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Christmas Ornaments

gammy915

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Hello, I hope everyone had a very peaceful and happy Thanksgiving!

here is a question I have:

Every year for Christmas we would like to give our sweet GD a very special ornament to hang on her tree . Do we talk to the parents first about this or do we just give an ornament - this year would be the first one for GD- and then tell them that from then on we will be giving her an ornament to put on the tree. We were thinking of a Santa ornament or an angel or a snowman or a snowflake or a star etc. In any case we want it to be very special so that she remembers us as her GP from whom she gets this special ornament. Are we too uptight about this or what do you all think?

Thanks.

Gammy915




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HopefulbutFrustrated

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It is a sweet idea.  I would ASK the parents.  I would also recommend not emphasizing that it is the child's FIRST ornament.  I have a friend this happened to so I know it can be a sore subject.  Her MIL was INSISTENT that ornaments was a tradition started by friends DH's GF.  It was, GF gave to DF, DF gave to DH.  Following this tradition then DH should give an ornament each year to his own LO... MIL decided to make the tradition about her and emphasize that it was the babes FIRST ornament.  Not first ornament from her, first ornament PERIOD.  The parents were big on ornaments with their family unit so it definitely made MIL worse in both their eyes.  MIL and DH's DF had even been divorced for years before MIL carried on the bogus tradition in the name of her XH's deceased Father. 

 

Talk to the parents. Listen :)  I think an ornament with  the year and a quick "We love you, merry christmas, Grandma and Grandpa. " in the box would be sweet.  Good luck and Happy Holidays!

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PhalenMum

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absolutely talk to the parents, they probably have a 'babys first ornament' picked out. Maybe an ornament for your tree? one that LO (when old enough) can help with. Then when LO is an adult she can pick a few to keep for her own tree.

 

When I was growing up I had no less than 4 different ornaments every year from different people. It got overwhelming to say the least. As an adult I have maybe 5 of those 72 ornaments.

Why? because as an adult I enjoy picking out my own ornaments and there would be no room on my tree if I used all of the ornaments I got from my childhood.

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RoseRed135

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Another vote for talking to the parents first. They may be totally fine w/ the idea - even delighted! But if they tell you they'd rather you didn't, please accept that graciously. OTOH, they may think it's wonderful for GPs to get ornaments for their child. OTOH, it may mean a lot to them to be the ones to select those ornaments and they may be worried that, as in Phalen's case, there will end up being "too many" if GPs pick one out each year, too.

 

Above all, I'm going to agree that you shouldn't act as if it's going to be baby's "FIRST ornament." Please let the parents decide that.

 

Meanwhile, hope you all enjoy baby's first Christmas!

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texasgirl83

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Talk with parents first. It's their tree and they may have an ornament tradition they want to start. As an adult cleaning out the house of a family member those ornaments get forgotten and are really not momentos. In 20 years they get thrown out..even the 'oh so special' ones. It's a harsh reality as my mom would say 'life is for the living'. I kept one 'special' one but it's only specially because I made it special not because someone else said it was. In fact I would assume the person who gave it, gave it as decor and turned it into an ornament. What is special to you may not (and probably won't be) special to someone else.

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gammy915

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Thanks all for your input.

We ended up NOT giving an ornament.

DIL collects Hello Kitty things for  GD and so we concentrated on that. We found a darling locally handmade chrocheted "Gingerbread" hat with braids for a girl and we gave that to GD's Mom. Guess what?  DIL gave the hat to her sister and asked her to put it on for a second just to see how it looks on GD and her sister refused saying that GD was too hot for trying this on. What? Was she rude or what? I need your answers on this.

Also, the same sister ( GD's aunt ) gave our GD  for her 1st birthday this : A creepy looking Voodoo Doll with an NRA Cap. GD is 1 year old. And for Christmas she gave her a fully automated $ 200 car which is approved for 3 to 5 year olds. Are we too critical? Or what?  

DH says that when I go and visit our GD and see that awful doll that I should ask DIL that she cover it up because it makes me feel very uncomfortable. How do I handle this?   

 

Thanks for your input and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

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