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Adult son SO angry with me

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7 minutes ago, NannieE said:

In many ways I have an insider view because of the work I do, I see it from a different angle that most people.  When someone is cruel, toxic or just plain mean it is not really about the person it is being directed at, generally the problem is linked to the person who is being mean and is to do with something they are going through totally unrelated to their actions.

What does TO/VLC/CO mean.

TO-Time Out     VLC-Very Low Contact     CO- Cut Off

ETA: I agree, it is almost never about the person the abuse, toxicity, etc. is directed at, it's about the abuser. Sometimes it's hard to not take things personal though when it's a constant battle.

Edited by Cupcake55

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List of Acronyms

TO = Time Out

VLC = Very Low Contact

CO = Cut Off

There is a list on the index of each forum. We do have a lot of shortcuts here to save space! 

@Cupcake55 you got in just ahead of me! LOL

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52 minutes ago, Cupcake55 said:

 I agree... it's about the abuser. Sometimes it's hard to not take things personal though when it's a constant battle.

ITA.  Myself, I choose not to put up with abuse or abusers, because I don't have to.

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1 hour ago, Cupcake55 said:

TO-Time Out     VLC-Very Low Contact     CO- Cut Off

ETA: I agree, it is almost never about the person the abuse, toxicity, etc. is directed at, it's about the abuser. Sometimes it's hard to not take things personal though when it's a constant battle.

And the thing is, even if it's not directed at you, doesn't mean it doesn't wound.

Being shot by accident is still being shot.

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1 hour ago, ImpishMom said:

And the thing is, even if it's not directed at you, doesn't mean it doesn't wound.

Being shot by accident is still being shot.

Yes. I agree. It bothers me more when PIL's, well, all/any IL's are nasty to DH. I take it less personal when directed toward me because it's not MY family but it stings me FOR DH when they are jerks to him and twice as bad when it involves our kids.

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4 hours ago, NannieE said:

In many ways I have an insider view because of the work I do, I see it from a different angle that most people.  When someone is cruel, toxic or just plain mean it is not really about the person it is being directed at, generally the problem is linked to the person who is being mean and is to do with something they are going through totally unrelated to their actions.

Point well-taken. No doubt, this**** is often true.

What does TO/VLC/CO mean.

I see PPs have given you the definitions for the above. But for a comprehensive list of acronyms/abbreviations and Internet expression that you may come across on these boards, go here:

 

 

 

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