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What to say when your grandson doesn't want to be your buddy

dwilson60151@aol.com

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Hello, I was wondering, how to react when my 4 year old grandson tells his grandpa he doesn't want to be his buddy anymore. I'm sure some of this is his age and grandpa likes to tease sometimes. Help Thanks Debbi




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dingoloader

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Say ok, act like its no big deal(do NOT guilt him) then let him know that if he wants to be buddies he will be there for him.

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BlueEyedGirl

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I agree - he's getting to that age - around the time they start school - where they start to identify with people outside of their families and differentiate between their family and friends.  I would not make a big deal out of it or let it bother grandpa - it's just part of the growing up process.

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RoseRed135

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Welcome dwilson! Thank you for bringing your question to us!

 

 I agree with the above posters. In fact, chances are, your GS (grandson) will still want to spend time w/ "grandpa" and is just expressing the fact that he now has more friends his own age, etc.

 

Just want to add that If grandpa's teasing has been upsetting GS, maybe it's time to stop. While I don't think it's necessarily the main reason for GS' comment, it might be related. But if ir's lighthearted and brief andGS hasn't been reacting badly to it, then it's probably not involved.

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darkprincess

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I don't think you should get to worried about this. Don't react at all. Your grandson gets to decide who his "buddy" is and this doesn't take anything away from being a grandpa.

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britomart

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I agree that you shouldn't react to this.  Just take it in stride.  I think it probably has a lot to do with age.  I think kids like to be contrary at that age to get a reaction. 

 

Also with respect to the teasing, I think you should stop.  Kids can be very sensitive.  My son will be 4 in a few months and he's very sensitive about being teased and I have to remind myself of that because I do like to tease and kid around with him.  I have to monitor myself very carefully and make sure to kid very gently and to stop when he says he doesn't like it. 

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annierobyn

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Say "cool" and let it go. He is showing his independence. You are his GF not his "buddy". As long as he knows that you will always be there for him no matter what!

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Ask Granpa why he thinks the child feels that way.  Also, ask the child.  There maybe something else going on that you are not aware of.

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MrsKitty

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You don't need to say anything to the child. If grandpa is worried, he should stop teasing the child. I'm sure grandpa doesn't like to be teased, it seems the child also is not a fan of that behavior.

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