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If you're going to be alone...

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 ... on Christmas (or found yourself alone for Hanukkah), etc., and maybe lonely, sending you lots of (((hugs!)))

Meanwhile, I hope you're able to find some ways to enjoy yourself - perhaps things you couldn't do if you were w/ other people. I hope, for example, and as cliche as it may sound, you get to "curl up w/ a good book" and read for hours, if that's your pleasure. Or have a "movie marathon" and watch DVDs for hours, whether old favorites or new. Or switch off between books & movies, if you wish. And through it all, play any music you love - doesn't "have to" be holiday-related. Or just enjoy the quiet and, perhaps, catch up on sleep (some people, apparently, love being alone on the actual holiday for these very reasons).

If you're simply alone b/c of distance, I hope you get to videochat or FT, etc. w/ your far away loved ones on the Day or close to it. Or if you're seeing family on an alternate day after the actual holiday, I hope you make good use of having the extra time to prepare.Or hey, if you saw them just before the holiday, I hope you're enjoying the gifts you received. If none of these are the case, :sad: I hope you can get in touch w/ other family and/or friends. Or that you have plans w/ other family/friends to look forward to at some point during the season.

Or if you'd like to get out of the house, say, on Xmas day, I hope you get to enjoy a nice, long, leisurely walk. Or maybe do some volunteering if that idea appeals to you (some posters, over the years, have said it fills the void; others, not so much). If you're traveling alone, I hope you meet some friendly fellow voyageurs and/or get to bask in the sun, revel in skiing or whatever your pleasure is. :)

Regardless, even if you still have some unhappy moments or can't find anything to truly enjoy, please know that many member here are supportive of you and  wish you peace. :give_rose:

Edited by RoseRed135
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Even when the kids were little, our main celebration and family gift exchange was on Christmas Eve/afternoon.  Hubby had to go each and every morning to do farm chores and that "worked" for us.  Funny thing is, the kids tell us that they have continued that tradition on in their own homes so we usually pick the weekend before to do our extended gift exchange.  It works for us.

That leaves us home alone on "the" holiday...so what?  We've already celebrated.  We just make a casual day of it.  Grill a steak, bake a potate had have a favorite dessert the kids don't like.  Then we make an early night of it.  That also works for us.

Other than the kids and grands, we have no FOO members to celebrate with.  Hubby's parents are both gone and mine live between 500 and 700 or more miles away and have extended family of their own to celebrate with.  So Christmas isn't a holiday we have ever spent together for the last nearly 50 years unless my parents came to us and then we did what we always did and they could go back home to spend "the" day with another of my siblings and their family.

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