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Do people really "fall" in love? (Question of the Month, February 2017)

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With Valentine's Day around the bend, my mind is on the specter of romantic love. So often we hear of people "falling in love." But some say we don't "fall" into love but rather "grow into" it. What's your take?

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My take is that an increasing number of Americans have an agenda that obstructs falling in love- They've biological clocks, time lines, wedding plans and societal pressures- Big rings, big days in big barns with many in attendance- They have to "find" someone to marry that fits that plan instead of "fall" in love- Some folks just click, period while others grow to love one another over time- Nonetheless, if they stay together there's some semblance of mutual respect and something in that relationship to treasure- Some folks marry only to encounter another human who would have been more suitable- But, yes, people do fall in love -- and people also grow to love each other, too- 

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DH & I simply "clicked"....I'd never experienced anything like that before or since.

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Like Mame, DH and I just clicked... We met, dated for two months and got engaged... A year later we were married, had bought a house, and got a dog. Seventeen years later... still going strong.

We are best friends, and act like siblings, most people think we dated from High School, but not the case.  We both think part of what happened is we were both ready for that next step - just needed to find the right person. So when we did... everything fell into place and all worked.

 

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I'm not sure "love" at first sight is what we felt, more an admiration of the person/values.  Whatever, our 43rd anniversary is coming soon.

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On 2/1/2017 at 1:19 AM, RoseRed135 said:

some say we don't "fall" into love but rather "grow into" it. What's your take?

Similarly to Forrest Gump - from that day on we were always together, my husband and me are like peas and carrots.

 

 

 

 

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On 2/2/2017 at 8:13 AM, SueSTx said:

I'm not sure "love" at first sight is what we felt, more an admiration of the person/values.  Whatever, our 43rd anniversary is coming soon.

Happy Anniversary in advance, Sue! :give_rose:

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Really enjoying these posts, ladies!

@ All - Anyone else want to weigh in?

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Dh and I met in high school and married our senior year. We formed a very strong bond right away. I have meet 2 other people where I have formed strong bonds (not romantic though!) with right away too. It's very strange. But even if I had these bonds right away, if he wasn't worthy of them they would not have lasted over 20 years like they have. I think the love we feel right away is different than the love we have years down the road. It's a love built on a foundation of memories and actions and time together. 

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When I met Wolf, I knew he was someone that was going to be important in my life. I didn't know if it was a romantic relationship, or best friends, but I knew he would be a big part of my future. At the time, I'd sworn off ever marrying, or having more children.

*hysterical laughter*

We were married 5 mths and 6 days after our first date. So, didn't take long to figure it out.

I would say that we definitely grew together in many ways. We helped each other to grow as people, and to heal some old wounds.

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So it seems a lot of couples "just click," to use Mame's word, from the beginning, even if feelings of love don't come till later?

Then again, Komorebi suggests there can be more than one way for romantic love to occur...

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