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Tell us about YOUR grandmother(s) (slightly OT)

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Though this is, generally, a forum for talking about being a new GP or GP2B, here's a place to tell us about your grandmother(s). And, if you will, about how she/they impacted your idea of the kind of GP you want to be, if at all

ETA: You may also be interested in this thread:

 

 

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My mother's parents lived next door to us.  My parents were very young and I was their first child, so my grandmother helped with me a lot.  My mother used to work, typing, at home, and I often spent the whole day with my grandmother.  She was the best!  She cooked wonderful food, and taught me how to make family recipes too.  My earliest memories are of her singing German children's songs to me as I rocked with her on her lap in their rocking chair.  She was very loving and had the greatest smile.  When I was older, she and my mother argued a lot about things they disagreed about regarding me.  Their parenting styles were very different.  My  mom signed me up for dance classes, piano lessons, etc. - all things I disliked- never caring that I would rather be outside, climbing in the trees or going fishing with my grandfather.  She made lots of frilly, ribbon-covered dresses for me to wear, while I preferred jeans and baseball caps.  But my grandparents were aware of my likes, and never forced me to do things that I really hated.  I remained very close to my grandmother 'til she died, always keeping in touch with phone calls and letters.  Unfortunately, that wasn't the case with my mom.  We had long years where we had no contact, but reconnected the last years of her life.  When her doctors tested her in later life, they discovered she was bi-polar.  I always knew she was unstable, emotionally, but this diagnosis explained a lot to me about why my grandparents had to be so closely involved in my childhood.  I'm grateful to have had their loving guidance in the times when my parents weren't able to cope with parenthood.

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My mother's parents lived next door to us.  My parents were very young and I was their first child, so my grandmother helped with me a lot.  My mother used to work, typing, at home, and I often spent the whole day with my grandmother.  She was the best!  She cooked wonderful food, and taught me how to make family recipes too.  My earliest memories are of her singing German children's songs to me as I rocked with her on her lap in their rocking chair.  She was very loving and had the greatest smile.  When I was older, she and my mother argued a lot about things they disagreed about regarding me.  Their parenting styles were very different.  My  mom signed me up for dance classes, piano lessons, etc. - all things I disliked- never caring that I would rather be outside, climbing in the trees or going fishing with my grandfather.  She made lots of frilly, ribbon-covered dresses for me to wear, while I preferred jeans and baseball caps.  But my grandparents were aware of my likes, and never forced me to do things that I really hated.  I remained very close to my grandmother 'til she died, always keeping in touch with phone calls and letters.  Unfortunately, that wasn't the case with my mom.  We had long years where we had no contact, but reconnected the last years of her life.  When her doctors tested her in later life, they discovered she was bi-polar.  I always knew she was unstable, emotionally, but this diagnosis explained a lot to me about why my grandparents had to be so closely involved in my childhood.  I'm grateful to have had their loving guidance in the times when my parents weren't able to cope with parenthood.

Thank you for this detailed description of your MGM (maternal grandmother), Leslie! Sounds like she was a very loving and interesting person.

As for your mom, I'm sorry that she was unknowingly bipolar. But I'm glad that you, eventually, found out the cause of her instability. I'm also sorry that you and she were estranged for so long but glad you were able to reconcile in the end. And I'm sorry, too, that she, apparently, had so much trouble understanding the kind of girl you were. But TG, your GPs did!

How beautiful that your MGPs were willing and able to be there for you in the ways you needed them! And to give you that "loving guidance" that you talk about here. Thanks for sharing this very moving post!

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My grandmother was a very special person to me. I miss her...She was an awesome cook and a very feisty ol' french woman at the height of 4'11" she loved to play cards which her and my mom would cheat at, she would loose anyways and blame my dad and grandfather for cheating. lol

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@Hope49 - Such a charming post!

However, we generally ask members not to post in threads that are more than 3 months old, unless they're the OP (original poster) or it's a "stickypost"/ thread pinned (thumb tack icon) to the front of the forum. For this reason, I'm going to lock this thread down now. I'll open a new one in this same forum and copy & paste your post to that.

Here's the new thread:

 

 

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