not dealing with other grandparents well
Posted 24 June 2012 - 05:31 PM
Posted 25 June 2012 - 09:58 AM
Posted 26 June 2012 - 08:40 AM
I'm not sure, either, how you know the other GPs (grandparents) are getting to enjoy "weekly visits." Is someone telling you this? If so and you find it hurtful, you might want to change the subject when they begin. You'd be surprised, though, how many GPs "fill in the blanks" with their own imagination, especially when they live at a distance and don't really "see' what's going on. So please don't take offense if I say that I hope that's not what you're doing - and that *if so,* please stop - you're only hurting yourself.
Regardless, I think that 123's advice is the way to go. I'd also add that I hope you have other interesting aspects to your life - friends, hobbies, etc. and that everything doesn't depend on your contact with family. If you don't, please think about pursuing a new hobby/interest now. Then again, if you have a favorite hobby you can, somehow, share with your GC (grandchildren), even from a distance or on occasional visits, please do. (If you garden, for example, always bring something from your garden. If you're into photography, bring some of your most interesting photos to show them or, with their parents' permission, take lots of photos of them.) Even if they're not that into it, right now, they will remember. As 123 suggests, the goal is to make your visits/contact with the GC memorable and fun.
Also, I'm wondering if you tend to wait for the parents to invite you to their home or if you ever ask them to come to your. You might be able to increase the amount of time you see them and the GC by inviting them to your home, now and then. If they decline, of course, I trust you know enough not to push. But now I'll shut up so you can go focus on some ideas for being that "fun grand dad" that 123 talked about! Though chances are, you're doing that, already! Best of luck and please let us know how it goes!
Posted 12 November 2012 - 03:39 PM
Posted 18 November 2012 - 05:30 AM