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what to do now? Voodoo Dolls????

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DIL collects Hello Kitty things for GD and so we concentrated on that for Christmas gifts for our sweet GD.. We found a darling locally handmade chrocheted "Gingerbread" hat with braids for a girl and we gave that to GD's Mom. Guess what? DIL gave the hat to her sister and asked her to put it on for a second just to see how it looks on GD and her sister refused saying that GD was too hot for trying this on. What? Was she rude or what? I need your answers on this.

Also, the same sister ( GD's aunt ) gave our GD for her 1st birthday this : A creepy looking Voodoo Doll with an NRA Cap. GD is 1 year old. And for Christmas she gave her a fully automated $ 200 car which is approved for 3 to 5 year olds. Are we too critical? Or what?

DH says that when I go and visit our GD and see that awful doll that I should ask DIL that she cover it up because it makes me feel very uncomfortable. How do I handle this?

Thanks for your input and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!







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BlueEyedGirl

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Happy New Year Gammy. First, the doll does sound kind of creepy - especially if it is intended to be a Voodoo Doll - but I wouldn't say a word about it. If she's looking for a way to get under your skin - she'll just use the fact that it bothers you to her advantage. I would ignore it and not say a word. What she allows her daughter to accept as gifts is up to her - unless they pose a danger to the child (choking hazard for instance,small pieces). 

 

I'm afraid I don't understand what your DIL's sister meant by "too hot to try that on". Is she very young and prone to teenage-like reactions? The reason I ask is that she used the word "hot" to refer to a 1 year old. That seems a little off to me. It sounds like she just didn't want to do what her sister asked. 

 

Out of curiosity though -how do you know for certain that these things were said? Did your DIL tell you what was said? Did you see the Voodoo Doll? Did DIL tell you her response to the gingerbread braids? 

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ImpishMom

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Honestly, ignore it. What your gd gets, and from whom, isn't your concern. If your DIL wants your gdd to wear the hat, then she'll put it on her. What your DIL's sister does isn't something you need to be concerned about. Your DIL can manage her sister.

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lizasnan

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"hot" = eager

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britomart

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It sounds like you are concerning yourself with things that don't concern you really.  I am still a little confused about what happened with the hat.  You gave it to your DIL and your DIL gave it to her sister (GD's aunt) and asked her sister to put it on GD but the sister refused.  Is that right?  And you think someone was rude in this exchange?  Who do you think was rude and why?  I'm trying to figure that out.  Maybe I misunderstood something but it doesn't sound like anyone was rude in that interaction. 

 

As for the voodoo doll and the $200 car, those things are not your concern.  It's not your business to monitor or approve the gifts that are given to your GD.  That job is for GD's parents - your DIL and your son.  If they are okay with the gifts then you need to accept that and move on with life, unless the gifts are something very dangerous and it does not sound like that is the case. 

 

If the sight of the voodoo doll bothers you then don't look at it.  It sounds to me like it was meant to be a funny/joke gift anyway. 

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PhalenMum

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none of those things are your business.

 

 

btw a real voodoo doll looks nothing like the dolls you can get in stores

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RoseRed135

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Hi grammy! And Happy  New Year!

 

I don't blame you for being critical of the gifts DIL's sister gave GD. But PPs are right, IMO, that's not your concern - fortunately, I think - DS and DIL have to deal w/ it - or decide not to - not you and DH. You two get to just be GPs, enjoying your GD. You may not agree w/ me, but, IMO, that's a good thing.

 

I don't quite get what happened w/ the hat. If it was a gift from you to DIL's mom, how did DIL get a hold of it? I'm guessing she grabbed it and then asked her sister to put it on GD. Not sure why her sister wouldn't or why DIL didn't just do it, herself. Not sure, either why DIL's mom let DIL take the hat, but I guess she thought it was just in fun, and besides, that's between them. Now if they were sitting in front of you (were you w/ them, at the time?) and decided to give the hat to GD, instead of DIL's mom, that, IMO, would be very rude to you and DH. But while what you're describing may reflect some issues among them, I'm glad to say I don't see it as rude to you, in any sense of the word.

 

So no, I wouldn't say anything about any of this, the "creepy" doll, included. IMO, you and DH just need to keep getting GD things you've been told she likes - and kudos to you for doing that - whenever you bring gifts - and, as I said earlier, just enjoying your time w/ her. :)

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darkprincess

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My daughter has some "creepy" looking dolls. DH and I have bought her some, she has picked out several herself, and my brother gave her one. My MIL has shown her distaste for them, openly and now dd has decided that when grandma comes over she doesn't want to let grandma into her room because she doesn't want to hear what she has to say about her toys.  DD was 7 when she decided this, and she came up with this solution on her own. I am actually very proud of her for standing up for herself but not getting in a fight with grandma.

Be careful because it is not just the parents who might be annoyed at the judgment, and you probably don't want to alienate your grandkids.

 

I agree with everyone else this really isn't any of your business.

I also don't understand what happened with the hat.

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