The Caregiver's Thanksgiving
Posted 01 November 2012 - 12:16 PM
Please answer any or all of my questions below. Your reply can be long or short and please feel free to add any other thoughts on the topic!
Posted 02 November 2012 - 01:55 AM
Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:19 AM
I hope you and DD are both able to put aside the current issues between you for Thanksgiving and the wedding. Easier-said-than-done, I know. Clearly, it's normal for your mom to invite both of you but I wish you all the strength and courage you need to deal with DD's presence. I'm glad you're not planning to say anything to her about the child support. And I hope nobody brings up the custody case, either. I hope the only "drama" will be that of seeing the bride and groom exchange their vows, etc. Keep us posted!
Posted 02 November 2012 - 09:57 PM
Posted 03 November 2012 - 05:40 AM
It's sad that neither DS or his X will be there with the kids for T-Day. But, I suppose, given their erratic visitation patterns, maybe it's for the best...
Posted 09 November 2012 - 01:32 AM
Posted 09 November 2012 - 03:21 AM
Posted 09 November 2012 - 12:41 PM
I'm glad that these holidays seem to be good for you, too. And that you seem to be looking forward to meeting your mom's DF (dear fiance). I just hope your GDs will be with you on T'giving and that you'll get to enjoy it together. In fact, I hope you have much to be thankful for, at that time. But I doubt the case will be settled by then, knowing how these court cases can drag out.
Posted 09 November 2012 - 11:11 PM
I usually hate dragging out but this could be a good thing. The sherriff's office still hasn't delivered the petition papers yet. Maybe they are going to find the fathers first. I don't know. I am more at peace today. Thanks for both of your prayers. The girls will be at my mother's house even if their mother gets them by then ( which is doubtful) My daughter will be there even though she is going to try to get the kids. She can be ugly talking or texting to me and then nice the next day. She is coming here to my house in a few minutes and eat supper and visit with the kids. She called and asked if she could come. She is going to spend time tomorrow with the girls with my husband( her daddy). It is so stange. She was angry with us this week because she is suppose to be paying child support. She got mad and says she is not going to pay it. Now she seems happy. Her mood swings like this. I don't usually even bring the problems up and then there will be peaceful moments with her.
Posted 10 November 2012 - 12:05 AM
Cobaltblue - I hate it for you that things are so 'bouncy' - I know it's terrible not to know from one day to the next how things will be.
Posted 10 November 2012 - 03:21 AM
Not knowing what is going to happen is something that has always bothered me in any situation in life, so this is really hard for me. What happens with the kids is really important. I wil just have to be patient and trust that God is going to take care of my dear GC. My daughter did come tonight. It was as though nothing happened this week. She was in a great mood. She showed me how to do something on my phone. She spent time with the kids. Watched a Barney and Carebear movie with them, helped them with a bath, and washed their hair. She stayed two hours. Then in a day or so she will be texting ugly things to me if she gets upset about anything. She sounds like a manic depressive person or something. She has mood swings. I would like to have her psychologically tested before there is a decision about getting custody. (If we do go to court.) I don't know if the lawyer and the judge will go along with this or not.
Posted 16 November 2012 - 11:02 PM
Your DD's "mood swings" do sound like the possible sign of a disorder. I wish she would get tested, for her own sake, as well as that of the girls. But also, of course, b/c chances are, it would help your case. Whether the judge will insist on it or not, no doubt, is anybody's guess.
Posted 16 November 2012 - 11:04 PM
Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:14 AM
Posted 18 November 2012 - 07:55 AM
Anyhow, it's great that she's lived to 96, so far, and is, I imagine, a GGM (great-grandmother)! And that your GC have a GGM! Is she your mom or DH's?
Meanwhile, Happy Birthday in advance!
Posted 18 November 2012 - 04:28 PM
Posted 18 November 2012 - 08:57 PM
I hope you have a great Thanksgiving with GGG Grandmother. My grandfather lived a few months past 100. We had a 100 years birthday party for him.
Posted 19 November 2012 - 02:36 AM
@Cobalt - How beautiful that you were able to celebrate your father's 100th b-day with him! I'm sorry that he passed a few months later, but, in a way, I know that makes that last celebration more precious.
Posted 20 November 2012 - 11:19 PM