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RoseRed135

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Welcome to Grandparenting From Afar (GFA)! Please feel free to vent, ask questions and/or share ideas about keeping up your long distance relationships w/ your adult sons/daughters and your grandchildren. We're here for you!

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I'm a new member, these threads don't seem to be active, I don't see anything current... am I in the right place?

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2 hours ago, TuTuLovesYou said:

I'm a new member, these threads don't seem to be active, I don't see anything current... am I in the right place?

 Welcome, TutuLovesYou! Glad to have you aboard! The 2 threads you posted in are "stickyposts/" threads pinned to the front of a forum w/ a thumbtack icon - these can be posted in at any time.

My guess is you're a LDGP  (long distance grandparent) - Is that correct? Please let us know more about yourself and your situation....

Looking forward to hearing from you some more!  :)

ETA: If you look through the threads pinned to the front of this group, you'll see a few were posted in as recently as May or March. (You can see when the latest post in a thread was on the right.)  Perhaps you would be more comfortable posting in one of those? Please feel free...

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Thank you for reaching out to me RoseRed135. I have 2 granddaughters ages 4 years and 5 months old. It is very difficult being the long distance grandparent, as I know everyone here understands. I look forward to engaging conversations and emotional support through this community group. 

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2 hours ago, TuTuLovesYou said:

Thank you for reaching out to me RoseRed135. I have 2 granddaughters ages 4 years and 5 months old. It is very difficult being the long distance grandparent, as I know everyone here understands. I look forward to engaging conversations and emotional support through this community group. 

You're more than welcome TuTu!

Regarding the difficulty of being a LDGP, you might find it helpful to check out the following thread, if you haven't already (just click it on):

 

 

 

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My granddaughters live halfway across the country and I don't get to visit them very often. Their lives are very busy and sometimes it seems like between my visits, they almost forget who I am. I try to visit for a week at a time, when I can get there, so they'll have time to get to know me again - then they cry when I leave (and so do I!) But I'm sure that before long they are swept up again in their busy lives. Skyping doesn't seem to be a viable option for us but my DIL does send me pictures pretty often. For that I am very grateful. I hope that when I retire, I'll be able to visit my grandchildren more often or figure out how to be more connected with them. I'd love to hear ideas from other grandparents who also live far away from their grandchildren. 

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@Abuela303 - Welcome! Glad to have you aboard and to see you becoming an active poster!

Like other posters in this forum, I know it must be hard for you to be so far away from your GC (grandchildren). But it sounds as if you connect w/ them very well when you get the chance to be together. Yes, I'm sure they're "swept up in their busy lives" after you leave, but I'm also sure they will look back fondly at your visits when they are older. One set of my GPs lived in a different state, but even now that I'm a GM (grandmother), myself, my memories of them are quite vivid and happy. Also, when they get old enough, they might be able to come visit you sometimes.

I'm sorry skyping doesn't work out for you and yours, but glad DIL sends you pictures frequently. Please remember, too, that kids generally like to receive "snail mail," in the form of cards, postcards, or brief letters (depending on their age). Even if they don't always reply, it's a good way, IMO, to keep them aware of their far away "Abuela."

As far as "ideas from other grandparents who live far away...,," there are already many here, sometimes all together in one thread. You might want to click on this one, for example"

 

 

 

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Dear RoseRed, thanks so much for your response and for posting the link to that very helpful thread. I'm still learning my way around and although I had been to that general area, I had not seen that particular thread yet. I also appreciated hearing your personal life experience with your grandparents who lived out of state; my own grandparents (I had only one set) lived in the same city with us and we saw them nearly every weekend while I was growing up, so I had no frame of reference for long distance grandparenting. 

As you suggested, I am hopeful that someday when the girls are older, they will be allowed to come to visit me during school vacations/holidays. By then I should be retired, and there will also be more options available to me for travel and visiting. 

Thanks again!

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19 hours ago, RoseRed135 said:

I'm sorry skyping doesn't work out for you and yours, but glad DIL sends you pictures frequently. Please remember, too, that kids generally like to receive "snail mail," in the form of cards, postcards, or brief letters (depending on their age). Even if they don't always reply, it's a good way, IMO, to keep them aware of their far away "Abuela."

^^^THIS^^^

Welcome, Abuela...you will find support and great ideas here (and a few opinions, lol). 3 of my 9 GK were born away from me and didn't move closer until the oldest was 8. However, DS/DIL had pix of the extended family on their fridge and we were all discussed frequently. So, when they'd come to visit, they knew they were coming to see me and who I am. So they'd come up my stairs and fly into my arms....I'd send snail mail with pictures...kids love to see their name on an envelope, even when they can't read. The letters are read to them so they hear about what you are doing (how the garden is growing, you're looking forward to making cookies next time you see them, etc). Plant those seeds, you'll be surprised at what they remember when they see you next.

 

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