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YOUR turn! (Question of the Week #156)

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Wow!  The 156th Question of the Week! Can hardly believe we've reached this number! That means this Q of W feature has been going on for 3 years (give or take a few weeks, due to my going away on vacation, etc).

But I'm fresh out of ideas! So I'm going to turn this one over to you, as I did once before. Please feel free to ask posters any question you'd like (w/in GP.com guidelines, of course).

Obviously, that means we may end up w/ more than one question in here. Please feel free to respond to any one - or more. Just please be careful, when answering, to let us know whose question you're replying to.

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From the thread when we are talking about what would you do if your IL showed up, we talk alot about calling the police. So that made me wonder, how many poeple have already had to do this? In your experience with a CO, LC relative, IL, or family member have you Or someone else ever had to call in law enforcement for a dispute or issue? 

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Answering my own questions. The short answer is YES, not DH or myself, but DS school did have to call Law enforcement on MIL when she demanded to see GC at school, was denied and would not leave the premises. 

 

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Has anyone vacationed solo by choice? How was that experience?

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7 hours ago, LimberlostGirl said:

Has anyone vacationed solo by choice? How was that experience?

Yes, I've traveled alone often for most of my adult life. I'm now widowed, so going alone happens more often. If there is somewhere I want to go, I pack my bag and go...I pick my restaurant, hotel, activities, etc. DH was a "non traveler" when we met...his choice was to go or not go...but if it was important enough to me I'm going. He discovered he was missing some fun stuff so started coming along more often. 

I do as much planning in advance as possible especially with airport transportation & hotels. I carry some cash and at least two credit cards. I use a small crossbody purse which makes purse snatching really difficult. I also pack as light as possible. I'd rather do a load of laundry at the hotel than bring along too much stuff.

 

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Often, my husband and I travel alone for business, always have. Usually bits of sightseeing/fun adventure are included by the clients. We also travel a few times a year without our kids and grands and several times a year with family. We both enjoy traveling, so traveling alone or with others works identically.

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14 hours ago, LimberlostGirl said:

Has anyone vacationed solo by choice? How was that experience?

I haven't vacationed solo by choice, but Like JanelleK have had alot of solo business trips.  A few times it has worked out where I have a weekend in the middle, I can totally see the appeal of a solo vacation.  I did what I wanted to do in the day and explored the city, ate at the resturants I wanted even the girl places (that is what my boys call the crepe resturant that I like), and at night took long hot baths, and sipped wine curled up with a book. I have to admit, I there were some nice things, no one interupting me in the bathroom, no debate about where to go or what to eat if you are stresssed it is truely a good way to unwind.  But for me,even though it was great, anything more than a few days would have been to much and I would have wanted DH  to share it with. 

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Thank You Ladies for sharing your experiences. I admire your bravery. I booked a 4 night stay in a mountain tourist town for the second week of December. It is about a 90 min drive . I invited my sister but she can't go. DD and GS will be coming for the last two nights. This is a city where you walk or take a trolley which appeals to me but not DH. He has encouraged me to go solo and enjoy two days doing whatever I want. I am excited and a bit nervous. 

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When DD was a teen she worked at a donut shop in a neighboring town, FIL frequently went to the business to harasses her about seeing "GM. One day the local police chief came in for coffee and saw what was going on. DD frequently waited on the chief, he stepped in and asked if she was being bothered. She said yes but didn't tell it was her GF. Police escorted him out told him if he returned he would be arrested. Chief talked with her after explained it's my GF .  Police came and talked with DH and myself. She had not even told us about situation. In the end police suggested they keep an eye out for FIL and told DD to call if he showed up again.

I have never vacationed solo, have had to attend an educational meeting out of state for an overnight.  I dreaded the days as they approached. How will I get from airport to hotel by myself? How can I eat solo ?  What will I do when I'm not in meetings?  The experience was wonderful, I figured it out as I went along. I wished I had more  ed. meeting out of state

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2 hours ago, LimberlostGirl said:

Thank You Ladies for sharing your experiences. I admire your bravery. I booked a 4 night stay in a mountain tourist town for the second week of December. It is about a 90 min drive . I invited my sister but she can't go. DD and GS will be coming for the last two nights. This is a city where you walk or take a trolley which appeals to me but not DH. He has encouraged me to go solo and enjoy two days doing whatever I want. I am excited and a bit nervous. 

Enjoy!

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A little change in my first solo trip. ODIL works in this mountain tourist town and her company Christmas party is on my second day there and she has asked me to babysit for 3 and 5 yo grands so that she and DS can attend. They will be staying overnight in another hotel and we will all go to breakfast together next morning. My hotel has an indoor pool so grands and I will go swimming while DS/DIL attend the party. Still plenty of alone time for me since DD and GS will be arriving late on my third day.

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This may be the perfect way to learn to travel alone....

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Tobias41, DH CO step-daughter a few months ago and recently told me if she shows up here to lock the door and call police. I hope it never comes to that however.

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On 11/17/2016 at 7:56 PM, LimberlostGirl said:

Has anyone vacationed solo by choice? How was that experience?

Closest I've come is Wolf sent me to a hotel overnight for my birthday one year. I think I hadn't had a full night's sleep in over a year at that point.

It was GLORIOUS.

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19 minutes ago, ImpishMom said:

Closest I've come is Wolf sent me to a hotel overnight for my birthday one year. I think I hadn't had a full night's sleep in over a year at that point.

It was GLORIOUS.

This counts!

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On 2016-11-22 at 3:55 PM, Mame925 said:

This counts!

LOL! Yeah, when you're a sleep deprived Momma, a full night's sleep is a wonderful, wonderful thing.

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UPDATE: Unfortunately my solo trip has been canceled due to wildfires. Please remember the people living in the SE.

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3 hours ago, LimberlostGirl said:

UPDATE: Unfortunately my solo trip has been canceled due to wildfires. Please remember the people living in the SE.

So sorry, LLG, both b/c your trip had to be canceled and b/c of the fires and what they're doing to people. :( Hope you and yours stay safe.

@ All - My thoughts and prayers are w/ all those affected by the wildfires in the SE. Hope no one here  or their loved ones have been impacted by the ravages of those fire.

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2 hours ago, LimberlostGirl said:

UPDATE: Unfortunately my solo trip has been canceled due to wildfires. Please remember the people living in the SE.

We love Gatlinburg and Pigeon Forge TN, our hearts are breaking with all the destruction of the places we loved and just visited again last year! And we are praying for those families who live and are vacationing there.... sincerely hope all are safe... buildings can be rebuilt... but lives cannot be replaced!

@LimberlostGirl I am glad you are not there now! But hate you are missing your vacation. Hope your ODIL and family are safe? I think you said one works in the Mountians? I saw the burnt photo of the Gatlinburg Welcome center and just my heart caught.. Praying they are all well!

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Thank You Rose and Tobias for your concern. We are all safe, including ODIL/family.

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I've only travelled by myself to medical conferences, and I much prefer going with DH (we often go to the same ones). But when I go by myself, the sheer luxury of needing to please no one but me is fantastic.

I've never called law enforcement on family, unless you count my first husband (ex) who attacked me at my house and you can bet I called 911. I've certainly been ready and willing to do so at times. 

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We have one dog.........thinking of a second for company for the first.  Do you have two dogs? Would you just have one? 

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I have traveled by myself to business conferences. I loved being able to meet others that I normally may not have met if, I were with my husband vacationing. 

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On ‎12‎/‎28‎/‎2016 at 5:44 PM, Scorpio318 said:

We have one dog.........thinking of a second for company for the first.  Do you have two dogs? Would you just have one? 

We (DH & I) much prefer one dog but our girl has become a chronic licker since our old aussie shepard died two years ago. We really don't want a second dog but our girl is lonely and needy. We have been looking for a while for a dog that is a good fit for our family. Some dogs are fine being "only dogs" our girl isn't one however. It has been my experience that a dog who has another dog in the pack will become needy if the other dog is not around anymore. Our vet gave us two long term options......keep her on antidepressants or get another dog.

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Dogs are instinctively pack animals, so most do like canine company. I had German Shepherds for years along with beagle/terrier mix. Never had any issues. The shepherd had "work", so was content (his self appointed job was to mind the baby). The cat ruled them all.

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