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RoseRed135

Books about Grandparenting

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Has anyone seen The Grandparents Handbook, by Elizabeth Laban? Delightful book, full of lots of games and crafts, etc. to do w/ grandkids (though, of course, I think, you -general GP/relative - often need to check w/ parents first).

 

Or does anyone else care to share any other good books - lighthearted or more serious - for/about GPs?

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This past fall I read a couple of books focused on grandparenting. One of them was Eye of My Heart,  edited by writer and former GP.com columnist, Barbara Graham. It's "old news," I suppose (published in 2009) and some of you may have already read it. But if not, it's a collection of essays and anecdotes about being a GM, written by professional authors, some of them quite famous (think: Judith Viorst and Letty Cotton Pogrebin). I found myself identifying w/ many of the thoughts and feelings voiced by these GMs though others were completely alien to me. LOVED some of the stories and POVs, while disagreeing w/ others. One or two of these GM writers seemed to me to have a strong sense of entitlement, I'm afraid, but, happily, most appeared to have learned to curb any desire to overstep boundaries or to avoid it quite naturally. But what truly gripped my attention was the depth of feeling in most of the pieces and the sheer honesty of them all.

 

Another was The Boomer's Guide to Grandparenting, by Kathryn and Allan Zullo. Here I was hoping to find advice geared towards the modern GP, today's variety of GP situations and current "rules" for being a GP. And for the most part I did. The book is filled w/ timely material about how boomer GPs are different from their own GPs and how childcare and childrearing have changed, etc. And w/ what I consider timeless advice about respecting parent's rights to make decisions and refraining from unsolicited criticism/suggestions. Also, it contains a lot of practical tips about modern safety rules for cribs, carseats (if needed), etc. though I think it needs a strong reminder to GPs to check w/ parents first before choosing an item. But then there are a few "bad," IMO, suggestions, such as this one about breaking parental rules while babysitting: "...what are they going to do? Ground you?" Are there any GP advice books that don't contain any ideas that might lead to friction between parents and GPs?

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On Grandparents Raising Grandchildren - Just came across this online: The Sacred Work of Grandparents Raising Grandchildren, by Elaine K Williams. It looks like it details the stories of a number of actual GRGs. Also, it acknowledges the challenges they face and the sacrifices they make.And explores a lot of the emotional and psychological issues that both the GPs and the GC can go through.

I wonder, have any of the GRGs here read it (or something similar)? Or would you be interested in reading this kind of book?

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I've been exploring additional books by John Croyle (Bringing Out The Winner In Your Child). He has Two-Minute-Drill-Manhood-Proven-Raising SonsRaising a Princess, 8 Essential Virtues to Teach Your Daughter, and Who You Are; A Story of Second Chances

What I really admire about his works, is that along with his wife & two bio kids, he runs the Big Oak Boys Ranch and Big Oak Girls Ranch in rural Alabama. He is faith based, but even if you aren't, his principals and values are strong. That's what he teaches his "kids". Those kids were considered the "throw away"...he gives them love, a home and an education. 

He addresses the issues kids with physical & emotional abuse from their families, I've found his practices apply to all parenting situations.

 

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23 hours ago, rosered135 said:

On Grandparents Raising Grandchildren - Just came across this online: The Sacred Work of Grandparents Raising Grandchildren, by Elaine K Williams. It looks like it details the stories of a number of actual GRGs. Also, it acknowledges the challenges they face and the sacrifices they make.And explores a lot of the emotional and psychological issues that both the GPs and the GC can go through.

I wonder, have any of the GRGs here read it (or something similar)? Or would you be interested in reading this kind of book?

Will have to look that one up, thanks for the suggestion.

 

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@BabaKnits You're welcome. Please realize, though, that I haven't read more than excerpts from it. And, of course, I don't have the firsthand experience w/ actually raising a GC, the way you do. So please let me/us know what you think of it.

And, of course, feel free to recommend any others.

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