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Notes from a Nanny Granny

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Dolls

RoseRed135

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DGD loves her dolls! Given the time, she can play with them for hours! And I think it's wonderful! It's a joy to hear her ( to the degree that I can make out what she's saying/doing) play that she's their "Mommy," teacher, doctor or take them on some imaginary adventure or other! :)

I don't recall taking this much pleasure in overhearing my own DDs play with their dolls (though I do know I enjoyed hearing them play something together, as I do DGD and DGS). Maybe I was too busy. Or had my mind on some of the other aspects of my busy schedule. Or perhaps I was too worried about the possible effects on body image of some dolls, etc. Or maybe I was just too impacted by DM's and MIL's critcism that they had "too many dolls," even though DH and I didn't think so.

As a nanny granny, I'm still busy and still have a lot on my mind (so scratch those as possible differences). But I don't seem to worry, anymore, about the possible effect of this/that doll. Nor do I concern myself with whether or not DGD has "too many." Perhaps it's b/c her toys and how they may or may not affect her is not at all my responsibility, this time around, the way it is her mom's/my YDD's.

Then again, ODD aggravates over these issues when she thinks about them. In fact, this past Christmas, all the gfits on DGD's list were dolls and we each gave her at least one (including "Santa"/YDD). ODD and SIL got her a couple of dolls, as well. But ODD told me she felt conflicted about getting her still more toys that were so specifically slated for girls/not more gender neutral.

So maybe the difference has something to do with age/stage of life? Or perhaps with the fact that I have less energy than I did as a mom and am just glad when my DGC find activities that fill their time? (Then again, I know parents can feel that way, too, sometimes.) Or maybe b/c I don't see where any doll - or the number of them - actually hurt either of my DDs, in any way (not making light of anyone else' concerns) and so, I'm more relaxed about it?

All I really know, here, is that DGD loves her dolls! And I think it's wonderful! :)




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RoseRed135

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P.S. And yes, I also like hearing her play with her other toys/DGS playing with his toys.

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imback

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Awww, enjoyed reading this!! One can never have too many dolls!!! I don't worry about the gender neutral thing. I think it's great, when children in this modern age, play creatively, using their imaginations, and don't  overdo the electronic thing.

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Cobaltblue

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I believe that some girls are going to really enjoy playing with dolls.  I sure did when I was little.  I enjoy babies and children now.  I don't think that parents should worry that children want to play with the "gender" toys.  I have watched children play in my Pre-K classroom.  There are girls who really want to play with the "girl" toys and some will play with them more often than other girls. Then sometimes they will play with different toys when they had to go to a particular center that is different than what they are used to playing with.  It is interesting how the boys and the girls play at the same center at different times.   I feel if GD is given a chance to play with different types of toys would be good but  she may still gravitate toward the dolls. My granddaughter has had the opportunity to play with all types of toys (boy and girl so called gender  toys), she played with cars and trucks and liked them a lot about a year and a half ago.  I have a lot of  variety of toys since I taught Pre-K.   Now she likes to play with her dolls and be teacher and sometimes doctor.  She doesn't seem to want to build with blocks or play with cars or any boy gender toys.  If her parents are worried maybe they could give her some exposure to the "boy gender" toys by visiting some children or buying or going to a nursery school or mother's day out and see what happens. Even if not I believe it will be ok is she does play with the dolls.  I had two daughters and they both played so differently.  One played with Barbies for hours the other didn't play at all with them.  I believe it is the personality of the children in what they choose to play.  i wouldn't worry about how and what they play. 

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RoseRed135

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Thanks ladies! And I agree. As for DGD, she has ample opportunity to play with "boy toys," since she has a brother, my DGS, close in age and, to some degree, they share. They also have some "gender neutral" toys (blocks, legos, etc.)  And, over time, they've each been given a few toys that might, ordinarily be seen as for the other sex. But yes, DGD still gravitates, mostly, to the dolls and doll-related items.

 

I agree that it's about personality, Cobalt. And sometimes, about stages, too. For example, until recently, DGS wanted to play with his sister's toys, "girl toys" or not, as much as with his own. But, lately, he's all about "This is for boys"/this is for girls" (I'm guessing he picked these ideas up from kids at school) and only wants to play with the "boy" or neutral items.

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