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      Anonymous posting is back   01/21/16

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What's considered a personal attack?

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When a member substitutes abusive remarks for evidence when attacking another member's claim. This line of "reasoning" is fallacious because the attack is directed at the member making the claim and not the claim itself.

  • Accusations about personal behavior that lack evidence.
  • Racial, sexist, homophobic, ageist, religious, political, ethnic, sexual, or other epithets (such as against people with disabilities) directed against another member. Disagreement over what constitutes a religion, race, sexual orientation, or ethnicity is not a legitimate excuse.
  • Linking to external attacks, harassment, or other material, for the purpose of attacking another member.
  • Threats, including, but not limited to:

• Threats of legal action

• Threats of violence

• Threats to give out personal details about a member.


Additionally, using phrases such as “seem” and “sounds like” still constitutes as an attack. For example, “User9382649836 seems selfish about her grandkids.”

"Sara said she didn’t give her grandkids candy. But she is untrustworthy, so she must have given them candy.”

"Ashley says that her MIL is an idiot, but from her posts she sounds like an idiot herself, so I don’t believe her.”


If you feel as if another member has made personal attacks toward you or another user, please report it and the mods will handle it accordingly. 

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maybe this should be posted in MILA. 


Thanks for spelling it out for us.

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Very helpful.  Thank you for posting this!

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Thank you for this, GPstaff!


@ FBM and all - These same guidelines are now also posted in the FAQ section above the group Index.


ETA: And I see that Sue copied it to MILA. Thanks Sue!

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