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Mame925

Boomerang Generation

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I think there will be an increase going forward- Also the current natural disaster that's unfolding will displace thousands-

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IMO, establishing boundaries from the get-go is invaluable. Not just deciding whether or not the returning AC are going to pay rent, as mentioned in the article. Or setting a deadline, as also mentioned. Those, no doubt, are both very important. But so are issues such as dividing up chores and, if there are children, deciding who makes rules about what. (Generally, IMO, it's best if the parents/GPs house rules are observed, but the AC/CIL's rules for their children are respected. But sometimes, there are gray areas that need to be addressed, etc.)

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Also, I think that , sometimes, these decisions have to be revisited/changed after the AC (and family, if any) move back in and everyone sees how things are working out. But it's good, I believe, to begin w/ some sort of plan.

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I agree, Rose....The worst thing that can happen is the AC returns to the parent's home in their role as "son/daughter" of the house. If you are finished with college, you are an adult. I would expect you to act like one. If you bring kids with you, we'll be setting up rules we can all live with. 

DS remained home longer than either of his sisters...however, he is helpful, neat & organized by nature, picked up after himself, did his own laundry, cleaned his bathroom (its also guest bathroom), helped cook & shop, etc...he camped out with a cousin after his divorce, who said having him there was like living with a ghost...the perfect housemate. 

 

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I had two 'kids' living at home at the same time while attending college four days a week.  I told them I was pretending that thy lived in a dorm and expected them to do their own laundry, cooking and tend to themselves.  In return, I didn't give them a curfew, only asked them to let me know by 10:00 PM that they were spending the night with a friend to please let me know even if they only left a message on the answering machine.  Now will everyone having a cell phone, this rule would need revised IMHO.

So far, I haven't had a need for 'adults with children' moving back in. but I wouldn't rule out at some time me needing to live with someone.  I hope to have 30 years left in me like both my grandmothers.

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