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Common newborn visitation

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I realize I'm late to this topic but it's something i feel very strongly about.  I think it's primarily up to new mom of who should visit and when...afterall she's the one that is physically and emotionally recovering and while she may be comfortable with her own mother present, she may not be comfortable with her MIL (or any other extended relative).  

I get that it can be a touchy subject - but there's no wrong or right way to do this.  if parents want some private time for days, weeks or months after baby comes, that's entirely up to them and it's usually not personal.  On the other hand if they want visitors right away, in hospital or at home, then that's also up to them.  

In any guess...being able to meet new baby either at hospital or right when parents get home is a privilege...not a right of grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.

In hindsight, after my DD was born (oldest child) I should have waited a few weeks before having any overnight visitors at all...possibly different after DS was born because obviously more help is needed when there are 2 children.  And for the love of all that is good - if you are fortunate enough to be invited to see baby right away and stay with new mom - ask what would be helpful for them and make yourself useful - take their cues - this time, at least IMO, is not about extended relatives but about new baby and mom and dad

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