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RoseRed135

Christmas, etc. in the multigenerational household

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Ok, Thanksgiving is behind us, so here come the December holidays - Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa! If you're living in a multigenerational household, what does that generally mean for your celebration(s), if any? And/or what does it mean for your celebration(s), this year? Will you have several people, adults and children, crowding around your table? Or will everybody/most of them be dispersing to celebrate at other relativesl/ILs' homes? Or??

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Not our living arrangement but it does impact Christmas, with my SIL's family living at FIL's home. I honestly don't think FIL realizes how much of a mutually beneficial situation they've got going on now. It certainly benefits SIL's family, they needed a home. But FIL doesn't realize just how much he has come to depend on SIL living there. Almost detrimentally now, as he really needs an assisted living facility to meet his needs, but SIL is doing the bulk of it. He did get an eye opening this year though. Each year since MIL passed away, SIL and I have provided holiday meals. FIL brings a drink for himself and take home containers, that has been his contribution to the dinner. So this year, with everything that has happened, he went with SIL to purchase half of the supplies for Christmas dinner ( this happened at Thanksgiving too).  I purchase and make 1/2 to 3/4 of the meal and SIL is responsible for the rest. FIL was over the top astounded at how much they spent on food for the meal. SIL looked at him and said 'Dad you realize that BEG buys the other half and she has more to buy! That's just our share!"  He couldn't believe how much it cost to put that meal that he eats every year on the table. I think if nothing else he *may* actually realize how much work goes into that meal that he drops in for then disappears lol. 

Since nearly everyone is an adult, there isn't much of the shopping for Christmas or 'little kid' Christmas celebration type stuff that goes on with DH's side of the family. Some of the grands won't even be there. So it's not what it would have been 15 years ago in the same situation. I can only imagine what it would have been like if MIL was still alive and they had three generations there. Honestly, I suspect that there might have been some 'fairness' issues one direction or the other with the kids and gifting. Whether she overcompensated with MY kids because she was with the others all the time or snuck extra gifts to the other grands because they lived with her lol, I'm not sure what direction that would have gone. But I can see it being dicey. 

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Where did my measuring spoons go? "I don't know .."  Where's the clear coffee mugs?  "I don't know .."  Would they perhaps be with one of my good spoons that got used to distribute the potting soil? "I don't know .."  :)

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