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RoseRed135

What's the best someone can say to/do for you...

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... when you're feeling low? Worst?

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Music helps more than just about anything....as for people....GKs giggles, talking to my sister or reaching out to help someone else...misery does love company, but rather than getting down to wallow in it, helping someone else helps me.

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The best that someone can do for me is to just listen ........ don't dismiss what I'm feeling and don't tell me things could be worse. ...... just listen .......and acknowledge my pain and frustration.  A hug goes a long way too.  

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Loud music, the kind that you feel pounding in your chest, helps me.  Also walks where I can see something inspirational, like flowers, birds, flowing water, clouds.  

Talking with a friend who has had a similar experience can help me too, if the person is open to listening.

Sometimes people are blue, sad, down in the dumps, though, because they have clinical depression that can be helped by therapy and/or medications.  Sometimes a professional's help is needed.  The a friend or family member might help by enouraging me to get that help.

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@KaIana - Haven't seen you in a long time! Welcome back!

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Thanks Rose.  Life has taken lots of turns since I was here!

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18 minutes ago, KaIana said:

Thanks Rose.  Life has taken lots of turns since I was here!

Hope they were good ones, KaIana!

Meanwhile, there have been some changes here, too. You might want to look at the new "permissions" chart, for example, if you haven't already:

 

 

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Listen to what I'm saying, and depending on who they are a hug does wonder. 

 

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When I am really low, I just want to crawl into DH's arms and have him tell me its going to be alright - whether it will be or not I always find comfort in this.

s/o This was also the one thing that was the hardest when DH and I were disagreeing about MIL being full time childcare for DS when he was a newborn. Through the whole fight all I wanted was this, and it was the one thing I couldnt have at the time.

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