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RoseRed135

Custodial Issues 4: Half Parent/Half Grandparent Or...??

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If you're raising your GC/relative child(ren), how do you define yourself - as ""grandparent," "parent" or a little of both? And how does/do your GC view you? The parents?

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Or more generally speaking, do you see a custodial GP as more parent, GP or a combination?

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She calls me "mom" - unless I ignore her (to annoy her ;) ), then sometimes she'll go "NANA!"

She probably started it cause my boys called me that, but she does know the difference - and chooses what to use (makes no difference to me).

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We have partial custody of our GS but we are known as GRParents, he calls us Grandmom and Pop Pop. My DD is deceased and I would never in a million yrs have him call me Mom, I have taken her place as much as I can in raising him, teaching him, and undoing all the bad the Dad (and I use the term Dad loosly) does.

That being said, I am still Grandmom and always will be, and hopefully someday he will always remember me as the Grandmom that helped him get thru life w/out his Mom and w/his crappy so called Dad.

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You ladies have brought up another aspect of this issue, that of what the child or children call you. And you've come up w/ 2 very different responses though, IMO, that may be partly b/c you're dealing w/ different situations.

 

@ All - Anyone else want to share whether they feel more like a parent or a GP? Or if their GC call them by a parent name? Even if you've addressed these issues in older threads, please feel free to join in this conversation, as well.

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Also, if you'd like, if the parents are at all in the picture, do you think they have the same view of this as you do or a different one?

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Bringing this topic back to the front. If you've commented in here before, please feel free to tell us about any changes that have occurred since then and/or share any new thoughts and feelings on the topic. If you're a GRG (grandparent raising grandchild/ren) who hasn't posted in here before, please feel free to do so now. Same if you're raising any other relative kids or know someone who is.

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I have been named Mommy and I feel like my GD's mommy.  Definitely have been robbed of the GP role with this little one.  Also, it's affected my GP role with the other Grand's that live with their parents, as there just isn't the same amount of time left to play that role.  Make me sad, but what else can you do?

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8 hours ago, BabaKnits said:

I have been named Mommy and I feel like my GD's mommy.  Definitely have been robbed of the GP role with this little one.  Also, it's affected my GP role with the other Grand's that live with their parents, as there just isn't the same amount of time left to play that role.  Make me sad, but what else can you do?

I hear you!

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