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Guide Parents/Godparents



Hi all,

I have a question. What does the term Guide Parents mean? And what is the role of Godparents? My DIL is catholic and DS is atheist and not baptized. Her parents are catholic and they want the baby baptized. And we totally respect that. The priest told them that they need to find two sets of Guide Parents. I have never heard of anything like that, except for godparents. Is there money involved and also can we go to the baptism - my husband and I - even though we are atheists also? Or would that be hypocritical? When we go we would like to do this because we love our little granddaughter so much and will do it for her.

Any input and help is greatly appreciated.





Hello again, gammy! I'm afraid I don't what "Guide Parents" are or if they are any different than godparents. To my understanding, traditionally, godparents are expected to take care of a child if, unfortunately, the parents pass away or for some other reason can't raise their child, anymore - or, at least, see to it that someone does. However, IDK if anyone really follows that today and think it's more of a formality than anything else.


Godparents are also "required" or requested to participate in certain ceremonies, I believe, in some religions and cultures. But all of this probably varies from denomination to denomination and culture to culture.


Her parents are catholic and they want the baby baptized.


Does the word "they" here refer to DILs' parents, as I think it does? B/c, if so, in my view, it's not up to them. It's up to DS and DIL. It's lovely that you respect the MGPs' feelings. But most important, in the end, IMO, is that everybody respect whatever decision the baby's parents - DS and DIL - make. (I take it that you and DH will but, from other blog entries of yours, I'm not so sure that the MGPs will if it doesn't fulfill their wishes... sigh...). So though I don't blame you for thinking ahead, I wouldn't start planning on attending a baptism yet. There might not be one.


If there is, I see no harm in your going, atheists or not. You would be going to celebrate a milestone in your GD's life. You wouldn't have to do anything religious/counter to your beliefs, that I'm aware of. So I don't see a problem.


I've replied, once again, to your other blog entry, as well.

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My dil had my granddaughter baptized even though she's not Catholic because her grandparents were and it was her grandfather's dying wish that she be and she was very close to him. My son and her were already separated by that point and he wouldn't go, somewhat because he did feel the whole thing was somewhat hypocritical, especially since he's not religious at all; not sure I'd call him an atheist though there are times when he says he doesn't believe but I think it's more he just doesn't understand because he'll ask questions at other times.


I didn't go either, somewhat because there is somewhat more to it than just a formality that I was concerned about granddaughter thinking I was going along with if/when she found out that I'd gone but I really endeavoured to make sure her mom knew that it was nothing personal with her or not wanting to have a relationship with granddaughter; thankfully we're able to work through those type things and we have a good relationship - at least where granddaughter's concerned - she's even wanting to come see later and she's thinking of letting her - guess the shoe will be on the other foot then and we'll see how it goes.

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As a Catholic, I've NEVER heard of "guide parents". Godparents, yes, but not "guide parents". It's a requirement that there be at least one godparent, but there may be two, one of each gender. A godparent must be a practicing Catholic who is at least 16 years of age and is prepared to take on the role of assisting the parents in the child's faith formation. (If there are two godparents they don't have to be married. I'm godmother to ODNe and DNi. ODNe's godfather is my second-oldest brother, and DNi's godfather is my youngest brother.) A baptized non-Catholic may serve as a Christian witness to the Baptism, but there still must be one Catholic godparent. A non-baptized person cannot serve officially as a witness or a godparent, although they are still welcome to attend the Baptism. There also must be a founded hope that the child will be raised in the Catholic faith.


If DS and DIL do not intend to have their child baptized, they shouldn't have to worry, as a rule, that the MGPs will baptize their child secretly. If the MGPs know their faith, they should be aware that such a Baptism would be valid, but illicit (i.e. against canon law). A lay person (i.e. not a deacon or a priest) can licitly baptize ONLY if there is an immediate danger of death and no deacon or priest is available.

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