Posted 25 July 2012 - 11:15 AM
I recently started looking into all the options for my 2 yr old GD. I have been raising her for about a year. From what I understand, I can seek legal custody, legal guardianship, or adoption. I don't think we're ready to think about adoption yet, as I guess I'm holding out some hope that my DD will get herself together one day and be in a position to raise my GD. I don't really understand the differences in custody and guardianship. I know I need to do something soon. I am afraid of making my daughter mad, and I do things I don't want to do (like giving my DD money or letting her wash her clothes at my house), because I'm afraid she'll come take her away and there's nothing I can do to stop her. I also want to be able to provide medical insurance and make decisions on my GD behalf. She needs to see a pulmonologist, but they won't let me bring her without a legal document saying I'm her guardian. Also, she needs minor surgery (trigger thumb), and they say her mother has to be there. I have talked to several attorneys. My DD is willing to sign custody over, so I don't understand why they want to charge anywhere from $1000 to $5000. I wish there was a way to file the paperwork myself, but I haven't found one. If I get DSS involved and prove my DD unfit, it probably wouldn't cost me anything. I don't know if I'm ready to do that, but I have to do something soon for my GD sake and for my peace of mind. I have thought about the possibility of something happening to me and what would happen to my GD as well. Scary thought, and that probably needs to be addressed with the custody issue. I'll be 42 this year, but you never know what might happen. We are not promised tomorrow.