at least as far as we women were concerned (I could write a whole other entry about the dads and "Grampas" - maybe I will, sometime). But, gradually, over this past year, DGD has become "all about Mom." Due to her somewhat erratic schedule, some days, DD takes the kids to school and some days, I do - but on the days that it's me, DGD always complains, "I want Mommy!" DGS, to the contrary, though he still adores DD, has become more clingy where I'm concerned, even asking me to stay in their home when they're not there!
Not that I expect their new attitudes to become set in stone. Those will shift, again, I'm sure - and again - as time goes on, I become less and less of a presence in the children's lives and their world widens more and more to embrace friends and classmates, etc. as well as family. The one constant, for me, is my love for them - that, of course, will always be there!