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OMG-------->DILLY IS PREGO<-------------

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I just saw that and thought it deserved a thread of it's very own. Congrats, Dilly that is so great !!! I wanted more after YDS, but it was not to be. Now tell us HOW are you going to do 6 kids ? Hugs and more Hugs

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The good Lard definately DOES have a sence of humor... Congratulations

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That is really exciting! Congratulations Dilly!

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Wow! FBM, I have a feeling she's going to do great with 6 kids. At least, she'll have a lot of help. I betcha those 2 girls are going to love being big sister and helping to care for a baby. Congratuations, Dilly! I will be excited when second son and his new wife has a baby. I just know she will be an awesome mother and I know he'll be a great daddy! (but I do hope they'll wait a while)

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Congrats Dilly!

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Oh Dilly, bless your heart (in the sincere way). Congratulations on your new addition. God does have a sense of humour but you know what, He also has blessed you and your family. Here's to a wonderful 9 months with no complications and to a new bundle of joy at the end!! P.S. I bet those little Jills are going to be such great big sisters and little Jacks great big brothers! :)

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Thanks- YES- I'm pregnant- second time in my life- and we'll have 6 children. YES God is laughing! YES you should use protection- even if you already have an appointment for Jack to be snipped after the girls adoption is finalized. Somehow sperm know nothing of an impending snip appointment! Jack and I are thrilled- my parents and sibs are over the moon (ahhh the baby has another baby). I've had amnio and baby Jilline is perfect - she's 19 weeks along. As soon as I look pregnant we'll tell the children- couple more weeks if we're lucky. Marabelle is so excited (a bit because she'll soon work for us 5 days a week and my parents will get someone else- my Dad annoys the salt out of her sometimes) but mostly because she loves us and our children. We renovated our home 20 years ago- we can't squeeze any more rooms from the space- we're not moving- we'll have a boys room and a girls room (like we currently have) and a play room- Jilline will have a crib in my office until she's old enough to room with the other sweet Jills. My new car has 9 seat belts and that will have to work- when Jack drives/rides with my parents we'll have to rent a van. Jack's contracting for additional seat belts for his various *big boy toys* (amazing what can be done). I'm still in shock- last summer I was raising triplet boys in elementary school- within a year we'll have added 3 girls- as someone said yesterday *holy schneikies* BE CAREFUL (use protection) when you wrestle naked!

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Congrats Dilly!

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BTW Dilly, I know this is personal and I'm just being nosy, so if you don't want to answer I understand, but are the Little Jacks identical or fraternal triplets? I know its rare for triplets or more to be identical but hey it does happen.

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How exciting Dilly! Isn't it amazing that love grows with each child. Hope all goes well with this pregancy. You will be such a buzy lady!

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Just trying to think....how many loads of laundry a day would it take to keep up with 6 children? Just baths alone would be one load of towels in a super size washer/dryer. Dilly, you have many very exciting years ahead of you. This is where footballdad would say "gee,I have got to get to work" !!!

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wow congrats Dilly. 3 girls, 3 boys-perfect!! I hope this helps the jills know how perfectly they fit into their new family. Thank goodness the older kids are all in school too!! I wonder if this pregnancy will be physically easier having one vs 3 in there...hope so!!

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Oh, wow! Congratulations!

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Congratulations Dilly and your entire-- growing!!!!!--- family!!!

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Congrats Dilly!!

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We made a quick trip to Indiana yesterday after church- it was wonderful- we took the boys and my parents. The girls had fun with their Grandmother (my Aunt) and were elated to play dolls without the boys! The boys received *Giants* sleepers as a surprise for the ride home- they slept cozy in car/plane/car and were happy this morning. OK- I know we shouldn't keep them up on a school night- we all had a great time. Nobody need tell me this is a *first world problem* because all of my problems are just that- we are all so lucky to live in America. I have a question about MEME2008 and Weesheart75 posts. Now I am serious as a heart attack when I ask- I've wondered this for years and have nobody to ask. Really-would I ask my Mom? NO- NO- NO! We often read in *women's magazines* and books about men and women's different/diminishing sex drives. We are told (or it's implied) we women are the problem when men *look elsewhere* and have an affair. Blablabla- OK here's the question-----Why do I have just as much interest in Jack as ever? Why do we *wrestle naked* as often as we can? I still find Jack incredibly sexy and honestly can't get enough of him at 43. SO, what happens sometimes to upend those feelings- everybody must feel that way in the beginning? So why is *wrestling naked* not a priority?

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Wow Dilly, you really went broad spectrum here LOL! Ok, here's a good try of answering your question(s). First physically (of why "wrestling nekid" isn't made a priority)...most men start to lose testosterone around the age of 40+. Most women start their "peak" around 30-35+. Physical health can affect both genders. High blood pressure, being out of shape, heart problems, depression, medications taken for these ailments can also be a factor plus so many more things not mentioned here. There may just not be any "interest" or plain ole just being incapable because of these things. Emotionally...it sounds as if you and Jack do a wonderful job of making the other more important than your own selves. When one tends to be more selfish and unthoughtful of the other, then it robs the one who gives the most, of thoughtful actions/feelings to the other. They don't feel important enough so why give the most vulnerable, intimate part of yourself to someone who doesn't appreciate it?! One has resentment, so puts up a wall, the other cannot break the wall down without giving of themselves freely and unselfishly, therefore puts up a wall of their own, which leads to resentment on the first persons part also...etc., etc. You get the point. Life gets in the way and intimacy is no longer a priority because there is nothing left to give, then affects on the physical level. Most women need to feel loved (outside of sex) before intimacy can happen, most men feel that level of intimacy is accomplished by/during sex. Then you have some who just enjoy the physical act but never really experience the intimacy that should go along with it, so it ends up being the "no strings attached" kind. Spiritual level....this is where it gets really controversial and I know that some may not agree, but for those who do believe in God (and how He intended intimacy to be between two people) probably have some sense of what I'm talking about. This is where the "two become one" comes into play. And this probably explains why you and Jack are still/and more so "into" each other even after all of these years. When "wrestling nekid" (btw I love that term) happens, you connect on a physical, emotional, and spiritual level. You allow yourself and your partner the kind of pleasure and vulnerability that no one else ever gets to witness. The more that you can be free to do that with your spouse the "closer" you become with each other. The closer you WANT to be with each other. It doesn't become just a priority anymore, but something that both of you NEED from and WANT to give to each other. You become "spiritually tied" to each other. You give of yourself unselfishly and your partner is more willing to give unselfishly also. I know this is very analytical but I hope it helps answer your question! :)

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In my opinion it is all about getting into the right "role" in the marriage...and when you are in the wrong "role" then....wrestling...doesn't appeal as much. For example, Faramir has recently been fighting a really nasty cold. So I've been making soup and tea and keeping him in bed with books and snuggles and nyquil. I am in a nurturing role. It wouldn't occur to me to 'wrestle' with someone I'm feeling nurturing towards, because I currently have my 'nurse' hat on. When we've been out hiking all day and come home to slow-cooker soup and the puppy falls asleep on the floor at our feet.....or when we have friends over all night and the house is ringing with laughter and the wine is flowing....then I am in my Wife/Partner/Lover role and of COURSE I want to get to the wrestling part of the day. I think people get "stuck" in one of the "wrong" roles for wrestling and never quite snap out of it...the wife that feels like she's "the help" and so doesn't feel sexy because she's been cleaning all day....or the Dutiful Mother who forgets that she's also a wife...or the husband who is always a child who needs his wife to fetch and carry and pick up and organize for him...how do you feel wife/partner/lover with someone like that?

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Congrats to you...and jack and the triplets and the girls!

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Congratulations!!! Your newest LO is very lucky to be coming into a family full of love.

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Congratulations, Dilly! Wrestle now, because in a few months, you'll probably want to be a bit more sedate.

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"The desire for sex is an important motivator for the formation and maintenance of intimate relationships in both men and women, and a lack or loss of sexual desire can have an adverse impact on a relationship. Unresolved relationship problems, such as a lack or loss of sexual desire for the partner, may cause a decrease in sexual desire, which may itself cause problems in the relationship. Infidelity may be an indication of a general desire for sex, though not with the primary partner. Problems can arise from the loss of sexual desire in general or for the partner or a lack of connection with the partner, or poor communication of sexual needs and preferences. Psychological factors can reduce the desire for sex. These factors can include lack of privacy and/or intimacy, stress or fatigue, distraction or depression. Environmental stress, such as prolonged exposure to elevated sound levels or bright light, can also affect libido. Other causes include experience of sexual abuse, assault, trauma, or neglect, body image issues and sexual performance anxiety. Some people have suggested that contraception may influence the desire for sex by women, by decreasing the anxiety level from an unexpected pregnancy. Physical factors that can affect libido include: endocrine issues such as hypothyroidism, levels of available testosterone in the bloodstream of both women and men, the effect of certain prescription medications (for example flutamide), various lifestyle factors and the attractiveness and biological fitness of one's partner. Inborn lack of sexual desire, often observed in asexual people, can also be considered a physical factor. Hyperprolactinaemia or any major disease such as cancer, diabetes or depression can reduce sexual desire in men. Being very underweight or malnourished can cause a low libido due to disruptions in normal hormonal levels. There is also evidence to support that specific foods have an effect on libido. Anemia is particularly a cause of lack of libido in women due to the loss of iron during the period Smoking, alcohol abuse and drug abuse may also cause disruptions in the hormonal balances and therefore leads to a decreased libido. However, specialists suggest that several lifestyle changes such as drinking milk, exercising, quitting smoking, lower consumption of alcohol or using prescription drugs may help increase one's sexual desire. Moreover, learning stress management techniques can be helpful for individuals who experience libido impairment due to a stressful life. Aphrodisiacs are known to increase individuals' libido due to either their chemical composition or their consistency. Reduced libido is also often iatrogenic and can be caused by many medications, such as hormonal contraception, SSRIs and other antidepressants, antipsychotics, opioids and beta blockers. In some cases iatrogenic impotence or other sexual dysfunction can be permanent, as in post-SSRI sexual dysfunction (PSSD). Testosterone is one of the hormones controlling libido in human beings. Emerging research is showing that hormonal contraception methods like "the pill" (which rely on estrogen and progesterone together) are causing low libido in females by elevating levels of sex hormone binding globulin (SHBG). SHBG binds to sex hormones, including testosterone, rendering them unavailable. Research is showing that even after ending a hormonal contraceptive method, SHBG levels remain elevated and no reliable data exists to predict when this phenomenon will diminish. Some question whether "the pill" and other hormonal methods (Depo-Provera, Norplant, etc.) have permanently altered gene expression by epigenetic mechanisms. A woman's desire for sex is correlated to her menstrual cycle, with many women experiencing a heightened sexual desire in the several days immediately before ovulation. This cycle has been associated with changes in a woman's testosterone levels during the menstrual cycle. According to Gabrielle Lichterman, testosterone levels have a direct impact on a woman's interest in sex. According to her, testosterone levels rise gradually from about the 24th day of a woman's menstrual cycle until ovulation on about the 14th day of the next cycle, and during this period the woman's desire for sex increase consistently. The 13th day is generally the day with the highest testosterone levels. In the week following ovulation, the testosterone level is the lowest and as a result women will experience less interest in sex. Also, during the week following ovulation, progesterone levels increase, resulting in a woman experiencing difficulty achieving orgasm. Although the last days of the menstrual cycle are marked by a constant testosterone level, women's libido may boost as a result.

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Thanks Wees and Eowyn- LOL Wees- We were embarrassed that the lil Jack saw us *wrestling naked* but we love the expression. A few weeks ago Eowyn asked a question for us all to think about- this is the same- I find this question at the very basis of long term marriage. Quoting myself and adding facts: "I've wondered this for years and have nobody to ask. Really-would I ask my Mom or sisters and brothers or friends? NO- NO- NO! We often read in *women's magazines* and books about men and women's different sex drives- we are told (or it's implied) we women are the problem when men *look elsewhere* and have an affair. Blablabla- my question- why do I have just as much interest in Jack as ever? Why do we *wrestle naked* as often as we possibly can? I still find Jack incredibly sexy and honestly can't get enough of him at even 43 and pregnant. Jack feels the same about me- even if he's 43 and I'm getting a fat waist! What happens sometimes to upend those feelings- everybody must feel that way in the beginning? We find ways to satisfy each other even if exhausted (last night) or when I'm too many weeks pregnant or whatever. So why is *wrestling naked* not a priority for everybody- it's so wonderful- I LOVE *wrestling naked* and I'm elated Jack agrees."

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And sometimes what seems like the lack of interest is simply the fact that one or both are just too tired from physical labor all day long to be interested. When we were still farming, hubby would leave the house about 6:00 each morning and probably be 9:00 at night before he got back to the house. A meal, a shower and sleep was all that was on his mind for the three months of summer at least. Some days, he didn't even see the kids unless there was something we could do to "help" during the day. And, I think after many years of the same...it begins to seem normal.

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3-girls, 3-boys -- the perfect combo for a Brady Bunch photo. You looking down at hubby, hubby looking up at you. Boys on the right, girls on the left. (I got one as a Christmas card several years ago. It was too cute!) Congratulations!

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